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The Inner Conversation, An Exercise In Self-Talk

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How do you treat yourself? Do you treat yourself the same as everyone else or do you treat yourself differently? Before you answer this question think about the top five or ten people that you interact with such as: family, friend’s, coworkers etc. Your True Success depends greatly, but not totally, on the way you treat and interact with yourself as opposed to other people. Many times we fail to recognize the injustice of treating ourselves with extreme negativity through our inner- conversations. The negative internal-conversation reflects back to us as shortcomings in the way we interact with other people.

Our inner-conversation is very important as we interact with inner-circle groups in which we feel most at ease such as: family, friends, coworkers, etc. The inner conversational interaction can determine where we place ourselves in the structural dynamics of the group. A negative inner- chatter can cause us to adopt the idea we are worth less in comparison to others in our social groups. In this case one would be treating himself or herself in an nonconstructive, non-pragmatic, and pessimistic manner.

If you constantly compare yourself to other people in search of your own faults, they will most definitely be revealed. Self- assessment or making comparisons between ourselves and others is fairly common in group dynamics interaction; however, self-evaluations in comparison to others can lead to great self-disappointment. This is not since you are less than others around you but because the strong perception can be adopted that this is the case, when in fact it is not the case at all. You are not meant to be like everyone else in the world. You are different and should act in a manner which dictates understanding that this uniqueness is more than acceptable.

If you are stuck in the mindset that you must fit in with your closet group of friends and family, then whatever this group is achieving at its highest position is exactly where you’ll end your achievement. This would not be expected to happen in every case; but, it does happen quite frequently. People establish a hieratic structure in social groups and develop comfort levels within those structures. Whether the group is highly successful or failing miserably everyone finds their place. We act in the same fashion as the company that we keep.

If you keep poor company, it will become extremely difficult to act in a manner which brings wealth achievement. This idea can keep a person on the lowest rungs of the ladder for an entire lifetime. Think differently of yourself and place yourself on a higher standard of mindset which includes total success. Backup this new mindset with actions facilitating continued growth through the attainment of knowledge in directions you choose. Then, your new approach will reveal definite destination leading to successes not recognized ever before.

While focusing on thinking of yourself a different than everyone else in the world, an individual, think of this idea. If roads were being built and everyone could only perform one task like digging with a shovel then the road would only be dug up. Every man or woman on the road crew would only be able to start the construction process. However, there would be no one to grade the road, lay the gravel, or set the concrete in order to assure the road’s surface is drivable.

There would be no one in the crew to survey or set the directions in which the road should be laid. Moreover, there would be no one to drive the heavy machinery to make the road a finished product. We must think of ourselves as different from everyone else so that as a group each member is able to perform their specific duty.

As we think about life and the True Success journey we must be sure to take into serious consideration these factors. Almost everything we are taught from youth onwards, teaches us to be like everyone else, to fit in to the crowd, to not create waves or walk to the beat of a different drum. This is in complete contrast of the way the world’s wealthy think and behave. If you think about the most innovative people throughout history you will find these people thought higher than the status quo. These innovative people thought and acted outside of what people expected of them. Many times people like this are looked upon as “crazy” or “trouble makers”. There are many people in this category such as; Dickens, Van Gogh, or Tolstoy who have change the way people look at the world. Or the more ridiculousness of people like the creator of “The Pet Rock” Gary Dahl or Slinky mastermind Richard James who’ve made hundreds of millions from their products.

Many times we fear being different as we think it will bring ridicule by our peers. There will always be someone who is going to disagree with you if you are doing things differently than them. I have to say to this “so what”. So what if people think you are weird or different than everyone else? So what if people think you do not fit the status quo or that you are creating waves. If you know that what you are doing is helpful and will create positive results for you or it makes constructive contributions to the world, go for it! Thinking you are the same as everyone else will almost always assure you stay the same as everyone else. This idea can remain for most of your life or at least until deliberate change takes place. Fearing what other people think of you can lead to a lack of motivation for making changes that will create success.

We must take chances in life if we want to reveal that we have something exceptional to offer the rest of world.

"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." Leo Tolstoy

If there is a little voice inside you telling you to move towards a certain direction my advice is that you listen and then take action as quickly as possible. I say this with the caveat that the voice is telling you to do something constructive not destructive to your True Success journey. That little voice may be nudging in the directions of your true calling in life. Never be satisfied with being a part of the average crowd and definitely never be content with the position in life that someone else has dictated for you.

Create an understanding in the mind that this world needs movers and shakers who think outside the box and who refuse to be just another road digger. The world has to have road diggers however it only takes a few to perform that task. The world needs people to perform the other task which will make the road usable for the masses. We could use more people in the world who exercise courage to move forward in life despite the negative perceptions one might possess. There is no need to stand on the sidelines waiting for other people to do all the work either.

