Cheers to the pain, we choose to hide..

If you had read my previous article; I didn't say yes to Dengvaxia vaccine (dengue part3) The fourth patient was my husband's niece and I said there that she only had a father and her mother leave her when she was a baby. And while she is growing I noticed some different behaviors on her. I'll try my best to discuss it from the start...

From what do you think the reasons why mothers leave their child?

The Primary causes of child abandonment have been found to be Poverty, Financial hardships, being a Single parent, Post-natal depression, Mental illness, a lack of Sexual health education, lack of knowledge on family planning, restrictions regarding access to abortion, the child having some form of disability. And the pregnancy was caused of being rape or abuse by partner.

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My husband's niece, her name is Mariel is one year older than my eldest and before we had our own house we lived in our in laws house. Mariel's mother and i are friends and because of our young age and unplanned pregnancy we don't have our own home so our husbands decide to lived together with their parents. My husband is the younger brother of mariels father. I was only 18 years when i got pregnant and mariel's mom was only 17. We became good friends but my brother in law that time seems not serious on having a family unlike my husband he was focused that time on how to earn. I remember we have nothing, as in nothing from the start, I mean if we want to stand on our own we will bring nothing except the time that my mom accepts us and help us. Back to mariel's mom she's the one who'll give birth first and I was the second one. And as I remember they didnt even prepare the things they'll be needing in the hospital. My mother In law is the one who carries there problems. The mother of mariels mom is poor like my husband so they got mad because she was very young to be pregnant. Her husband is the eldest but he has no stable work he only drives tricycle so he'll have money for the day. But I didn't saw him provide for his wife, his a bit naughty that time and I don't what to interfere with them. This only based on my observations. And I dont want to judge them,

Weeks, Months passes by so quickly her due date is a bit to come and luckily my mother in law had the things they needed. But mariel's mom also had asthma so they hope no complications will apply while her delivery. And the time come we went on panic and I was left in the house. She said It was so painful but she was with her husband and she's calling "mama." Our mother in law. She is so good to be true, kind hearted, thoughtful and patient. After how many days they managed to got home. I told her she's brave and her baby is so cute. But days passed we were shocked she lived her baby Alone... I asked my brother in law what happened and what did he did what's the reason she left? But he only answered "I don't know what's in her mind?" Then they got no choice but to took care of the baby.

Before mariel was left by her mom we were living in our aunts place. So i only got the chance to see them when I want too or my husband's want to visit there place. Years had gone so fast. My in-laws really loved mariel because my sister In law was the only girl in their family but she went away, on abroad she was the Bread winner of the family. But the most shocking part was her aunt really hated her but shes doing nothing only was she was very loved by her grandparents. This is not because she Is the favorite grandhild will get envy that fast. What we need to do is understand her situation as well us she has no mother to look after.

There was also the time that I've pitty her a lot, she's doing everything and anything but it seems her aunt really hates her. I've witnessed some episodes were my sister In law is so hot headed and I just said I'll do it ate.. my sister in law and mother in law was about to fight that time but I stopped them. Even if I'd able to stop them I heard that they have fights because of mariel. I really see my self on her when I was a kid my aunties didn't like me at all. They lived in other countries and they only visit my mom and lola. I remember I was Pinched by my aunt because she saw me watering the plants but I used the glasses she bought. She told me you don't belong here I hated you a lot. But I didn't tell my mom what happened...

This was the time that she aged already about 15 years old and asked a million times on her self what was the thing I did wrong? She also stayed in our house. And that was the time that she told me her pain and hardships. Tita I want to answered her but I think for lola and lolo. When i grewn up I'll get them feed them and they'll stay by my side.. we got our own house and I really didn't want to interfere with them only thing is the news is spreading so fast.

And I told her to cry all out loud and as many tears as you can. And maybe after, you'll feel better. I also told her i was like you before but after I cried with out anyone seeing me. I stood straight and tell myself I didn't loose myself they were maybe envy for the things I have. And i also told her, those people will make you more stronger. Use them to inspire your thoughts and also pray so you'll have no anger and hatred in your heart but rather peace and more kindness within...

Conclusion

After the pain and hardships we been through we must forget those people who hurted us alot. A wound will always leave a scar, and so as the pains we experienced. But while seeing that scar you will remember how it heals. And you wouldn't also noticed that your smiling after you cried a lot, because you were so strong hiding those pains and tears. So for those who relate upon us! Cheers, and Cheers to those pain we choose to hide....

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Love, UsagiGallardo215 🌙

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