My Life's Lesson

I am a very friendly person which made my friends and my parents think that I am a chick-girl person and that is totally wrong. I usually have a lot of boyfriends that girlfriends because for me boys are more sincere and you can talk anything with them, they are very good listeners. Unlike girls, sometimes they will just bash you off, tell you just keep quiet, or even tell you that you are acting immaturely because of your experiences that you wanted to tell.

I'm already 17 years old when I got my first boyfriend but we broke up because he always asks me to have sex with him which is so terrifying because I have never done that in my whole life and I am not just ready for it. Every time he texted me or even call me he's always asking for it which made me feel so uncomfortable. Though we are almost 1 year in our relationship, I still don't want to do that with him because we are still young. And so, the day before our 1st anniversary I broke up with him because I couldn't stand the fear I feel whenever we're having our conversation. He felt sorry after I broke up with him, he even called me crying in the middle of the night asking for my forgiveness and telling me to come back but I said no, I can't go back to him but I can forgive him. 😊

A month later, because of just how friendly I am, I met a guy with a nice and sincere heart. He treated me like a queen, he always asks me if I'm okay, how's school, have I already eaten my lunch and some other stuff. Every day before he goes to work he always sends me a greeting, before he sleeps at night too, he always says "Good night", for this article let me call him Adam ✌️. Then I realized that time that "when someone leaves, its because someone else better is about to arrive" 😊.

I was still studying in Grade-12 at that time when I started my 2nd relationship with Adam. Because he always makes me feel important and treats me the way I wanted to be treated, I fell in love with him so deeply that it came to that part when I prayed God I wanted him to be mine forever 😂😅. But the twist is I never thought that my dream would come true so soon. After I graduated in senior high we still see each other and texted each other every day like normal. What I was thankful for is that he never asks me to have sex with him 😄😅(I'm waiting😂. LOL).

Fast forward, I was so excited for school because I passed for having the scholar. But then the thing is my parents and his parents agreed that we're going to marry at a young age (BTW, 18 na kami pareho nun). And because we are very obedient at that time, we didn't talk when they are planning for our wedding, we just stayed quiet until they finished discussing all those plans for our wedding (kahit ayaw namin, hindi namin magawang magsalita). Right before the class starts for that year, we got married, all expenses are paid by them (swerte ko, wala akong nilabas kahit piso 😂). And the ending, of course, I didn't go to college and I passed my scholar to another person( shakit nun, I swear). I end up looking for a job and luckily I found a job that fits me.

For now, I will end my story here. I will write another one about my experiences with my married life experiences.

Lessons that I've learned.

1. Never enter the world of sex when you're not yet ready. (pag pinipilit ni partner, palitan mo nalang sya) Because I believe that sex is not the only thing to make a relationship successful, if she loves you sincerely he can wait until the day that you're ready for it.

2. Learn to forgive.

3. When someone leaves, its because someone else better is about to arrive. (trust me, kahit mahirap mag move-on, pilitin pa ring mag move-on) Someone better is reserved for you)

4. Pray to God, tell him what you really want. (pag pinalad, He'll give it to you the moment you asked for it)

5. Lastly, when you don't want something, learn to stand for yourself. You have your mouth so speak, because nothing will be lost if you tell your own opinion, especially about marriage. (yup, mali namin yun kasi ndi kami nagsalita na we are not yet ready).