Hey MOMMIES!
Naranasan nyo na ba na ikumpara yung anak nyo?
Yung every milestone nalang nya inaabangan ng lahat?
Tapos kapag hindi nya nameet yung milestone na yon, parang feeling disappointed sila?
Unang buwan palang ng bata pinupuna at kinukumpara na..
Kung ano ano yung sinasuggest kase ganon daw yung anak nila.
Painumin mo ng mapait para mawala yang taon nila kung tawagin.
Bakit hindi mo nilalagyan ng langis kapag maliligo, malalamigan yan.
Lagyan mo ng Manzanilla para hindi kabagan.
Pangalawa hanggang panglima.
Bakit sayo lang ba dumedede?
Tuwangan mo kasi ang payat payat nya.
Bakit hindi pa dumadapa. Dapat dumadapa na yan.
Parang kalambot tingnan ng anak mo. Ano ba vitamins nyan.
Bakit hindi mo pinainom ng tubig?
Kailangan ng bata yan.
Pang anim hanggang panglabing isa.
Dapat pakainin mo na ng marie at cerelac baby mo.
Bakit hindi pa umuupo?
Bakit hindi pa gumagabay?
Yung anak ko ganyan buwan ganito ganyan na.
Bakit yung anak mo ganyan.
Pang isang taon.
Bakit hindi pa nag lalakad anak mo?
Bakit ka payat?
Hindi ba sya malakas kumain?
Tuwangan mo na yan sa bote at wala ng nakukuhang sustansya sa gatas mo.
As so on and so forth.
Nakakatimpi sa totoo lang.
Kay sarap nilang patulan realtalk.
Kung makapuna akala mo mga perpekto.
Masakit para sa isang ina na makarinig ng ganito.
Lalo ginagawa mo naman ang lahat ng makabubuti para sa anak mo.
Pare pareho tayong mga ina kaya dapat dinadamayan natin yung bawat isa.
Pwede naman purihin mo yung anak mo ng hindi nanghahamak ng ibang Bata.
Ang mga bata ay magkakaiba.
Katulad ng halaman, Hindi sila sabay sabay lumaki at mamunga.
Katulad din natin matatanda, tayoy iba iba din diba?
Hayaan lang natin yung mga bata na madiscover yung sarili nila.
Wag natin silang apurahin matutunan yung bagay bagay.
Dadapa sila kapag handa na sila.
Uupo sila kapag handa na sila.
Mag lalakad sila kapag handa na sila.
Magsasalita sila kapag handa na sila.
Lahat ng bagay may tamang oras.
Hindi dahil yung anak mo, e ganon din ang anak ko.
I think I wrote this one during those time that people always comparing my son to others. I just saw it on my husband's notepad. I didn't know when the exact date I wrote this but the only thing I know is that I wrote it just to released my stress on the people around me that time hahaha.
Fast forward. My little one is now 2 years old and 1 month. Back then they were always comparing my little one to thier kids. Kesyo yung anak Nila ganitong buwan nag lakad na, ganitong buwan nagsasalita na. I didn't throw a words to them instead I wait my son to be ready with new things. I don't want to pressure him just to learn things because I want it and because I am concerned with other people might say to him. I am here to support and teach him but if he's not ready, it's fine. There are more time in the future for him to learn new thing.
Now, they are so amazed with my little one. He already knew the numbers 1 to 10, a few alphabet and an example on it like A is for Apple, something like that. A few animals, shapes, colors, parts of the body and even the things on the house like television, window, door, watch, switch. We are also amazed because sometimes I thought he was not listening to me but I am wrong. He listened.
The things now changed. They still comparing but in a different way. They are amazed with my son to the point that they already down other kids. Kunwari, oh ito ano yan? Ilang taon kana dimo pa alam yan. Daig ka pa ni Blue. Did you noticed the hurtful word? That even adult will got hurt when they heard it. The word daig.
I told them, the children has different kind of development and soon they will also learned things. I don't want to hear words like than because I experienced to be compared and it lost my confidence and thinking na wala naman akong kwenta because that what they told want to tell me.
Kaya never ko icocompare yung anak ko sa Ibang bata. Kasi alam ko yung feeling na ikumpara ka.
Humaba na hahahaha.
Goodnight na nga.
Very interestingly written.