You have your needs, the necessities and then you have your wants, your desires, it's worth differentiating, we need to be able to prioritize the needs from the wants, this way we are in plan and know which agenda to follow up with more effort compared to others. But situations where we go for wants and spend so much efforts and investments on it, there may be little or nothing left to go for the needs, the necessities should be prioritized best, then off the rest we deal with the wants.
I feel one major part to living our lives in the best possible way is being able to distinguish between what we are feeling and what we should feel, more like knowing the difference between what my heart craves for and what option is best for my heart. Most times our human cravings and heart desires longs for those things that would not be pleasant to us, many are already addicted to habits that are health threatening, we know its bad, we know we don't need this or that but yet we mostly go with our heart desires much more than we go with our critical thinking.
Haven't you seen toxic relationships, the man or woman knows this is bad for me, it would take a lot of endurance to keep pushing through each day with this man or with this woman, but yet we stay either because we are in love or sometimes we still have a few things to benefit, or hanging on because of what would people say. Our brains are not asleep, as long as we are in our right state of mind, we would surely know what is toxic to us, then it'll be our decision to either continue or stop it now. People don't really change because they want to please you or because you demand them too, it mostly because of an encounter that has humbled them into knowing its time to call this or that a quit. So weigh the options this are your desire and this are what you should need, however which would you follow?
With each passing day its becoming clearer that we are the ones to select that which we truly want out of life, life stays on a neutral ground not seeking your downfall and at same time not seeking your upliftment, its just like a field, how we are positioned and the choices we make determines the outcome. With these no one can truly be held accountable for the outcomes of your life, being born into a very poor family is a disadvantage already from the start, however few have been through worst and today are at the top, so the high aims are not mission impossible, they are very achievable, and that we shall achieve.
Who do you want and who do you need, know this first then you can start evaluating if you can go with your heart desires or you should consider your life and go with who you need. Some people who are our true desires are not good options to be acquainted with, it would be a bad choice however we lust for them, maybe their beauty, maybe their physical appearance, maybe their social status, but then there's another you should go for preferred, those are who you truly need, they can bring the best of out you, help your career, make a good family together, career and personality on point, these are what you know you truly need but the desires for the eyes are so tempting.
Its not always about the beauty and physical attractions, with time all these would begin to matter less, as you would be focused on family and kids, then you'll Want a man or a woman very responsible be enough to be called daddy or mommy, and not one who is better off being single. Your life and future goals matters more at every point so I always suggest that we go with who we need In our lives and not just who we want. However you'll be lucky if who you want has the attributes of who you need in your life. Then it's a win win already.
Also there are things we want and there are things we need. However because this are things and not a person, they can all be gotten but then it has to be placed in a scale of preference, that's doing the more important (the needful) before the less important (the want). However; should that which you want is detrimental to your life or health then its very advisable you stop it and rather go on with what you need.
So we place it all in order of their importance, there are things more important than the other, we might want to do or get this first but we know its a better choice to go with that first. The choice remains ours, no one calls the shots but us, and so we only can be blamed for our decision and outcome thereafter. Getting a job first might be better than getting a car, getting food might be needed first before going to lecture, giving money to your parents or family is always better first than giving to attractive girls or boys, getting your education first before getting pregnant especially for the teenagers. We can all think and that's all we need for making the right decisions.
Life can be better with more improved decision if we can think things through before we act.
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