"Painful way"

As much as possible,we don't like to experience painful ways in our life,we have desire that everything must have to be done in a smooth way.But as we always observed, as a person can experienced or learned the hard way of life will take a great transformations afterwards.

Just like my friend who is involved in a serious case and got arrested a few days ago,have now learned her lessoned how important to be kind ,and honest with her work.She learned her lessoned in a hard way which maker her cry,desperate , but it really did a great impact in her as a whole and will always be remembered as long as she lived,including the people that surrounds her.

What was the hard way that God has let you experienced and teaches a lessoned as well?

It was 9 years ago when I got married at a very young age,because I am a hard headed person who used to be a girl who will often insist and wants to be herself most of the time.In my whole life,I experienced to live away from my parents ,and lived with my husband place,in his parents house.I was a spoiled brat,a disrespectful one ,for disobeying my parents advice .But I must say,that this is the hardest way that my life was transformed completely,when I got sick with different illnesses for almost a year,on and off going to the hospital .And I wasn't able to make my parents to come with me because we live far from them.

I've learned to be strong,and stand in my own feet.As well as,I'm reminded to respect my parents,and always consider them in every aspect of my life.I thought of myself at that moment that karma is real for me.I was sick for a long time,that even if I already been hospitalized for further tests and checkups ,I never get better, I was admitted and got confined for almost 10 days,my kids were still young and it makes me cry most of the time.But it makes me to loved and start a better communication with my parents.

And when I'm at the point of feeling so helpless that's the time that I can recall my parents sacrifices for me.When I am on the situation to almost died for how many times,but still given chances,it makes me think to be the next version of myself,as I learned from it.

Painful ways in our life,is one of the best teacher I must say,which we can never learned from the book or any tutorials,if we can't surpass it personally.Painful ways may sounds that something that we never want it to happened but and to avoid it as much possible.But those painful ways can be the sweetest days where we take step into a changes,transformations that we are not planning to do so.

I am reminded of a song,"Via dolorosa"which means painful way,which is taken by Jesus as he carry the cross as a heavy burden and his greatest suffering in his whole life.

I think of myself,that my sufferings was not enough with what he has done. Everything that I've been through wasn't the same as he did,it was a sort of turning point in my life,that molds me into a person that I am today,although not perfectly,but I do have my beautiful scars which often reminded me and supressed my bad habits.

Everyday ,we may have experienced the difficult situations which we never want to,but in the end we will realized that it brings good to us on the other side.For someone,who is hard headed like me,may experience the hard way for the better. As we have experienced in our family,we never had a closed relationships with my aunt's,uncle ,and cousins,not until my grandmother,and Auncle have died last year.This situations , teaches us to keep closer our bond as a family,because we never knew what will happened for the next day.The absence of someone's presence was a painful way too of losing a family is really painful.

Like a driver who got wounds,bruises and hospitalized because of carelessness in driving,and not following basic rules like wearing helmet will now learned her lessoned afterwards.

Always remember that things might not be going smoothly today, it's still a very nice journey of life which we can experienced.The toughest ways of life are great tests to us as a human on how we were able to deal life as it is.Its not how good we are to pass all of this,but it's how we are patiently pondering the things that we are taking in.

As parents,we used to scold sometimes our children,and let them feel the pain through a stick because they are doing bad things against their friends or in our family circle.After that we will tell them what's their fault and why they are hurt by us,to help them realized their mistakes and give advices to do the right thing next time.It can makes them cry and makes them say sorry,and not to do it next time,but it's good to hear after.Scolding anyway,is not good to do more often,because it can makes them also rebellious if they are often hurt physically,much better to remind them or do some disciplinary actions or set of limitations.

There are lessons in life that we cannot learned through the simple way of listening or talking to others.I mean,it's a good way to learned but sometimes it takes to be hurt to transformed ourselves,it maybe circumstances or any undesirable happening that will take us to a hard days of being in pained were it become memorable ,it may have created scars in our heart but it will keep on reminding us to always do our best and never despise others good advices or just ignore them without valid reason.

Painful experiences can makes us fall down on our knees,and keep on pressing to do what is good,right and appropriate in Gods eyes and in the people.These experiences,maybe not the best but it was full of memorable learnings that can be shared and makes others too ponder to others who undergo the same thing.

This is what we called beautiful scars,as we looked back on it,although it gives us pain and created wounds in our heart and soon it will become a sweet memory that we can still be thankful to it.It makes us to be humble again that's transforms to a right directions.

That's all for today guys.

Regards to all of you,thank my new sponsor and the rest of you,I'm grateful for the continuous support.

Published :April 10,2022
At :6:52 am

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