Woman's worth

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2 years ago

"Everything you see isn't always what it seems. I believe what I saw, I was blind"

There are certain points in life when love overwhelmed us, and we can no longer see the wrong side of life because we feel like we are in a fairytale, who wonders a happy ending story.

I was watching Toni's Vlogs and I have dropped by with her interview with Zeinab Harake, even though I'm not a fan of her, I can feel her sentiments against her partner. I will not narrate everything that happens to her, but I would like to point out some important words that she has learned in her life. As a woman, I can feel her emotions and the heaviness within her. This is all about being a woman, our worth, and our value as a person.

Here are some words that she said:

  1. Women's body change in time

"I was no longer her Zeinab in the past".

I choose to be a wife.

I chose to be a mother.

That's why I look like this.

This is such a very emotional statement for me personally because I had a great change when I became a mom, physically. I also experienced insecurity just like what happened to Zebby, but in time I've learned to value myself as well.

With regards to Zeb, she said that her partner once said, it's one of the reasons why their relationship has become vague.

The first point that I would like to be given attention, is about our physical transformation. As a woman, our body changed when we gave birth, there's a possibility that our body before will not be the same as it is today. There are lots of probable reasons, like taking care of the baby all the time, and we can't spend enough moment for ourselves especially when we became excessively occupied doing household chores. Considering all of these transitions that the majority of women have encountered, are we deserve to be left behind? Is this a valid reason that a man will find another woman, absolutely not? If a partner is committed to his relationship for better or for the worst, he will always be there.

As a wife, my body has changed a lot, it's not the same as I am before, and all wives who are already delivered their baby, have the same situation. That's why we will now come to the point of giving value to ourselves and doing self-care.

I am glad to recognize husbands who embraced their wife's changes in physical aspects, in reality, it's very painful to know that a husband finds another girl because of this kind of reason.

  1. Set boundary for yourself

A woman sometimes comes to the point in her life where she finds out her partner has cheated many times not just once or twice, but still, she's always forgiving him. Until she finds herself (" malaking tanga"), so blinded. She gave her all, she gave her everything, but in the end, she was despised.

That's why Toni advised her to set boundaries for herself.

Knowing your boundaries as a woman is very important, if we have already recognized how abusive and toxic our relationship is, we shouldn't just close our eyes. Instead, we should stand for our worth, and rights as a woman. We shouldn't let ourselves(na tapak-tapakan lang, yong alam mong nababastos ka na), be disgraced by a toxic relationship. As a woman, we don't deserve to be treated like a dirty rug, we should learn to set boundaries for our self-worth.

3."Don't love too deeply, until you find that person loves you with the same depth because the depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow".

This quote shows the reality, that it's hard to love too much but you weren't given the same love. Even if we say, that what matters is that we love, even if we are not reciprocated, for real, it hurts us too much when we are not loved by our partners the way we love them. It's very practical, don't settle if you know it's unsure.

4."Everything you see isn't always what it seems, I believe what I saw, I was blinded"-Zeinab

When we love we should let our eyes open, with the truth, we should not allow ourselves to be blinded by a half-hearted kind of love, we should learn to discern if that kind of love is still worth fighting for. That woman Zebby has experienced a very traumatic kind of relationship, which results in her anxiety and unhealthy mental health. She's still fighting for it, today, and it's not only her, there are a lot more women in the world who have the same kind of experienced.

As for me, as a woman, I can feel her pain, and her fears and I sympathize with her for she's a woman like me. Being a wife and a mother wasn't easy, as of today I have one layer belly, but before I don't have it, today I look like a nanny, before I look like a lady, and sometimes I couldn't comb my hair in the morning, because I need to cooked food for my family too early. That's why it's not acceptable that a wife/woman/mother is despised just because she has changed physically, we are a woman worthy of value, we are wives served as a light in the home, and we are mothers, who just loved our family, so my dearest woman in this generation, "You're a woman, you are important", "Babae ka at ika'y mahalaga."

