Kindness for a change

"Kindness is one of the most valuable moral values that we need to extend towards other people.In our family, to everyone ,in the workplace,home,and circle of friends.

Yesterday,I was not active here because I have attend a quarterly gathering for women in our church.So,let me just share few things which I've learned yesterday.

Kindness is sometimes not shown in our life, it's not our instinct to be kind to people. According to the scripture it's the fruit of the holy spirit,it is being taught in school and also with our parents at home. Kind people are being loved by the community and everyone admire that kind of character.

Every good deeds that a person can exert comes from the heart,a good heart can never contain not to show it,when the heart is founded in a good way.

But there are tendencies that kindness will not come out of someone's heart here are some possible reasons.

• Callus heart

When I first heard this word yesterday, I was confused what does it mean, and we understand it,through the helped of google.

Callus is a hard thick part of the skin,mostly found in the feet and in our hands.This is how did it is compared of a unkind heart with a feet that has callus,it means that a man's heart couldn't feel compassion and love for other people.

This kind of description for a heart maybe funny, because a heart can never have a called, callus.But if we look at it deeply,its a serious thing, I can also compare this to numbness.When a person can't feel any sympathy or show kindness.There are some possible reasons why did it happen.

First is, fear to be misunderstood by people.Have you tried to extend help and being misinterpreted?Usually,it happens,but not at all times,.Second, the fear to be judge,that you have another intention or the motive was not good.People can think of different scenario, about this, but it really matters within our heart.Wht's important in my opinion, is we know ourself better, our intention and purpose of helping.It's not the criticism of others sould be our basis for extending kindness.

Just like a hand that full of callus,it can never feel hurt when you pinch it,they can sense nothing, but a heart with pure intention is like a heart of gold that shines in the outside.

• Self centeredness

"This word is used to described with oneself whose focusing only with his own good, benefits and didn't want to care for others even a little."

What is the problem of being too much self centered?A man's self centered character will not show any sympathy with the people who suffer and those who are in need.

Our life that is being entrusted to us temporarily was not meant to be used in any selfish desires in life,but it's meant to be shared with people.To share happiness and boost a person's confidence and encourages to become a better person in the community.

There is a principle that say,If we want to be kind to ourselves, we should be kind to others as well.

In short, what we give is what we received, being kind is to making a better world, to extend grace and happiness.

Every good deeds can make the world a beautiful.

What a beautiful world it is when the people are showing kindness with each other,the more you show kindness the more you make yourself a source a channel of blessing to anyone,a source of encouragement and positive outlook in life .

Examples of doing kindness

The way we speak

How to be kind in our speaking language?It is by using words which are not offensive or hurt people intentionally.Not to speak judgment with someone who did a mistake or fail.We are humans who can commit mistake,and as a part of being kind,it's not our part to makes others feel guilty through our words.

I'm not saying that we shouldn't give any corrections if someone will fail,we are to correct them but not in the form that will make a man shameful.

Here is a story;

There was a wife who accompany her husband in gathering with his family at night.The husband was offered to drink a wine with his relatives ,and the wife observed that her husband was not doing any good for their is a tendency that they will be accident if it will drink more.So,she told him to go home , but when the husband doesn't listen to his wife,the wife nagged in front of the public and everyone around was looking to her husband.She continuously nagged with may people looking at them,and the husband feel bad and they end up in a fight.

Our way of speaking had a great impact when it comes to showing kindness.We should learned to discern if we are doing the right thing with the people around.There is a right placement in every actions that we need to take.

Practical tips to show kindness

1.Tip extra

Are you an avid buyer with the shops online like shoppe or Lazada?

Here's one way to show kindness towards the delivery rider,to give an extra tip.I often heard some vlogs on you tube about interviews with the riders of these delivery shopping store that there work was not easy.Some of them can even received an insult with the customers.So,as a responsible and kind customers,we can extend we them an extra tip if we have something to give.

2.To express our kindness with the mother earth-"Plant a tree".

As we all know that the earth we're treated unfairly by many,especially through emitting gasses from vehicles and factories,businesses in our respective area.

To express our kindness towards the earth,we can "Plant a tree",to show our concern towards the mother earth.

3.Hold doors open

It usually happens when we enter a fast food,bank,remittances center, or any establishments.Will there be a time that next to you is a pregnant woman,an old lady,a breastfeeding mom,or a person's with disabilities?One way of expressing kindness is through opening a door in a certain time that your presence was needed.

4.Say hello to your parents

This is applicable most especially when we live apart from our family,and our residency was far from them.To make a call and inquire if they are fine or how's their life going on.My friend have shared yesterday,that their parents were both old aged,and she noticed that they became demanding when it comes to giving attention to them.That's why all of their children have gathered every now and then with their parents house.

5.Apply good manners and right conduct

Way back when I was in grade 1,we called this subject,GMRC or Good manners and right conduct, I think it was 1996 when I'm on the first grade.I remember when our parents will get mad on us,they will tell us ,why didn't we apply the values or GMRC that we have learned in school.

Some people may even blame the teachers or parents for not reaching the children with proper attitude.As far as I know,children's are already taught,but there is really a certain point in their life that they depart from what is good and proper.As elders ,our part is to always remind.

If there is a so called,"climate change, there should be an attitude change to help making this world beautiful.I always believe that there is good in us, we just need to let it out.

Help to build the wold a better place.

That's it for today guys, I'm drafting this last night but I just finished this Morning, at 5:42 AM.

Thanks for being kind to me my sponsors,upvoters and readers.

This article is a form of reminders to all of us to never forget to show kindness especially to those who suffer from natural disasters like flood and other calmities.No one can help us except we help each other.

Thank you all.

Long live!

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