Communication is really important

Blog 40
Date :March 16,2022 
Time :4:45pm

We all know that communication is very important in every kind of relationship. Lack of communication is one of the reasons why relationships tear apart.

My husband and I don't really have that good communication. It's not that I don't want to talk to him but just like what I've said in my previous article, sometimes talking to him is useless. I always find it hard to have a good conversation with him because if I start saying something, he will always assume that I am trying to start a fight whereas I just really wanted us to talk about whatever problems we have.

The other night around 7 pm my husband told me that he will go to his workmate's house because they will have something to talk about work. Of course, it was okay with me since I knew his workmate and it was about work until my husband was gone for 2 hours. My mind started to think negative thoughts. I was thinking what if he is cheating on me. What if he is meeting a girl and they spend time together? I really had to convince myself that what I was thinking is wrong. But can't control what I feel. I started crying. I feel pity for myself. Maybe he doesn't love me anymore. He wants someone who is sexy and attractive. I was too busy making living and I forgot to take care of myself. I don't care about my looks anymore. I can't afford to buy my skincare anymore. I don't have that pinkish glowing skin anymore. I gain weight and had no time to do some exercise. I told myself I don't deserve to be treated this way. I continue crying until I decided to make myself calm. Honestly, living here in a place where our phone is useless because we don't have a stable signal here. It would be easier for me to ask my husband if we just have a phone signal here. Past 10 pm he is not yet home, my mind was totally convinced that my husband is cheating on me. 10:30 pm when he arrived. We were calling me because I locked our main door. It took a while before I had the courage to answer him back. When he gets in I told him why he came home late, he said 'he and his workmates go to the wake of his workmates' relatives for a bit. Still not yet convinced of his answer, I ask him about his whereabouts, why he have to meet his workmates at night time? why not talk about it tomorrow morning? He explained to me why and then he ask me if I doubted him. I said not really it's just I was wondering. Of course, he already notices the way I interrogate him. I confess to him that I was crying because I was thinking that he was cheating on me. He just laugh at me. He told me that it won't happen. He loves that much and he doesn't want to do stupid things like cheating. He totally understands why I think and feels that way because of how he treats me the past few days. He was being cold to me. It's like he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I feel at ease with what he said.

However, He also confess to me that he also doubted me a week ago. He started to feel that way because of how I treated him also. I was being cold to him. Maybe I was just tired from work and almost every night I have to spend time on my phone trying to write an article. We didn't have time to cuddle and have some conversation before sleeping. He started to take and fetch me from work. Honestly, I didn't think that he started doubting me and spying on me. I was happy to see him when he will fetch me from work. While talking about how he doubted me, I was teasing him, I told him if he's afraid to lose me, to lose his ugly and fat wife LOL. He was shy to agree. He said it was so shameful to admit because his doubts and fears were all wrong.

I was happy that we ended our conversation that night with happy thoughts. We just laugh at our accusations. I was happy also that I can slowly tell him whatever I feel. I also told him that I am really trying my best to trust him fully. He knows it's really hard for me to trust him again. He admit that it was all his fault.

Ending thoughts

We might have doubts about each other but at the end of the day, we choose to open up and talk about it. All I hope and pray is that we will continue to have that kind of communication whenever we need something to talk about for us to resolve the issue.

How about you guys? How's your communication with your husband/wife, partners, parents, families, and friends?

Thank you for your precious time.

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