Training my daughter to be independent and responsible

Blog 33
Date: March 5,2022
Time:3:34pm

Training your child to be independent in the early stage of their life makes them being responsible when they grow up.

I was only 18 when I had my 1st born. It was not easy, especially since I was raising her alone. When my daughter turns 2 she already started to know how hard our life was. While I was working as a secretary of a lending company I had to take her with me to work because I was kept on telling you guys that my dad is a drunkard. I have to take care of my daughter while working. I am just glad that my daughter doesn't bother me if I am doing something for work. If she needs food she will ask for it and she will eat by herself. I don't have a hard time feeding her because she handles it on her own.

When she was already in her pre-school years I already started working at the computer shop. I just sent her to school and she just go home with her friends. Since their school is just a walking distance from where I work, they will just walk going back to the cafe. She chooses to eat her lunch at the computer shop. Since I am working, she buys her own food at the carenderia located across from the place where I work. I trust her that she can manage to cross the street on her own. We usually don't eat together, she eats alone while I am still working.

When we were at home I train her to manage her things. So whenever she needs it she knows where she put it. She doesn't have to bother me to look for it. So basically she is not the kind of kid that will keep saying Ma(mom) where is my this and that?

However, about her studies, she had her study time. She will do her assignments first before she can play with her playmates. Some of my customers were amazed at how I trained my daughter to be independent. They told me that glad my daughter is not addicted to computer games. I told them that my daughter knows that she can't use the computer on school days. She obeys my rules because she knows that a No is a No. She doesn't even borrow my phone to play games. Well, I don't install games on my phone before. She had her 1st cellphone, tablet, and iPod when she was 9 years old but she can only use them on weekends. She had her second tablet when she graduated from elementary. Well, you might wonder she has lots of gadgets, thanks to my sponsors (my ex foreigners). Even if she has those gadgets she cannot bring them to school. I was the one who use her first tablet (too bad I accidentally break it) and I was also the one who uses her iPod touch. She only got the chance to use her iPod touch and her tablet when she was already 14 years old. Her Papa Nick didn't want her to use gadgets before because it can destruct her studies.

Not only training her to be independent but I also train her to save and manage her own money. She was able to buy our Pldt home wifi with her own money. She wanted to have our own wifi at home for her modular class.

She also started earning in noisecash but she just have to stop noising after the super typhoon hits our place. Hopefully, our electricity will be fully restored all over Bohol especially our place so she can start noising again.

For now, my daughter is the one who takes care of her little brother while she's doing her modules. She's the one who takes care of her little brother when her brother was still 2 months old. I have to go back to work at that time and I don't have any choice but to trust my daughter that she is responsible enough to take care of her younger brother. Funny how she told me that, it's not really easy to take care of a baby. She said she will do her best for her studies. I hope by that experience in life she will learn to be more responsible, especially in her actions. She's a teenager now and I know crushes are there but of course, she knows her limits. She already knows how hard our life was. I always remind her that love can wait and if she doesn't want to experience the tough life, she has to be responsible for her actions. I was not a good example to her. I kept telling her, never ever follow what I did. I was just trying to give a better life before but I always failed because of my wrong and impulsive decisions in life.

Ending thoughts

I am always been proud to be the mom of Zeyn Ashley. And I am been grateful that gave me the chance to be a mom. I made the right decision not to abort her. How about you goal diggers? What are your ways of training your kids to be independent and responsible? Feel free to write your thoughts and ideas down there.

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