One of the best advice I ever received

"Don't listen to everything that people say"

This is one of the pieces of advice that gives me a lesson, maybe a few months ago, that was given to me by one of the most important people in my life. I was stressed at that time because I heard a lot of humor in the neighborhood.

It's unavoidable that people talk about us when they see something new or rare thing that happens in our life. That's part of being human negative side of the character, in which there is a tendency to watch over others' flaws and give critic words whether a person is doing right or wrong.

If in case we are the subject of hearsay or a story we should keep in mind that people always have their own opinion about us. Concerning those who chose to keep quiet and just observe, most people say something, whether it's good or bad. As a human, part of us tend to fight back if we heard it, and it will soon result in another conflict.

Now, this lesson that I've learned says that,

"Don't listen to everything that people say". Why?

Because we know ourselves better than others, take charge of your emotions and, your thoughts so that they won't affect your effectiveness in whatever you do.

Mostly, it happens in our place where people especially the ladies will always gather in the roadside grocery store every afternoon, and they will talk about everything under the sun. Once we passed by, we sometimes heard them talking about us, or with another neighbor, that seems to me it appears as if they invading someone's privacy in their life.

It will just give us a stressful day if we always listen to what people say.

Our ears are like entry points towards our heart, into our mind, and will result in our actions. Your life is your responsibility, your choice. Of course, we co-exist with everybody else, because we are living as humans on earth. We should determine what are those things we will let come in with our hearts. We should ask first ourselves if the words that we hear are helpful, beneficial, and of course, if it's true, if it's just to destroy our peace of mind, we should never entertain them or pay attention.

In real life, the more we heard negative hearsay, the more it catches our attention. It's hard to let go, honestly, I too have been in conflict before because of it, but through time, I've learned to skip those things, the way people talk about everything, especially if it's non-sense or destructive to anyone, we should never let it pass to other people.

If we will not listen to everything that people say, what are those words that we should give our attention to?

• Helpful advice

Not everything that we hear outside is negative, there is also a lot of positive advice, that can help us. Either in our family life, skills, or business ideas that we can also apply in our private life.

• Encouragement words

Most of the time, I can hear encouraging advice from a speaker, just like when I attend a birthday celebration, a Thanksgiving party, and a worship service on Sunday. These are some of the occasions that I am willing to listen and learn.

• Deserved to be shared

This is valuable information that we need to inform our family, whether it is related to our health, safety, and any updates and improvements in society, or anything that can be a source of knowledge to someone who heard it.

• Personal experience

This kind of thoughts which I always have whenever I talked to elderly people, either my uncle, aunt, godparents, or my parents. Such kind words are also a source of wisdom, especially when it's shared from the heart.

As a hearer, we have the right to choose what specific words and thoughts that we want to listen to. In the end, it will just be added to our burden if we just let come in everything that we heard outside. We should not allow ourselves to be treated as a garbage bin that is filled with everything, including those that are waste and toxic things.

In this way, we can take care of our health as a whole. Fill your mind with good things and good things alone. This may be a hard thing to do, but this is what we should do.

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