As You Go About Your Day, Remember To

• Tell yourself ‘I am so proud of you for making it this far’ – no other person better than you can tell your story. It has been you and yourself from the very first day you existed. You’ve struggled through life battles; lost some, won some and you’re alive still struggling for a much better life. A lot of person’s didn’t make it this far, some worked even more than you do yet they couldn’t achieve what you have. You should at least compliment yourself (of course having giving the first praise to the maker) for what you’ve achieved. Being proud of yourself is a bad only if we do it excessively so once in a while tell yourself that you’ve done well. Take pride in yourself.

• Do at least one nice thing for yourself each day – we go around doing all sort of things trying to be nice to people and then feeling all excited when others call us nice girl or nice guy. We focus so much on pleasing other people without actually taking out time to please and be nice to ourselves. You tell other people after making a mistake that ‘it’s only but a mistake let it go and move on’ but when you make a mistake; you beat yourself up too hard. C’mon we shouldn’t do that. You, matter a lot. Treat yourself nicely.

• The first person you need to be loyal to is yourself - loyalty is a top value word for many and shown when you strongly support and allegiance to a person or organization. It is a great quality one could have but this lofty attribute stinks like slime if you betray yourself to prove loyalty to others. Like for real?? Yea relationships with others is good but the most important is the relationship with yourself. Why do things that are detrimental to your wellbeing because you are trying to prove something to someone else? Taking care of you is not selfish! You should do same for you can’t control people’s thoughts plus as you know humans are not satisfied. Why would I then go against myself to prove to someone that might end up going against me if I make a mistake? I will never do that ever. You should too.

• Focus more on being your own source of happiness – it is important you discover yourself and make yourself happy instead of relying on someone else to do that for you. Learn to be contented with what you have and don’t wait until a boyfriend or girlfriend comes along before you’re happy. If the latter is what you do I ask you, what will then happen to you when they leave? You would be jumping to another? lol

• Asking for help and accepting it will change your life – this is a part that I also need to learn from. For a very long time, I’ve always had this thought that receiving aids from someone out of the family is a sign of weakness and a point where people would use against you sooner or later so I tried to avoid any form of help rendered to me and if I’m in a point where I had no choice but to accept, I subconsciously become tensed looking for ways to repay the favour so that I don’t feel indebted at all. This might be true in a way but most of the time in my interactions I’ve realized that someone lending a hand does not mean he/she is expecting anything in return like I feared. They are people who cheerful givers who give because they care so rejecting something it is very wrong and hurtful. The scenario of telling my destiny helper when it he/she comes unknown to me that ‘I don’t need anything’ whereas they are a lot is frightening lol.

• Life is short. Tell people you love them – this fact is what we try our best to ignore but the truth remains that no one knows the day and time where he/she would exit this world. So why would you keep those feelings in your heart only and risk the uncertainty of whether you’re loved in return or not? Let it out already. Tell them how much you care about them and enjoy the moments you’ll share. No one knows tomorrow.

I’ve been away for a while infact this is my first article for the month of July. I’ve really missed reading and interacting with interesting articles. I’m happy to be back although not fully.

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