How To Build A Happy Romantic Relationship… (2)

Love is far from the butterflies we feel whenever we see someone, love is that feeling that ignites and unites two hearts together - Dr. Wrinkle

The best love story wasn't the one told in the titanic neither the one told by Shakespeare, the best love story is the one created by us - My man to me on my last birthday.

This is the continuation of the series I started yesterday. Am so happy for the comments gotten, it meant a lot to me, shows how much everyone wants to be in love and be loved.  Here is a list of things to do to spice up your romantic relationship;

8) Appreciation : Showing gratitude in all the things your partner does will help make them feel valued. Say thank you after a nice meal, gift received or just wake up and thank them for being a part of your life.  That will spark a feeling of belonging. I can't recall the number of times, I called my man just to tell him thank you. And when he ask for a reason, I just tell him, I don't know. Thank you isn't enough for someone who makes you smile, happy or defend you in your weakest moments. 

9) Compose Poems And Send To Them : You don't have to be a poet to achieve this. Just scribble anything romantic, even if it's just 'am lucky to have you' and send it to them. If you both stay together, place such poems in strategic points, where it can be easily seen by them. It won't be a bad idea, if your partner sees a romantic on pasted in the washroom, kitchen or their favorite couch. You could also send it to them through text messages or phone calls.  You can't imagine that feeling of reading a romantic poem to your partner and watch them blush all through.

10) Don't Go To Bed, Mad At Each Other : No matter how lucky you are in your relationship they is always bound to be days, you will get into hot arguments. Sometimes raising voices at each other, its okay that way. What's not right is going to bed still angry. I won't sleep the whole night, and I want you to feel that way too. You shouldn't be comfortable sleeping when you know you had a heated argument during the day. Most times, we may not know what's going through our partner's mind. They could feel unloved and it breeds insecurity.

11) Respect Your Partner : A relationship with out respect is like a ship with a sailor. The driving force of a relationship is how well you value and respect your partner. Let's keep aside being of same age, having same qualifications when it comes to relationship, we need to respect our partners. Avoid things that will make them angry, unloved or even worried. If you really love your partner you will learn to respect them. Be attentive to what they dislike and always try to avoid doing them. 

12) Say Hello, Goodnight, Goodbye When Necessary : the little things we do to spice up our relationships could just be an hello. Be intentional when you say them and not just for saying sake. Give hugs and kisses when necessary, you don't have to be rigid in your relationship. In most romance movie scenes, goodbyes said by partners is always tearjerking especially when they are said if the partner is going away.

13) Never Stop Saying I Love You : Those amazing words has a way to get to us, especially when said the right way. You can't say 'I love you' when you know you are not serious. At times you don't just have to say the words, you also need to express how much you love them.  Surprise them with new languages, my boyfriend is a German, though am not. We never tried learning our languages. But he was shocked the day I expressed my feelings to him in his language. That's another way of showing them they matter. I love you is like a fire extinguisher in a burning house, it restores calmness to a troubled mind. It helps drive away uncertainty, insecurity from the mind of your partner.

14) Physical Contact : Hugs and kisses have a way of improving our relationship. If you are going to the mall with your partner, It won't be a bad idea to hold hands, help her to push the cart or even try to get something off her hair or face. Show them that you care and be there for them. Whenever my partner wraps his arms around me, I feel so secured. Do same with your partner, give them the security they crave.

15) Maintain A Good S^x Life : A lot of people will shy aware from this, pretending it doesn't matter. But the truth remains, if you can't satisfy your partner during such moments, they could lose interest in the relationship. Spice up your relationship with new styles, words. Learn what turns them on, and try to do them. Don't be shy while having the good time, you can make funny sounds for all I care, its not a crime and it doesn't make you a bad person. Rather gives your partner that feeling of satisfaction. 

Also in the aspect of people who wants to maintain abstinence till they are married, discuss this with your partner before going into the relationship. This will reduce their chances of them cheating. 

We have come to the end of our series, am so happy, you followed till the end. Hit me up with your questions and  suggestions using the comment box.

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