Stop comparing

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Hey MOMMIES!

Naranasan nyo na ba na ikumpara yung anak nyo?

Yung every milestone nalang nya inaabangan ng lahat?

Tapos kapag hindi nya nameet yung milestone na yon, parang feeling disappointed sila?

Unang buwan palang ng bata pinupuna at kinukumpara na..

Kung ano ano yung sinasuggest kase ganon daw yung anak nila.

Painumin mo ng mapait para mawala yang taon nila kung tawagin.

Bakit hindi mo nilalagyan ng langis kapag maliligo, malalamigan yan.

Lagyan mo ng Manzanilla para hindi kabagan.

Pangalawa hanggang panglima.

Bakit sayo lang ba dumedede?

Tuwangan mo kasi ang payat payat nya.

Bakit hindi pa dumadapa. Dapat dumadapa na yan.

Parang kalambot tingnan ng anak mo. Ano ba vitamins nyan.

Bakit hindi mo pinainom ng tubig?

Kailangan ng bata yan.

Pang anim hanggang panglabing isa.

Dapat pakainin mo na ng marie at cerelac baby mo.

Bakit hindi pa umuupo?

Bakit hindi pa gumagabay?

Yung anak ko ganyan buwan ganito ganyan na.

Bakit yung anak mo ganyan.

Pang isang taon.

Bakit hindi pa nag lalakad anak mo?

Bakit ka payat?

Hindi ba sya malakas kumain?

Tuwangan mo na yan sa bote at wala ng nakukuhang sustansya sa gatas mo.

As so on and so forth.

Nakakatimpi sa totoo lang.

Kay sarap nilang patulan realtalk.

Kung makapuna akala mo mga perpekto.

Masakit para sa isang ina na makarinig ng ganito.

Lalo ginagawa mo naman ang lahat ng makabubuti para sa anak mo.

Pare pareho tayong mga ina kaya dapat dinadamayan natin yung bawat isa.

Pwede naman purihin mo yung anak mo ng hindi nanghahamak ng ibang Bata.

Ang mga bata ay magkakaiba.

Katulad ng halaman, Hindi sila sabay sabay lumaki at mamunga.

Katulad din natin matatanda, tayoy iba iba din diba?

Hayaan lang natin yung mga bata na madiscover yung sarili nila.

Wag natin silang apurahin matutunan yung bagay bagay.

Dadapa sila kapag handa na sila.

Uupo sila kapag handa na sila.

Mag lalakad sila kapag handa na sila.

Magsasalita sila kapag handa na sila.

Lahat ng bagay may tamang oras.

Hindi dahil yung anak mo, e ganon din ang anak ko.


I think I wrote this one during those time that people always comparing my son to others. I just saw it on my husband's notepad. I didn't know when the exact date I wrote this but the only thing I know is that I wrote it just to released my stress on the people around me that time hahaha.

Fast forward. My little one is now 2 years old and 1 month. Back then they were always comparing my little one to thier kids. Kesyo yung anak Nila ganitong buwan nag lakad na, ganitong buwan nagsasalita na. I didn't throw a words to them instead I wait my son to be ready with new things. I don't want to pressure him just to learn things because I want it and because I am concerned with other people might say to him. I am here to support and teach him but if he's not ready, it's fine. There are more time in the future for him to learn new thing.

Now, they are so amazed with my little one. He already knew the numbers 1 to 10, a few alphabet and an example on it like A is for Apple, something like that. A few animals, shapes, colors, parts of the body and even the things on the house like television, window, door, watch, switch. We are also amazed because sometimes I thought he was not listening to me but I am wrong. He listened.

The things now changed. They still comparing but in a different way. They are amazed with my son to the point that they already down other kids. Kunwari, oh ito ano yan? Ilang taon kana dimo pa alam yan. Daig ka pa ni Blue. Did you noticed the hurtful word? That even adult will got hurt when they heard it. The word daig.

I told them, the children has different kind of development and soon they will also learned things. I don't want to hear words like than because I experienced to be compared and it lost my confidence and thinking na wala naman akong kwenta because that what they told want to tell me.

Kaya never ko icocompare yung anak ko sa Ibang bata. Kasi alam ko yung feeling na ikumpara ka.

Humaba na hahahaha.

Goodnight na nga.

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Very interestingly written.

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4 years ago

You should be proud of your baby UwU he's been growing up healthy at least and he's been learning on his own and that's already a lot

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4 years ago

Proud Mama here hehe. But I choose to be silent and let others noticed his development

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

They will eventually. More milestones fo your little ones and take more pictures of him as he grows! I think he'd enjoy seeing those

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4 years ago

I will.

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

dapat talaga iwasan natin mag compare talaga cause it really hurts! ang magmahal ng ganito, Charot Haha sto comparing talaga nakakasakit ito ng damdamin

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4 years ago

Buset ka mom hahaha.

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

Everyone is unique. But comparing isn't avoidable. So just learn to ignore.

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4 years ago

Yan talaga ang sobrang hindi ko gusto, yu g pagkumpara kasi ako mismo lahing kinukompara dati. Si ano mabait, magalang, maganda etc. eh ikaw? Daig ka pa ni ano. Oh bakit ganito lang nakuha mo, buti pa si ano. Eto yung mga salitang yumuyurak sa pagkatao ng isang bata. Ang masaklap pa galing ito sa magulang ko. Pero okay lang, naka move on na ako sa mga ganyan.

Kaya pagnagkaanak ako, di ko ipapakita sa mga tao para di nila ma compare, kung pwede lang iho-home school ko na lang ๐Ÿคฃ

Iba iba ang level of development ng mga bata kaya comparison should be eliminated. There are late bloomers, but when they bloomed at their perfect moment, mapapahanga ka na lang talaga sa kanila.

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4 years ago

Kaya nga e. Ako iniiwasan ko din sabihin sa anak ko yung Salita ng na nagkukumpara kasi alam ko pakiramdam. Ngayon wala akong problema sa development nya. Pinupuna nila ngayon bakit daw maliit. Haha.

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

Haha di talaga mawawala ng sasabihin ang mga tao. Pag okay na yung dating pinupuna nila, maghahanap ulit yan ng bagong maipupuna ๐Ÿ˜…

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4 years ago

Totoo haha. Walang katapusan ๐Ÿ˜‚

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

Hayaan lang natin ang mga bata natin na matuto sa sarili nilang pamamaraan, gabay lang dapat nating ipakita ๐Ÿ˜Š

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4 years ago

Totoo. Support lang kumabaga

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

nice articles

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4 years ago

May mga tao kasi na nakalulong pa sa past kaya mahilig magkumpara๐Ÿ˜‚

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4 years ago

Hugot? Haha

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

D ko pa alam ang feeling.. wala kc ako anak ๐Ÿ˜…

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4 years ago

Malalaman mo soon hehe

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

Totoo yan. Yung pamangkin ko ay antagal bago nakapagsalita. Si Tia naman akala namin bago mag 1 maglalakad na pero hindi pa rin yung excited ka dapat ganito ganyan pero iba iba talaga development nila pero one thing for sure antatalino nang mga bata ngayon. Pansin mo?

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4 years ago

Kumpara sa dati. Oo matatalino talaga yung mga Bata ngayon and dahil sa gadget Yun. Si anak ko aminado ko Kaya natuto to dahil sa panunuod ng educational videos though limit lang din naman.

Abe dati yung mga ABC na Yan matutunan mo yan kapag talagang pumasok kna sa school pero ngayon basta Kay cellphone pwede kna mag aral haha

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago