Faithfulness in a relationship

Hello dear readers. Sorry for not being active lately, this past few days I was too busy doing a lot of things in my personal life, especially as a mom and wife. But, it's my topic today. One thing that catches my attention is my friend who posted on her social media account who is about to commit suicide, it was yesterday. So, we were alarmed in our group chat with what she's planning to do, because we're far from her.

We were surprised on why did she wants to do it. Later on, we found out that she have committed mistake to her husband, that she felt lonely about it. Her husband worked in the city, for a long time already. And every week, her husband will send her money for their children's food allowance.

They are both young couple. After all reading her post, she has pointed out that her husband also did the same thing to her, and she's just paying it back by doing the same mistake. But, in the end they suffered together as a family. They left their kids who are too young, because they need to settle themselves. Until, the woman have decided to take her life because of shame, that she's having a lot of regrets by doing that mistake. We were trying to encourage her through chat, and it seems that we're too late already, because she said she was bleeding. I don't know what she did, because I didn't asked her. I just tell them, to never give up, every day is a new start over, there is still hope for them. After a few minutes of conversation, she has already calmed down and decided to start over again.

Long distance relationship

She mentioned that it's one of her reason why did she became an unfaithful wife, because her husband is far from her. Also, her husband have also the same reason for being unfaithful husband. They both hurt each other, they did the same mistake, which cause their whole family in trouble.

Long distance relationship is quite challenging. As for me, I have frankly tell my husband that I'm not for that kind of set up. Well, it depends with our choice, because I also knew some couple who remain faithful to their spouse despite of a distance relationship.

But my friend have accepted that she's really weak, and she was being blame by her family in both sides. I feel so sorry for her, because she felt nowhere to go.

When a woman became unfaithful, it really sounds badly

My husband and I, have talked a while ago, that it has a difference when a woman commit mistake than men. When man became unfaithful, some people say, it's normal because he is a man, and will always be. But, when a woman bound to finding other, seems like she loses her dignity and will walk like no face at all.

Faithfulness maybe not based on a distance for sure, but it's within our heart, and true love that binds together.

Man and woman are both weak

My friend and her husband have become unfaithful with each other. There was no exemptions with temptations when it's your way. It will do its best to drag you out of the way. Women are weak, especially when it comes to showing affection and care by a man. And because she felt the emptiness in her heart while her husband is away, she grab that kind of side relationship which is wrong in front of the public.

And because both are weak, they need each other, to fill their emptiness.

Committing in a relationship doesn't assured that life will going smoothly, but there's a lot of test and trials along the way.

Public condemnation

One of her reason in attempting suicide, it's because the people in their village are condemning her,especially her relatives, who are pointing out their finger towards her for such wrong doings. She felt drowning in shame, like she can't go out with her face towards the people.

We live in a conservative community, where the people are observing morality. That's why she goes down into depression and can't control her emotions anymore.

Failure but a big turning point

Everybody looked at the situation negatively, and some people are mocking at them. But, what's nice with them, is that they accept their mistake, and forgive each other, accepting one another, and start over again.

As human being, nobody can guarantee 100%, to stand against temptation when it drags you down. That's why there's a word called, " new beginning", because we literally fail every now and then.

They have decided to start a new life together, as a family. And they have submitted themselves to God, to guide them along the way.

Having a faithful spouse, is such a great blessing in our life. We may not have all the riches in the world, but if we have a loyal partner, it helps us to live life happily despite of hardship in our daily living. It's like earning a treasure which never be compensated.

Lastly, I'm just glad that both of them have decided to reunite again, because their kids were still too young. I can't imagine how the kids life will going on, if their parents will broke apart.

And also, if we have some friends who are experiencing the same situation, just please not to tell them harsh words, especially when they are depressed. We should watch our words too, to avoid, any additional problem with the person.

Faithfulness in marriage is one thing that we can left behind as a legacy to our children and in the next generation of married couple. Marriage is a sacred commitment to God, we should always cherished it.

Have a Good day!