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Grabe tawhana, naglagot jud kog maayo sa laki, mao pay daginuton mao pay kusog mu cheat, gi tagaan na Gani ug second chance, Wala siya maluoy sa Bata, paita jud Ning ingun ana nga laki sis no, grabe ang struggle ni zeb, nya wala niya hatagi ug bili, Dili lalim mag alaga ug bata,nya sultihan pa niya ug makasakit nga storya. Sakto jud to iyang gi ingun nga "Hindi lahat ng nakikita mo ay totoo" Hays 😞

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2 years ago

Hehe he, nagkatawa man kos pag open as imong comment day oi.parehas gud tag hunahuna unta wa lang naku gisulat ba,hehe Naa gyd ing ana.Nagtanaw ba kag broken marriage vow,parehas gud silag tubag ni zanjoe.Pag ask ni jodi nga ,maybabae ka ba,reply pod,wala babe,mamatay man ang nanay ko,mamatay ka man wala talaga.Ing ana pod ang reason ni Daryl kay Zeb.abi nakog sa salida ra.So,alam ma nato if ever.hehe

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2 years ago

Haha, Oo sis nka tan. Aw ko anang BMV, Baga jud ug nawng so zanjoe ngadto makalagot pud, mao karon di nako mu tuo sa kanta ni Andrew E, 😂😂,Kay gipatunayan na ni skusta nga bisan batig nawng magloko gihapon, 🤣,nya karon nag himo na sad ug kanta, naa Ra jud ni zeb ug balikan pa nija.

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2 years ago

Hehe he, bisag ing ana ka guapo is skusta magbinuang japon,hehe,wa jud na sa nawong dzai,depende ra gyd na sa lalaki nga di makontento,guapa na gane si zeb.

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2 years ago

I also saw the Toni Talks episode of her. I am. a man, and I admit sometimes we don't understand or we don't feel to comprehend them (sorry for that). Setting the boundary is essential. Kaya, I respect independent women, eh. Beauty is not eternal for both men and women.

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2 years ago

Beauty expires, right. Not all men have the same character with Zebby's ex, there are also faithful partners.

Women learned to become independent and strong especially if we undergo hardships in our relationship or marriage.

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2 years ago

Mao joy sakit sa uban laki sis. Di kamao mo appreciate ug mag alaga ug asawa

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2 years ago

hahaah, mao gyd,bitaw noh, pagkalisod ba, mao bitaw ako di ko kalimot sa gitudlo sa among maestra sa management subject sa una.Angay gyd ta makat on nga mobarog sa sarili ky wa ta kabalo sa kaulahian bya an diay ta,hehe

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2 years ago

Oyyy I found you here din...

I think tama Yung magamahal ka pero wag sobra magtira ka para sa sarili mo... Sabi nga madali magamahal Ang mahirap e manatiling nagmamahal

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2 years ago

Hi sis, welcome to my post.

Ako sis, natutunan ko talaga yan e apply sa sarili ko, dati kasi talagang all out ako,pero nong dahan dahan ng ngbago ang trato sa akin, naisip kong pahalagahan ang sarili ko,ang tindi ng sakit kapag wala ka ng tinira sa sarili mo. Thanks for dropping here!

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2 years ago

Yep ako din mas Malalala talaga kapag first hand mo natutunan hahahha

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2 years ago

Sobrang lungkot ko dyan nong pinanuod ko. Grabe yung mga naranasan nya, hindi niya deserve yang ganyang treatment. Naniniwala na akong once a cheater always a cheater.

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2 years ago

ako rin, talagang grabe yong lungkot nya, at sakit, maganda siya at todo magmahal pero nakuha pang saktan, sabi nga nya, napunta lang talaga sya sa maling tao.

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2 years ago

Grabeee, sobrang dama kontalaga yung pain nya. Kita sa mata talaga. 😭

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2 years ago

Oo, medyo may nginig yong boses nya, at nagka anxiety pa sya dahil sa naranasan nya, bilang babae talaga masakit.

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2 years ago

I'm happy that she finally muster the courage to save and choose herself. She may be in pain now but no worries as everything will be worth it. Time will heal her.

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2 years ago

Yes she just comes to the point of saying it's enough.I can that, maturity comes with experience, this kind of circumstances in her life can make her strong as a person.

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