It is time to build the confidence to take chances no matter what the outcome. People who build and cultivate the courage to be different instead of remaining the same seem to always reap the positive benefits in one form or the other. Some people reap these benefits on the world stage while others obtain them on a personal level. If the group in which you spend most of the time does not have a person whom you can look to as showing true courage then step up and become that person. Be the trailblazer, the leader of the pack, the one your family and friends will say “wow” John, Susan, etc. is really making a difference in their life. “I want to know what they are doing.”

Do not make change in your life for anyone else. Do it for you, but do it in a manner that people take notice. Don’t display courage as an opportunity to show how big your ego is. Use the opportunity to inspire others to want to move in the directions in which you are going.

The second quote if from CLP “Change Your Mind; Change Your Life Journey, Forever.” This citation is absolutely true. If you change your mind your entire life will begin to take a different more constructive and positive direction. Every person is what he or she thinks and focuses on the most. Therefore read this book as many times as it takes to alter your current psychology in order to make changes now affectively honing the mind of the person you desire to be in the future. If you have fears use them to drive you, not to hold you frozen, stuck in current negative situations. Feel free and playful about the True Success journey! Allow your True Success journey to be a playground in which no other person is allowed to dictate how you interact in this space.

If you like this article please read more content from me that's geared toward your complete success.

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Respectfully, Michaelson Williams; tsx, The True Success Expert

References: Thomas Plante, Ph.D. said in a 2013 publication of Psychology Today “In a nutshell, we constantly compare ourselves with others and then make judgments about the quality of our life based on these observations. We reflect on how well or bad we have it based on the perceived good or bad comparisons found among others.” Plante goes on to say “There are upward comparisons (i.e., observing people who seem to have it better than us when it comes to money, looks, resources, talents) and downward comparisons (i.e., observing people who seem to have it worse than we do regarding these qualities that we desire). We often feel better about ourselves and our lives when making downward comparisons and feel bad about ourselves when making upward comparisons.” Got Happiness? Social Comparison Theory Can Help!, Thomas G. Plante, Ph.D., ABPP published by: Psychology Today on April 9th, 2013.

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Sometimes I feel like the world is in my knees and that no one is willing to listen so I tell to myself it's fine and maybe one day it will be gone. I simply wish for good day ahead in my life and that I can get all through the difficult things I am facing.

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Take it one day at a time and make it a point to look for the good stuff. One thing that I do is positive affirmations right before I close my eyes to sleep at night. Over time this will help the unconscious mind to move toward more positive thinking, which builds a new reality. Try it, it works well.

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Thank you so much for the advices and I hope it helps me well to function in life and have a good thinking toward life. I like your username by the way you justify the meaning of success and hoping for more advices about life from you in the future. Keep it up and more power!

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You are so welcome! Thank you for the kind words and at the very least you've met a new friend that you can chat with on this platform.👍Have an awesome day!

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Thanks for that! Have a good day too and more good articles ahead ♥️♥️

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Self takt is so much important.

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I guess being different is a good thing actually. You don't have to change yourself just to fit in or to belong to something. Just like Einstein, his different from everyone else but he still succeed in life.

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True! If you think about a lot of well known successful people you can tell from their stories that they were considered in many cases to be "different", even strange sometimes. I believe that the chances of success lowers a great deal when you try to fit in with the crowed.

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It is probably because when you try to fit in, you are not your usual self. You try hard to be someone for everyone else.

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I can agree with your statement 100%. Following the herd can only yield actions and results dictated by the herd. If the herd is failing so shall you do the same. Moving away from the herd means taking a different path, most times much harder to travel, but also more rewarding in the end. Thanks for your comment! :)

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My pleasure, I love reading your articles.

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I find this post very interesting. Because I identify with that different person that I don't care what others say or do. I always got the things I wanted with my effort. I graduated as a nurse at 19, thanks to scholarships I got. Then at age 20 I bought my first car with my savings. At 23 I paid for an apartment. Then I quit to go to study medicine. When I graduated from medical school I bought my second car, but then came this situation in my country where those of us who fight to get things call us traitors. I sold my car and I can't buy another one. I closed my doctor's office for more than 1 year and I still don't work, but I'll do it again. I have learned many things on these platforms where I am walking. Nothing stops me. What is happening in my country Venezuela will not stop me, I keep going. And I thank God for the people that I have met on these platforms. Thanks for an article like this that make me think and not doubt that I can and I will achieve it again.

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An absolutely great comment gertu13. Keep pushing forwards and upward to gain ground in your success. Nothing can stop you but your own mind, and I don't think you'll have a problem there. :) Thanks for the comment!

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