Published: August 5, 2022
Time: 11:43 AM
Article #: 174
I've been thinking to write a blog about this topic but since it is still giving me a lot of thoughts, I decided to push myself writing it na lang but since it is a confidential topic, I will not drop any names for security purposes and I will try to filter some words that might be not recommended to use in this platform.
Anyways, this topic is about parenting so if you are a parent or a guardian, I will appreciate any suggestions and advise on this topic.
So Nina, not her real name, is a close friend of mine. She also has an eleven-year-old daughter who enjoys playing online video games like Roblox. This eleven-year-old child also has a Tiktok at the same time. So one day Nina discovered her daughter doing an activity "down there" in herself. And because my friend concluded right away that her kid was doing 'that,' she became furious with her daughter and questioned her where she learnt that. Because her child is unaware of what she is actually doing, she just told her mother that someone had instructed her to do it.
And you know what's even more frightful? She was instructed to do it each time she gets an itching feeling down there by someone from the gaming app (we are still unsure if that person was her co-player or someone else).
When Nina found out that someone from the online game had told her daughter how to do it, she got mad at the child and broke the girl's phone. Nina revealed to me that her daughter stopped speaking to her after that incident.
When she informed me of this, I advised her to closely monitor her daughter's movements. In addition, I advised her to just attempt to talk with her daughter and be a good listener so that the youngster would actually understand something important at this early period of her adolescence. Thankfully, Nina assured me that she would do her absolute best to communicate with her child. Additionally, I advised her to see a psychologist in case her child needed counseling.
After hearing that narrative, I began to second-guess a lot of things, particularly when it came to having a child. I am constantly wondering what might happen because I also have a son who is eight years old. Children's personalities are greatly influenced by the internet and online games. We must also be conscious of the possibility that whatever they see online could have influence on them.
Some children also learn things quickly. They act out of what they see. Therefore, it is our responsibility as parents to ensure that our children spend enough time with us and are not overly engaged in digital. I also realized that at this early point, we must now try to communicate with them appropriately and effortlessly discuss these sensitive things.
That's why I am pro to the use of contraceptives din ate at early age nakakatakot na kasi lalo na kapag babae anak mo.
Totoo yan talaga.
True yan langga kaya dapat bantayan talaga ang mga bata kasi kung ano makikita nila sa paligid gagayahin din nila.
Yesss ate nakakatakot tlga mga bata ngaun. Di pwedeng iwan basta basta.
Oo langga dapat bantayan talaga sila palagi.
I agree in 100%
Kailangan talaga minomonitor yung bata palagi lalo na pag May hawak na phone. Kaya yung mga anak ko, ayaw ko maghawak ng phone hindi lang dahil sa mga ganyang bagay kundi dahil isa din yan sa rason kung bakit ang tigas na utusan ng mga bata.
Agreee! Anak ko eh ganyan din lalo na pag nasanay na maglaro kelangan lagi may condition. 🥱
I think Nina has the right to get angry but not too angry with her kid, because her kid didn't know that it's not right. She'll be more confuse and afraid to open uo to her mom causing more problem. Hope they'll be in good terms again soon because her child needs utmost help
Yes, nina was a bit guilty of that actually. But as far as I know, they are now doing well now.
agoi.kakatakot nun lalo na babae pa naman anak niya.as a mom of a teenage lagi kong minomonitor yung mga socmed niya kahit busy ako I still take time na mag monitor sa mga kausap niya or activities niya online.
True!!! Same me ate ung youtube lalo eh lagi ko tinitignan. Buti naman eh di sya mahilig sa mga online games. Okay na sya sa minecraft na offline.
Grabe un, sana masupil nya pa ang anak nya lalo at nasa stage na tlga ito na kung saan nagiging curios na sa mga bagay bagay.
Di natin masisisi ate ung mga bata kasi tlga eh ma curious sila sa lahat ng bagay. Maski ung anak ko kapag may nakikita syang bago eh sobrang matanong niya.
True talaga sis kaya nga minsan yung mga bata ngayon marunong ng magsalita ng masasama or di kaya parang alam yung mga bagay na dapat matatanda lang ang nakakaalam.
Nakakatakot no sis? Ilang taon pa lang dami ng alam. Nakukuha kasi kung san san.
Legit sa internet and online games sis, minsan dun nila natututunan ung nga di natin naituturo sakanila. Kaya ginagawa namin, yung pamangkin ko pinapalayo namin sa soc med
Aigoooo ilang taon na pamangkin mo,?? Iba na kasi mga kabataan tlga ngaun lalo na online class
12 sistag
I agree with you, sis. It is through communication and strong parental guidance that every guardian should have to impose.