@Yzza0625
Am I Ready? February 08, 2022 Buenos dìas/ buenas tardes/buenas noches readcash community. How are you all? Valentine's day is few days ahead. Are you all excited? Are you expecting to receive something from your special someone? Well, me, I am not excited for that special day. When I became a mother, Valentine's day became a normal day to me. I am no longer excited when that special day come. Maybe because I am now focus on my daughter. But if my partner will surprise me, which I think he won't, I will still be happy of course. Who wouldn't, right? Speaking of partner/boyfriend, my partner and I will be celebrating our fourth anniversary this year as a couple. It was year 2018 when I answered him to be my boyfriend. I can still remember clearly when he asked me the question, "Will you be my girlfriend?". The night he asked me that question, he was drunk. I did not answer him right away because I was thinking that maybe it was just an influence of the alcohol. I waited him to be sober the next day and see if he still remember what he said on that night. The next morning, he said that he really meant what he said. I was happy and I gave my Yes. We were happy in our relationship. He is sweet, caring, thoughtful and supportive boyfriend to me. On the sixth month of our relationship I got pregnant. It was so difficult for us for we were both studying at that time. But I was already a graduating student and he was on his third year in the uni. On the first three months of my pregnancy, we hid it from our parents for we were afraid of their reactions. We were pretty sure that they'll get mad. But my landlady was so persistent on telling us that we should confess our situation to my boyfriend's family so that I can have a prenatal check up. So, we decided to tell his family but not on mine first. I want to graduate and get my diploma first before I am going to confess to them. Luckily, his mother accepted his situation with the help of his older sister. They still supported his studies and my pregnancy. I was happy and thankful to them. Everything is fine in our relationship. Though there were times that we fought which is very normal in every relationships but we still manage to fix it. I am very thankful that I met him. I am thankful because he is a good partner and a good father to our daughter. I can say that I am lucky to have him because he has no vices that could give me headaches. Last year, my partner's mother told us to inquire in the municipal office what are the requirements in getting a civil wedding. I was taken aback of what she said. I didn't see it coming. My partner didn't propose to me yet. Until this moment, I didn't go to the municipal office to do what she said. I am still hesitant. Months passed by and I thought that she already forgot about it. Then on New Year's eve, my partner, my daughter and I received a gift from her. Well, she gave all her children a gift. My partner and I were confused because we received four hóngbāos (red envelope). When we opened the fourth red envelope, we saw a couple ring. She said that it will be her gift on our wedding.
At this moment, I admit that I can't explain what I feel. There's a part of me that is hesitant on getting married. Yes, I love my partner, there's no question to that. But I can't help myself on thinking on so many things. Sometimes when I'm alone, I am thinking what if I can't be a good wife to him. What if we will be like to our parents. His parents were separated and mine also. My partner is still young. I am six years older than him. I am afraid what if one day he will fine another girl. I share this feeling to my sister and she said that I should go for it. It will be my advantage if we're married because I can secure myself and my daughter's right if something not good happened. We can't deny the fact that in our day today, there are lots of families that are being broken. As of writing, I am asking myself if am I ready to level up our relationship to the next stage. Am I ready to fulfill the responsibility of a wife ? Am I ready to commit myself to a lifetime commitment? Hayyyy, I don't know. What do you think guys? Maybe some of you may think that I am just being OA or finicky about this matter. But I believe that marriage is a serious matter and it should be think carefully because once you're in, there'll be no way out. Our country has no divorce and filing an annulment is very costly. I don't want to jump into that commitment also just because of my daughter. Oh gosh, I'm confuse right now. Thank you for reading this far guys. I would gladly read your advice if you have one. Till next time everyone. Be safe and stay healthy. I want to say thank you to @Expelliarmus30 for renewing her sponsorship. Thank you so much for still trusting me sis. God bless you always. **Lead image is edited using Canva app.**
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***Ang pagpakasal sis kinahanglan jud balansehon kay lisod musulod sa next stage kung naa pay pag duha2x. Kung feel nimo nga ready ka na, go for it pero kung hesitant ka, take time para makahuna2x.***
Mao lagi sis. Gusto ko magpakasal ko kanang wala na koy duha sa akong desisyon. Maybe affected lang ko sa akong life sis kay lagi both our parents are separated. Unya recently lang, nahibaw-an nako nga ang partner sa akong manghud naa diay lain. Unya 7 years na gud sila nag-ipon pero nakuha gihapon magloko sa iyang pares. Mahadlok ko nga basin sa umaabot maing-ana pud mi unya maglisud mi ug kalas kay lagi minyo na.
***Isa na sa factor ngano nagduha2x ka sis, ayaw e pressure imo kaugalingon. Pag pray para gabayan ka sa imo desisyon***
Salamat sis. I will. Nagkinahanglan jud ko's Iyang guidance ron.
***Sa panahon nga maglibog ka, pray lang jud sis. Tabangan ka niyang magdesisyon***
Yes sis. Salamat jud sa advice.
