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The Untrusted Wife

During the marriage vows in every marriage ceremony ,there is a promise given with each other in front of the witnesses and before the Lord in the altar.There was putting on a veil,which symbolizes unity and to become as "one body". After that they have putting on the rings ,with each other,and then the "wedding arras", is given to the wife which symbolizes trust of her husband to do so within the marriage.It is sealed with a prayer during the ceremony of the wedding.But there are some real life stories that this promised is not fulfilled. Here's a story of a woman who feel Untrusted financially with her husband. There was a woman named Gia who is married to a man that she met in their town.They already lived together for almost 1 year,but she never experienced to be trusted by her husband even a single penny when they have an income,when she needs something to buy like basic needs of a woman,she can't buy it right away because she needs to asked her husband first and ask for money. One day,there's a friend who came into their house early in the morning,she needs to buy coffee and bread for breakfast,that's why she take 60 pesos in her husband wallet and buy coffee and bread. When her husband came home,he was mad on her wife after counting on his wallet.He called her wife and asked her if she spend his money,and she said yes,because she needs to give food for their visitor.But the husband get angry and yell at him , he said why did she didn't ask permission before spending money.The wife feel ashamed and frustrated after his husband says that on her face,she cried a lot and get inside the room.She never eat and talk to her husband until the evening,she always thought,why did it happened to her?Why did she suffered such kind of situations ,which she think she don't deserved to be.When she was not married ,she had her work at the pharmacy but she gave up on it,because her husband wants her to focus on her duty as a wife. She felt too much desperate and regret,that's why she silently get out of the house and bring her handbag with her,she ride a tricycle and went to her sister who lived on the same village . Early in the morning her sister talked to her privately,and gave her an advice that she needs to go back to her husband because she is already had a commitment with her during their marriage and if she will not go back,she will sin against her vows.And she decided to go home and be with her husband again ,but there's nothing changed with them,the usual practice of her husband didn't changed . Gia wa sa God fearing person,and she said that she will keep her patience higher and higher so that they can keep their relationship together. The story ends here. As a wife,maybe if I was in her situation I can't let myself to stay for a long period of time.Its just that,it's okay to be like a house helper,or a nanny,and doing all the household chores,I deserved to keep what's belong to me. Personally,I will feel offended for that matter being Untrusted Wife.I am not like Gia who endure that kind of situation everyday in her life. As I come to this point,I remember what my instructor told us when I was in college .She often tells us,"that being a woman ,we should have find a way to earn,or work,at least we will not depend 100 percent with our husband".I will never forget those words which I can prove today that it was all true in my life and to a lot of and wife's. Honestly,when I first hear that from our teacher,I've come to react,that a husband has the responsibility to provide for the family,why should I need to work?And she says,"you'll never know what will happen to your marriage life in the future,what if your husband leaves you or doesn't trust you financially".And she is absolutely right. Maybe I will just focus not on the issue of women should have a job but on the "issue of trust". True love also means trust ,if you love a person you should have trusted her to managed the things she needs to do.I do experienced being Untrusted also in the first year of our marriage ,but I fight for my right as a wife and proved to my husband that i should have done my part,like budgeting the family basic needs,and other financial matters like bills and allowance for the kids. What is a wife if we are Untrusted ?We're not like a scare crow that is just placed on a ricefield standing there without movement .Marriage on the first place is a give and take process ,it a partitions of rules and obligations. Being Untrusted can make a wife think that she is useless and unable to do anything.It can also caused her to become emotional all the time ,feeling anger ,and demotivated to do her task each day. The Untrusted wife has a tendency to fail and commit undesirable kind of act that can destroy a marriage vows.When the time she felt Untrusted everytime,it can always trigger her to blame herself and felt too much regret. As what my friend told,that even if she will buy sanitary napkins she needs to ask her husband,if I was on her part ,maybe I couldn't last for long. To make a marriage life progressive I think both parties should helped each other to grow and not to let the other one degraded and abuse her rights as a wife. Don't let her shade her tears and emotionally struggle,she's just a woman,she needs trust. Any wife would like to hear the word.

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