Warring To Overcome Anger
One of the greatest enemies we all have to battle with are not always from our friends or neighbours but mostly from our habits that needs restructuring, one of the supposed habit that could pose a threat to us is the common anger, yes common anger, it starts off as common until its not so common anymore. Anger exist in us all, and you know as crazy as we can be, we sometimes take pride in the severity of our anger, for instance two people are getting into an argument, you're most likely to hear one of them say " you don't want to see the other side of me". As much as anger is bad, most of us pride in it. One bad reason why anger should be intentionally war againstis is its controlling power, when it takes over, there is very little to do to return to that calm state, you see someone who is furious already, he or she keeps ranting on and on, going tro and fro causing mayhem. Mostly until the deed is done do we see calmness return, then the deed done Starts playing its part, and that's the crazy thing anger has to offer, it's effects never ends. That action you took while you were very much angry is the bait in there, and while you were taking actions, you never knew you were taking on the bait, a bait that might as well hunt you for a longer time. This is crazy guys. I have experienced a lot of things gone at the hands of a smoke of anger uncontrolled. Many sweet and enviable relationships ended without a chance of coming back again. The havoc and choas that could have been averted but not, rather it has created a very huge rift, a rift that would take more than a lot to fill up. Anger works aren't so easy to amends, especially when the actions taken were in deep hate at the moment. Imagine getting into a fight only to injure someone so bad, how then do you apologize after you both has called off the fight and settled it all? Do you have flesh to place back on the others beaten injury. How then do you keep an eye contact with such person in a discussion, when your mind Keeps reminding you that you were the cause, like "take a look at what you did, you did that" you'll think the person hasn't forgiven you yet. Saying sorry has never been the answer to all disagreements and conflicts, especially in the case of anger, saying sorry can most times cause more hatred, why say sorry now the other can say, so after all what you did, now that's its time for me to have my revenge you are coming with apologizes, no way. Just like a nail it to the war by mistake, after it has been discovered to be a mistake and the nail is taken off, the hole ( which is the bored nail effect would still be dear and cannot be easily closed up. Deal With It One way to easily deal with it is to plan before hand. When I'm in a gathering of people who are so annoying, especially with the choice of their words and how they do the things they do. I immediately know this guys may step on my toes, so I say to myself I won't get angry, no I would bear it and stay happy. They aren't worth the stress and anger, I simply choose to stay happy regardless. With this self proclamation, its easier for me to remember not to loose my cool, so I don't go taking actions that I might regret later. Another better way is to know who I move with. You could choose to go with the first option, but you won't be able to do that every time, for sure one day you'd have had it to the brim and can't take it anymore. So best still is to know who are the people you associate with and know what they are capable of. Those ones who are sure to bring out the worst in you, should have limited time out with you, even as you try cautioning that you're not enjoying their patterns of speech. Anger truly brings out the beast in us, a quiet guy today who is well respected could be taken for a beast with people drawing far from him because of a one time display of anger. They forget we are all human and we could easily snap out of our cool and just go crazy. But it's detriments are so bad, you don't want to work with that, anger breeds so much hate, learn to dissolved it within and not express it. The Bible says the sun shouldn't set on our anger, we all can be angry, yes old, young, teens, anyone and everyone can get angry to the extreme, enough to cause a catastrophe, so we all need to work on it, look within do you have anger issues, now is the time. Its good you work on controlling it. If there is one thing we humans need to war against because of our nature, one of it would most definitely be anger. Work on how you act on getting annoyed. Thanks For Reading.
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Sometimes we don't just be angry to take pride in it but to warn the people of possible reactions of us getting angry.
Yes you know right. Well all is well
Saying sorry is not enough. I've met a lot of people who often made me so angry and they've reached my boiling point. I just couldn't take it so I showed them who they're messing with. From then, I choose to be with someone who will bring the best out of me, not the beast.
I can relate too, its best we be with someone who brings out the best in us and not the beast In us.
Sorry is not enough but it can mend the broken one. Human as we are we get angry at anything we can control it if we want to.
Yes we sure can control it, but it isn't very easy, we have to be self determined, if not we'll just see ourselves getting angry repeatedly.
You're right when you said we should deal it with it dealing with anger doesn't mean you'll be angry with the people who angers you. Instead, ignore them because they are not worthy of the stress.
Ignoring them is a fast way out, no need for confrontation no need to get pushed to the wall.
I agree.
I feel for your brain , I think people around you makes your brain work alot.🤯🤪...May be you should avoid them or shut them off when they talk🤧😅
That's true dear, if we know we have limited tolerance then its best we avoid.
Yes indeed when you know how to deal with the people you can also know how to react to whatever actions they would have.
That's right, more reason why we need to understand how to deal with the different kinds of people we know.
Indeed. We just don't have to master it just having the knowledge on how to manage is already an advantage.
Self control is important.
That's so true, it's very important.
Anger management is a trait we should all have. This is important both for our own health and for our loved ones. Patience and hobbies suitable for patience help in anger management.
Yes you're so right, anger management is a key trait we all need to have.
Sorry will never be enough for me, saying this words won't change anything that already done, things that hurt you things that you'll never forget, but we're all humans, we all sinners, saying sorry is just to satisfy ourself to erase the guilt and also to mend with the painful feelings. For me those people who done me wrong, I accept their apology but I'll never forget what they did. Accept but don't forget.
Yes I guess you're right, forgive but never you forget what they did. This way we are wiser.
I tend to overcome short term angers easily. I know I won't benefit if I continue to dwell in it.
Yes there are no benefits in dwelling with anger dear. You'll overcome it surely.
Thank you so much. :)
I totally agree with you,that anger is the main cause of failure of any relation.Once the words come out of our mouth,we would not be able to replace them and to remove the scar from the others hearts.So we should must think before we speak and should try to control our anger.
Indeed we must learn to control our anger. Its Paramount we do so. Over time anger has done so much bad.
The most easy way to get someone physically, emotionally, even spiritually bis by their anger simply because the spirit of anger will definitely destroy thing and that is what God say "be angry but never let the sun set with it in you"
Hmm this is deep and so true, that angry time is a time to be more sensitive so we don't destroy what we've built.
Yes that's just the truth
Yes it's just the truth