***Way sapayan sis. God bless you***
Age is just a number, if you really love him to the extent of committing your future into risk by getting pregnant for you should be able trust him to an extent of marriage. This will boost your daughter happiness and confidence.
Thank you for this advice friend. Yes you have a point. Maybe I am just affected by my surroundings.
Another chapter in life nasad ang marriage ate. If you are hesitant pa te take a lot of time te para maka huna² pag ayo. Lisod man gud te pag nag duha ka kay it means parang napugos ra ka. Nindot gayud ng buhaton nimu ang butang te na kagustuhan gayud nimu. Naa ra ang desisyon nimu te basta d.a ra mi permi kung unsa man imu desisyon te. Support lang mi permi te. Mag talk mo duha ni partner nimu te.
Salamat Lang. I haven't talked to my partner about this matter Lang. Basin lainon unya niya ug sabot. Tan-aw nako go raman pud cjah. Ako lang jud ang problema. Murag di pa ko ready.haha
You're always welcome ate. Feeling wala problem imung partner te kay love man ka niya pag ayo. Soon te muabot lang time na ready na ka sa mga bagay na ana te.
If ever madam,.asa mo pakasal?
Civil sa madam. Puhon na ang church.
asa mo pa civil?
Diri ra Mahaplag madam.
pilay bayad madam kahimangno na mo?
Wa pa lagi madam. Wa pa man mi ning-adto sa munisipyo.
awww, kami pud puhon lage mag civil rami
Take some time to think more deeply sis about your decision. You have a rights to decide and its all matter. Relax ka lng at isipin mo kng ano ba dpat.
Thank you sis. Maayu gani ron kay ningbakasyon ang mother sa akong partner. I still have much time to think.
Yess sis. What matter most is you should consider the best future of your child. Laban lng😊 Ampo pd ug ask gyd ug guidance.
Mao lagi sis. Salamat sis ha.
Bitaw maamsh. Pray first and ask for guidance and heavenly wisdom. Seek advice from your parents too.
Salamat mamsh. Kung mangutana ko sa akong parents, sure na nga muingon sila pakasal na tungod sa bata.
You're not oa Sis, that's a normal feeling for those girls who are in your situation. But in my opinion, kung di ka pa handa then don't go for it, mas maigi yung ikakasal ka na magaan ang pakiramdam at masaya.
Salamat sa advice sis. Pag-iisipan ko talaga ng mabuti sis. Ayokong darating ang time na magsisi ako sa desisyon ko.
Girly, I am happy for you. 🤗 ahu ra jud ika advice pod is tarunga jud ug huna2a ky sa giingon pa wala nay exit sa married life. Pero sa ahu nkita ninjo girl ky love man ninjo ang usag usa pod. Dba? Usa pod for the sake inday go for it. Dapat pod magtalk mo ni ong about ana girly. E open nija. Okay? Bsta support ra ko.
Salamat girly. Haruyyy kulba man pud diay ning magpakasal girl uy.haha
Hahaha labaw girl. Labi na ug hpit na ang kasal ky murag kaatrason na hahaha
Hahahha, ing-ana pud diay tung imong gibati sa kadtong gikasal ka girl?
Normal lang po na kabahan kayo or medyu magalanganin. Kasi diba, hindi bir pag kasal na ang pag uusapan. Per, kung ano man pong desisyon nyo, wish you all the best sis.
True sis. Lifetime commitment na kasi yun kaya dapat talaga pag-isipan. Salamat sis.
You will never gonna say you will be if you are not in the situation memsh. And how can you sure as of the moment that you can't? And why not? If you love him and you could see yourself with him until golden years then why not? Ask him as well if he sees that too. If not now? When? I know you feel that when you have your baby in her first few months. Asking yourself if you could be a good mother? And now what? You're doing just great. You have your family already make it official 😊 congratulations in advance. And if it will make you both happy then go for it. Stop overthinking. 🥰🥰
Salamat sa advice mem. I appreciate it so much. Kani laging overthinkers ta mem, di jud kalikayan. Thank you again.
Your welcome. Wishing you happiness all the way, everyday.
I guess you should think about it carefully and you can someone's opinion about it I mean your sister may help to decide this thing. But I must say that, if you get married then you will definitely secure the future of your daughter. Take your time Sis, you need to think about it carefully and wisely.
Thank you sis. Same kayo ng advice ng sister ko. Yan din sabi niya. At least daw kung magloko (wag naman sana), makaapghabol ako dahil may right na ako.
Parang tele-nobela po pala ang love story nyo. Hihihi. Pero anyway po tama po ang sister nyo advantage po yun sa inyo at sa daughter nyo kapag kasal na po kayo. Pero nasa inyo pa rin naman po ang final decision. And welcome po pala. 💗
You are fortunate to have his mom do that for you which means she likes you to be her daughter-in-law :) Not many do that, sometimes it is difficult to have a good vibes with the in-laws. Regarding your question, only you can answer that :) Take your time, there's no rush hehe.