Long distance relationship is quite hard especially to those couples who are on their starting line. Many people would disagree with LDR, for sometimes they don't work. And many obstacle will ruin your relationship. So here I am, sharing some tips which I have collected from some research on how to make your LDR alive and how to make it work.
Prioritize talking with each other but don't talk too much. Somehow, it really feels good when you miss each other too. It is fine if you prioritize each other but don't be too much, you have your own life too. But always make sure to find time to talk with your partner.
Set goals. It feels good sharing each others dreams and feels better when you both start achieving each goals together.
Be honest with your partner. When you are in a LDR, it is easy to hide something from your partner, yet it is unhealthy for your relationship. Since both of you are far from each other, it is better to be more honest with each other.
Listen to each other. This is one of the most important to do list. Always be the shoulder to lean on to your love ones, especially when they are on their darkest side. Even if you are LDR, make him/her feel that you are always there through listening to all of his/her words.
Be more creative with your topics. Find new things to talk about. Not just, "hey how are you?" And then it will end up by "i'm fine" and "okay." Try something new, not just asking about how did their day went on. Ask about news or about the movie you have watched or about your new professor or how it irritates you when your friends teased you or whatsoever.
Trust. Without this, a simple problem might end your relationship. It is hard to commit in a LDR, since both of you don't meet always, and you only talk through social media or video chats. Sometimes you'll be afraid for what ifs that would definitely cross your mind. Like "what if someone courts her?", "what if someone likes him?", "what if someone would take him/her away from me?". Jealousy is normal but don't be too much paranoid. Trust your partner. But make it sure that he is sincerely in love with you. You know him/her better.
Make him/her heart flutters. Cheesy lines might be too old fashioned but it really makes them feel the butterflies on their stomach or make their heart beats badump badump. Cheesy lines may wash away your partners sadness or tiredness. Compliment him/her, randomly tell him/her how much you love him/her.
Always make him/her feel special. Actions speak louder than words. Though it is through LDR, you can use sentences to make him/her feel special. Through delivery of gifts or make an effort like even if you're too busy you would give time to talk with him/her before sleeping.
There may be other opinions or advices and I am willing to read yours in the comment box. Share some of your LDR experiences with me!!!
I currently am in an LDR for a almost a year now. Haha it was uncomfortable and off at first since we were probably "inseparable" when we were together for the longest time of our relationship.
For some reasons, being in an LDR, is quite good. I mean, you learn to grow independently. It takes trust to learn that LDR is not a hindrance for a good and lasting relationship. It's a challenge for most relationship nowadays since social media advertises relationships to be different. Nonetheless, it will always depend on both parties on how they will handle the LDR situation.
"love always wins" ❤️