4 types of Parenting

For parents either single or double😅 and for those who are about to marry and no love life at all I wanna share to you this knowledge I learned from a seminar I attended for parenting guides and from the Department of Social Welfare and Development before the lockdown.

If you ever heard about these parenting styles, well and good but if you don't, this is for you then.

Four types of Parenting styles are the -Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive and Uninvolved Parenting

First, I will introduce the Authoritarian kind of Parenting, this is the type of parenting in which a parent has the rule of being the authority inside the house. They don't give considerations to their children's feelings. They always believe that their words are always right giving no chance for the children to speak their minds.

They give the child a hard time to learn about their mistakes by giving them punishment instead of guiding them to know the right direction.

They don't think children have the right to share their views and concerns and always declare his authority without elaborating on the reasons and explanations about the child's queries.

Possible Effects on Children:
Children under an authoritarian are mostly kids with low esteem because they are used to being unnoticed like an outcast. They tend to feel that everything they are doing is wrong and useless. They find themselves useless as well.

The fear of being punished led to a child to become liars also. They choose to tell lies to protect themselves from the wrath of their parents.

They used to follow directions all of the time which will create revolt in the child's mind in the future. This rebellion grows and gives birth to outrage and creates a negative impact on a child and they become aggressive and unfriendly to others. This resentment towards their parents can lead the child to become a bad person and instead of making their life a better one they are occupied with the thought of doing things that contradicts the way the strict parents wanted them to do.

Next is the Authoritative kind of parenting. This kind of parent is a responsive one and gives deliberation on their children's thoughts and gives them the chance to speak their minds. They wanted to carve a good bonding between them and their children.

They think of positive ways how to react to situations that involve the misbehavior of their children. They believe punishment is only for criminals and don't use the word for the child. They call it corrections and they don't execute it without valid reason and explanations why they are being corrected. They give restrictions and making sure that their children understand it and take the children's opinions towards it but giving the point that the parents are being the ones to take charge. 

An authoritarian parent gives value to any efforts their child has accomplished, may it be great or little things, and gives appreciation by words or by action.

Possible Effects on Children:

Children with authoritative parents are mostly the one who is positive and living a healthy life. They make good decisions and have the ability to assess in difficult situations. They have the confidence to express their opinions and become a trustworthy grown-up.

Another style of parenting is Permissive Parenting. This kind of parenting is a flexible kind because the parent does create rules but barely implements them. They think of children to learn better if they don't intervene and they don't give much concern to their activities. They only get involved when severe situations occur.

Permissive parenting is said to function as a friend than a parent. They would love to convince their children to open up to them about their troubles but they don't exert much effort to correct them from their misdeed and guide them to make good decisions.

They are mostly tolerant parents that after setting up rules but don't stick to it. They lift it back when someone has broken it and believes that children are just like that. They create borderline but if the child exceeds the line, they give the child a chance provided they won't do it again but this scenario happens over and over again.

Possible Effect on Children:

Children under permissive parents display problems with their behavior. They don't value the rules and restrictions outside because they are used to breaking rules at home.

Kids under permissive parents are likely to suffer from health problems because they were not restricted to eat unhealthy foods at home. Though they were restricted they are still allowed after giving weak conditions.

Children with permissive parents also suffer from abnormal self-esteem because they sometimes react commonly in a situation that needs confidence and sometimes they seem overconfident.

Lastly, the Uninvolved Parenting Style.

From the word alone "uninvolved", it gives you a hint of what it stands for.

Uninvolved parents are the most neglecting parents. They do set up a few rules but don't care if it was honored or not. They rarely give time, direction, care, and interest to their children. They never ask about the activities and people their children have been involved with and they are going out with.
They don't inquire about the performance of their child in school and what would be their home task. They don't involve much of their time and effort to their children. They anticipate them to live and survive and take care of themselves. They aren't even updated about their children's progress and won't be surprised by their accomplishments.

Permissive parents are sometimes the result of having a mental crisis, drug abuse, and too much occupied with financial and marital problems.

Possible Effect in Children:

Children under uninvolved parents usually seek attention from others. They are having a hard time with their self-esteem. Their performance in school is poor and has an unhappy life. They sometimes get involved in violence, drugs, and other illegal activities while having the purpose of gaining attention.

Parents sometimes don't belong in one category alone, they may be permissive sometimes and become authoritative, or a bit authoritarian. If you find out you are under the permissive and uninvolved parent, you can slightly change to become a better one.

Parenting styles can influence the attitude of the child and how they feel about themselves. The way you enforce the rules, the way you listen and care for them will affect them for their whole time being. Though other children lived a good life even they are under neglectful parenting is a fortune to the child.

Now, parents which category do you belong to. How about your parents?