Dowry is a disgusting and cursed custom. The lavish and heartless men of the society are the inventors and inheritors of this custom. Although this custom is not recognized in legal terms, it has been prevalent in the society since ancient times. The dowry system is actually a horrible form of violence against women. Women have been the ruthless victims of this custom for ages. They enter the husband's house with the dream of happiness of the husband-world, but soon their dream ends in the darkness of the nightmare due to the poisonous vapor of the dowry system. Hundreds of women's pure aspirations have been shattered by the ruthless practice of dowry. The saddest thing is that this custom still exists in this civilized society of the 21st century. It is an incurable disease that infects all classes of people, rich and poor alike.
Dowry system is the special condition of the debt imposed on the parents of the daughter at the time of marriage. According to this condition, the guardian of the daughter is obliged to provide cash, furniture, gold ornaments, motor vehicle, flat-house, land etc. to the recipient. Such gift items are given for the purpose of giving the bride to a suitable or attractive vessel. If this donation is not voluntary, it becomes a dowry. However, the dowry of marriage is not considered as a dowry in the Muslim society. Some modern sociologists want to consider this as a parental support in the beginning of their family life.
Dowry system was at the root of gambling system in Hindu society. According to Hindu law, a married daughter cannot inherit the father's property. That is why the father used to give his daughter as many gifts as possible during the marriage. In addition, in Hindu culture, the bride has to pay a certain amount of money as a price for marrying her daughter. The nobility system introduced by Raja Ballal Sen is also responsible for this. The parents of the Hindu community wanted to share the respect and dignity of the aristocratic community by providing adequate amounts of gifts. This tendency to give dowry by tempting the potter gradually became a social custom. At one time, almost fortnightly, this greedy tendency took shape in mutual bargaining. As a result, the dowry system became a heinous tool of violence against women by putting pressure on the disabled girl. Although the practice of dowry is strictly forbidden in Islam and Islamic law, the practice gradually spread to the Muslim community in neighboring Hindu communities. First, the daughter side goes to pay the dowry. But due to the boundless lust of the pot party, this practice gradually reached the stage of torture. This is a poisonous evil in our current society. While the social outlook against this practice is negative, the expectation of the couple gaining wealth through marriage is often realized. As a result, the signs of a complete end to the dowry system are far from over.
No matter how many statements we make in favor of women's emancipation and women's emancipation at present, women society has not been freed from the disrespectful dowry of dowry system. Although the progress of women and men in the field of education is almost equal, it is women who are the victims of torture. Even though the status of women in career selection and employment has improved considerably, the issue of dowry has not proved irrelevant. The recipient has the idea that the girl he will marry will bring with him a bunch of gifts which will be worth mentioning. In addition, the wife's paternal property also has a greedy view of the groom. The inhumane nature of the dowry system begins with the promise of a gift from the daughter's parents. This promise is forced to be expressed by the daughter in the face of pressure in most cases. The guardian of the daughter may not be fully capable of fulfilling the promise. As a result dowry is paid as installment. It is not easy for the pot party to accept and force the girl to come from the patriarchal house to dress it. When the guardian of the daughter is incapable in this case, the torture on the daughter begins. The mother, son, father and groom themselves participated in the torture. The nature of the torture is beatings, insults, mental and physical abuse and forcing the girl to return to her father's house. The incidents of killing women as a result of dowry-related torture are not insignificant. Many women choose the path of suicide thinking of the helplessness of their parents or suffering from self-loathing. Literature has also reflected the context of the ruthless social degradation of the dowry system. Rabindranath Tagore's famous 'Haimanti' or 'Dena Paona' story is noteworthy in this context.
Dowry is a condemned practice. It has been prevalent in this country for a long time. It is said that dowry system has originated and spread in our society due to economic reasons. Many fall into poverty and helplessness and accept dowry. But in most cases, this practice is prevalent in the society due to the skyrocketing desire of people for unlimited love and financial gain. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is not financially able to lead a married life in poverty. Prohibited to do with thak. So the argument of taking dowry and getting married in poverty does not survive.
Much of the stereotype and bargaining power that existed between the parties over dowry two decades ago has now been resolved. Anti-dowry legislation and punishment system, anti-dowry movement and propaganda of various non-governmental development organizations and development of women's education, profession and career orientation have reduced the heat of dowry practice in recent times. But now, especially in rural areas, the dowry system has an impact. At the alarming level.
The Anti-Dowry Act was enacted in 1980 to abolish the dowry system. There is a provision of severe punishment against those who break the law. The Violence Against Women and Children Act, 1995, has also made provision against the dowry system. But it could not be eradicated by law alone.
The following steps can be taken to get rid of this curse:
*Firstly, proper implementation of anti-dowry law,
"Secondly, creating public awareness against dowry acceptance,
*Thirdly, taking public oath against dowry giving and taking,
*Fourthly, educating women and taking care of women's domestic labor.
*Sixth, the establishment of equal rights for men and women,
*The eighth is the establishment of a society where dowry is forbidden from a religious point of view,
*The ninth is the elimination of gender inequality,
*The tenth is the provision of legal aid for women victims of dowry, the tenth is the nationwide anti-dowry movement.
Women are no longer backward in asserting their rights. They have gained the strength, courage and ability to build their fortunes. Various development activities are being completed with their participation. There is no corner of the country and the state where the contribution of women is not being added. In this case, giving or taking dowry is a socially disgusting act and an insult to them. The conscious effort of all is essential to eradicate this cursed practice of giving dowry to helpless women from the society forever.
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