Respect matters in all Ages

In any relationship that we have in our life, it will never grow without respect. Respect matters in all ages, whether you are young or old, boy or girl, rich or poor.

It refers to considering everyone's right to speak, listen, act, and give their opinions in different areas of life. Respect is vital in our daily life, at home, in the workplace, our community, and within our home. We can never live peacefully if we will not respect each other.

RESPECT OUR PARENTS

It's so sad sometimes that there are children who didn't respect their parents and act as they know better than them. Some parents that I've talked said, their children would treat them differently because they are in the good status of life and earn bigger than them, that's why they were like a servant to their children. This isn't right. Well, it's so sad but it happens in real life.

Respect towards our parents should not depends on what we have or not. It should be done out of love towards them. It's so frustrating to see some videos online that show disrespectful acts of children who physically hurt their mother or father. It makes me cry when I see it. I know that a lot of people have felt the same way.

• WHY WE SHOULD RESPECT THEM?

First of all, simply because they are our parents, of course, our life exists through them. We will never achieve anything without them.

Secondly, it's the will of God, and according to the holy scripture if we will do this we can have a long life. In my understanding, it seems like there is a curse that will come to us if we will choose to disrespect them.

We should honor our parents who love us so much, in the same way, we also love them back. Imagine those sleepless nights they when we were young, who wake up in the middle of the night to care for us, who carry within the womb within nine months, who sacrificed their lives just to survive, they are worthy of it.

• RESPECT OUR MOTHER AND FATHER IN LAW

By the time we got married, it is a part of it to become one family. Once you are married, your spouse's parents are your parents too. Have you seen a woman who fights with in-laws? For me, many times, just like yesterday, though it's not physical but with painful words, they have hurt each other. There are some instances that we may don't like them because they have a character which we don't like, but at the end of the, they are still our parents, they are aged people than us, we should extend high regards to our mom and dad.

• RESPECT OUR CHILDREN

Do parents need to respect their children?

For me, yes.Respect in the areas of their choices in life and decisions, in terms with their career and educational choice to make. Many times I have encountered some youth who suffer from their chosen course because they don't have the passion for it but it's only a choice that was made by their parents. They were not happy with what their parents want for them, and feel like dominated or controlled. I felt that before because I'm not free to decide on my own, that's why I grow up so dependent on my parents.

• RESPECT THE with Husband and wife

• I have learned from a mentor who says, "Guys needs respect more than love", if the guy feels that the girl respect her, he will love him more, but if he feels that the girl, will often disrespect her, like for example always attacking his weaknesses, the guy would find a girl that will respect him and he will love her back.

On the other hand, girls are more prefer to received love first and they will give respect to a guy.The more they felt love , the more they respect a man.

But respect may fade in marriages if someone cheat, dominant, they lose respect with each other, and then , they will going to say that, they stay together because of their children, but they doesn't love each other anymore.

Even if the wife have earn much more than their husband, the respect should not be lower down in the side of the guy, there are some areas of marriage that the other half have also strength that needs to be appreciate.

Tips for Singles (this things came from a mentor)

Find a guy or girl that you have respect with, someone that you look at, they way he/she decide, with work, and in any aspect of life.

• " Importante sa mga lalake na nererespeto sila ng mga babae, at mas mamahalin pa nila to kung nararamdaman nila yong respeto.

We must consider that guys have a masculine image that they are the head of the family.I have heard a couple who are both beautiful and handsome but later on , you will find out that the guy have other woman, and someone ask him, why did he do that?He says that the girl is very dominant, and wants to overpower the husband.

This means , that finding the one,doesn't only matters with the ten packs abs because it fades through the years, hehe.

There are a lot of couples , or even older couples who have been together for so many years but they lost respect with each other because of committing mistakes over and over again.And I experienced that too, we sometimes lose respect to a person who often disappoint us whether it's our husband , or some people that we admire.

• RESPECT FOR GRANDPARENTS

In Filipino culture we show respect to someone especially with our "Lolo and " Lola", through,"pagmamano", we called it bless.Oh ,mga bata mag bless na kayo kay lola.I don't know if it is the right term but we often used it when there's someone come at home.

• We may also say,"excuse me", or "please". And also we say," po and opo", when we talk to elder people.In bisaya dialect like me, we didn't use this po and opo very often because it's a Tagalog word. We show respect at home by talking to them in a low tone of voice and listening to them intently because sometimes we talk with a very hard accent, and sometimes they misinterpret us.

• RESPECT THE GOVErnment

For what is being allowed in the government on earth, was also honored by God.

Especially now, that we are required to used face masks when we go outside and follow certain protocols, we need to key in for the sake of our country.

When I was in elementary and even in high school, when the national anthem was already sung by the students while I am still walking I should stop and pay attention to the song, that's a sign of respect.

Respect each others privacy,we should consider that everyone has it's own right to keep himself private.Have you experience someone who's invading your privacy?

Respect everyone's faith and beliefs ,we should not attack each others faith and beliefs .

LAST FEW THINGS

If respect was lost, love will be lost too.

Don't underestimate your husband in terms of financial matters.

• Don't correct in public, appreciate in public.

This is the situation that I really hate.It feels so degrading to someone who has been corrected in front of many people .Its a very embarrassing moment for a husband or wife.

If we become disrespectful, the result is always negative, we may lose everything.But if we respect everyone, the outcome is positive.

Respect matter in all ages, and in every relationship.

Have a good day to all.

Respect each other!

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