Why Am I So Boring?

Has this question ever crossed your mind? If yes, then this article is meant for you. Though quite a handful of others might not realise how boring they are, until someone else points it out to them. We all get bored at some point in our life, no matter how lively or fun-filled our life seems to be. There is always that tendency we get tired of a particular lifestyle or way of thought. 

Boring is no new word to anyone, as we often attribute it to something or someone that is uninteresting. We have probably commented on a movie, subject in school or a particular activity as being boring due to the fact, that it had nothing to offer that was worth the time. 

Can Humans Be Boring? 

Yes! Humans could also be boring, it's not a word attributed only to inanimate things. We could use it interchangeably with humans and their activities. Have you ever heard someone describe themselves as being boring? Probably you have and one thing I do is to study the behaviour of such people. Most times, they are not even boring but only live a stereotyped kind of life. 

Such individuals are always afraid to try out new ideas, to them they are already boring so why should they try them out? They often remain in a fixed position tagged their comfort zone. This hinders them from making progress or even trying out new concepts. I have been with someone who explained to me she was boring, only to discover what a lovely person she was. Her only fear was being rejected or seen as a loser. After some time, with me, she finally discovered she was more interesting than she could have imagined.  

Individuals who tag themselves as being boring are those who are scared of using their intellect. All they do is go with what everyone does. That is why most boring people are seen on different social media, always available to check out the newest trend, gossip or trending fashion. They feel everyone's ideas, thoughts and experiences are more accurate than theirs. I would say the most boring people are people with low self-esteem. Those who feel they are not good enough are always at war with their personality. Boring people are always insecure. Even when they are not comfortable with their choice but since it is what others are comfortable with, that's a perfect one for them.

Understanding your worth and making your opinion a priority will help fix this issue.

Boring people tend to have a small circle of friends. Because they are boring, they feel no one is interested in making them their friends and so no need to even try making friends or expanding their circle of friends. The few friends they were able to make are a demi-god to them, as they try everything possible to keep them even when it is out of their own free will. Little wonder why some ladies/men tend to stay in an abusive relationship, it is because they feel they can't be loved or will never find a better person than their abusive partner. This makes them tolerate all their shortcomings.

Finally, a person who labels themselves as being boring is concerned about what others think or say about them. Imagine staying all night to wonder what your next-door neighbour thinks about the clothes you wore to work today or what their thoughts are about your partner, kids or pets. Does it matter? Yes, being concerned about others' opinions about you will only get you scared of trying out new stuff. The time you spent thinking about those things could have been used to plan or develop yourself.

Conclusion

Being boring is normal for everyone but when you allow it to become a part of you makes it a problem. You don't have to live in your head all day, go out there and socialise. Being active only on social media is never a great choice, you just have to realise there is a lot of fun waiting for you in reality. You don't need to look like those celebrities to be appreciated by others, be yourself and the right people will appreciate you. The key activities to get rid of the illusion of being boring is socializing, living a carefree life and not minding what others think about you.

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