"Patience needs practice"

While I was writing this blog, the sound of a disco machine was too noisy. Even if we are here in a private place, and the neighborhood is a few meters away from us. The sound of the disco machine tonight is too loud. It's really disturbing the people who are sleeping. We'll, that's how it goes here, when there is a disco, we can't go against it, especially when the barangay captain have allowed it.

"Patience, patience"

This is what I need this time, in the next hour and every second of my life, and to all of us. We can't lived peacefully on earth without it. There are a lot of things that affects our patience, it maybe people, situations, and any circumstances that will put us to a test. Most of the time my kids are the reason that I can exercise my patience, when they fight or argue when they are at home.

Second reason, is my husband, there's no perfect relationship, right? Even if it is a 10,15 or 25 years of marriage, patience is still on a test. We are having argument, disagreement, conflict especially when he came home from work, and I didn't finished from cooking,my patience is always on fire.

Third reason, is the difficulty of budgeting our money for the 15 days of expenses. Lately, I have a hard time to handle finances, because every week, we are having a shortage, especially when there is an instant need for school projects.

Those are some reasons why my patience is too short because it's often challenged everyday.

What do we need to enhance our patience? This may not be the perfect tips, but it will also help.

1. Practice

Why need to practice it? Just like learning music like playing a song or learning how to play guitar, we need to practice our patience to master it.

Practice makes perfect, but we know there's no perfect at all,maybe just in the middle,in the state of being controlled. It's not only applicable with cooking, driving, art, crochet, or writing. But, it's also applicable with patience. How do we practice patience?

Wherever we are today, it's our place of learning to be patient. If we don't practice to be patient, we really can't do it at all.

Here are some points to exercise our patience, I am not good at this, but maybe it will help you and me.

By listening

Listening is very important, everytime there is a conflict, we can processed the situation within ourselves if we listen. Most of the time, we lost patience, if we keep on talking. We just wast our time and energy if we don't pay attention to detail about everything. Listening intently, can help us to react carefully, and we can't cause harm, or any offensive words towards others. What we need to enhance our patience? We need to,

Understand each other

Everything that a person will say or do, have a reason underlying in it. That's why we need to listen for a further explanation. So that, we can comprehend in a better way, apart from our own assumptions. We can understand people if we,

Accept their weaknesses

Acceptance is better than resistance, will you agree? We can't change people, circumstances or anybody else. They may say, "I was born this way", and we can't do anything about it, so much better is to live peacefully, by accepting who they are. Yeah, it's too hard.But I see some people who successfully did it. And why do they do that? Because of,

Love

Yes, love can make you patient, love is one of the key that we can develop patience with ourselves. If we love our family, our neighbor, and the people we think don't deserved to be loved, we can live peacefully. Just like what happened with me and my two kids. Everytime I asked them something to do, I always want them to finished right away. But, the kids nowadays have different attitude than before, yes they do what I have requested but they also finished first with what they are doing. Maybe it's just a matter of,

Give and take

If we give love, understanding, and acceptance and we listen to them, we can enhance and practice our patience very well. Usually, I have the attitude that, "follow me first and I'll follow you". So, everybody in the house, don't like that way. But, once I showed them calmness, and patience, they will also do the same.

Most of the time, a mother says, "konti na lang pasensya ko ha, my patience is too small, (I don't know if my English is right), bantay ka sa akin, you better watch out.

But, along the conversation and for the whole day, they are enhancing their patience,and it keeps on growing and stretching,through that certain situations.

Imagine traveling on a street, where everybody is on the rush, during Monday, first day of the week, when you don't have patience in driving or commuting, what kind of life that would be?Even while we are here in writing article, patience is a need also, to patiently wait for rusty to visit,which we always waiting for everytime we publish.

For me, "Patience is power". Everything that is in us, is useless without it. If we are lack of patience we will be the one to suffer from the consequences. Our blood pressure might get higher, heart rate and other related in health issues.

"Patience is considered as the most powerful weapon for warriors. And if we realized it, it really does. A person who have tons of patience can overcome in every difficulties in life."

How did I help myself from losing patience?

Walk away - I think this is the most practical way to do, everytime I noticed that my patience is about to lose. I want to disappear, because even if I tell myself "calmed down", but I can't. So much better is to step apart from the situation or person that I'm into, and take a break of myself. How about you, what will you do?

Silence - If I almost lost my patience, I will not talk anymore. I just sit, and just listen, because I can't imagine myself of what can I can say, if I will allow myself to talk a lot. But, it's just seldom to happen, as a woman I want to speak all the time. And when I noticed that I can't go against the conversation, that's the time that I stop.

Everything that we need to accomplish daily, needs patience. Just like a farmers who plants corn,or rice in the field, they have to wait for few months before they can harvest. A mother who took care of her 1 month baby will wait a few more years before she can let her do what she/he want. A man who court a woman, a teacher who worked all day in school, a traffic enforcer, a police officer, a sales lady, a construction worker, a nurse and everyone here on earth need this armor called "Patience".

Today is another day that we will put on a test, before you packed your things today, or you wanna go anywhere. Make sure that you have bring with you, a bucket of patience.

Is there something that you've been waiting for, but it takes a long time? We can't speed up the time, all we can do is to keep holding on and have a bunch of patience?

There is one thing that I really want to achieve in my life, and until today I still didn't have it. Sometimes, I was thinking that I should never hope for it, but I guess I need to stretch my patience. What I tell to myself, "if this is for me, it will come, but if not, it will never happen".

Today, we need to live patiently, and have it(patience) more abundantly.

Good day!