Educating our children to choose the possible careers for them

Published: August 25, 2022
Time: 11:06 PM
Article #: 190

So, last night, as my siblings and I were conversing over dinner, we sprang into conversation with several of our cousins and relatives about their academic pursuits. We started talking about one of my relatives who just graduated from college a few months ago and is having problems finding work. Actually, one of the largest private institutions in the City is where my relative completed the course. Sad to say, he doesn't seem content with what he took. This is due to the fact that his parents chose that path.

I, therefore, had numerous conversations with him while he was still a student in college. Because he seemed to be under so much parental pressure, I find it difficult to advise him to switch to a different path. He occasionally asks me for assistance with his essays and thesis, and in the end, it seems that he didn't like the entire course.

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Furthermore, he doesn't really grasp anything, which makes it difficult for him to obtain work now that he has graduated. Although it may be a stressful situation, our sister advised us to help, and we have already done so. What if he genuinely isn't motivated to assist himself? Are we going to keep spoon-feeding him?

It's particularly sad because my cousin looks to be a late bloomer and it's clear that his parents pampered him with attention. They are living a very comfortable life because his father works as an engineer overseas. It's unfortunate that they didn't assist their son in making a decision. Because they said the task was satisfactory upon completion, this cousin's mother simply copied her son's course there with their relative on the opposite side.

This is a toxic trait in Filipino parents. The other parents just follow the trend. They can't even ask their children if they are happy with what they are doing.

I remembered a phrase from Social Media,

"They are only there when you become successful, but before you get there, you're just alone".

For us, this is awful. I occasionally understand because I'm one of those people who doesn't have parental support. They just know that I am a good student and that I earn good grades, but I go alone to get there. I am the only one that pushes myself to strive on this so that I can succeed as soon as possible.

Please, parents who are reading this blog, do not force your child to take a course that he does not see himself liking. We lead independent lifestyles. Instead of just making comments, why don't you just help us out with our desires? Actually, pushing us to the things we don't like only makes us more stressed.