What problems do people who grew up in a lack of love have?

The experiences we experience as children (especially those up to the age of 4) stay with us as adults. Growing up in a lack of love and support, we shut ourselves off emotionally, distancing ourselves from people in the belief that we will protect ourselves from pain. Emotional wounds remain and unconsciously affect us throughout life ... All until we become aware of them and eliminate and overcome them.

THE MOST COMMON PROBLEMS ARE:

1.Anxiety

Anxiety is the most common mental problem in the U.S. and has a specific association with growing up in a dysfunctional environment. If as a child you witnessed exploitation, even experienced it, were alone and lonely for a long time, if you were not allowed to try new things, be creative and explore, or were punished if you failed at something ... Then it could be the result anxiety in adulthood.

2.Difficulties in communicating and interacting with others

Lack of love is also reflected in communication problems and physical contact. You find it difficult to express your emotions and thoughts, you have a hard time hugging your fellow man or opening up to him. You have learned not to let people come close so as not to hurt you. This pattern is hard to break, but it is possible. However, problems also arise in poor self-esteem, in trusting others, and in fear of loss.

3.Doubts

If you saw things differently than your parents, if they blamed you for doing something you didn’t really do, if you were punished for something you didn’t do, or if they denied an event you know happened. .. Then you may have trouble doubting reality, doubting yourself, your feelings, thoughts and intuition. It is difficult to determine what is right or. what is true and what is not.

4.A critical voice

If you haven’t gotten enough love, support, and emotional connection, then you’ll have a hard time building strong self-confidence later in life. If you have been exploited, if you have been spoken to or given the feeling that you are not good and worthy enough as a child, then it can result in poor self-esteem and a very critical inner voice that appears in school, at work and in relationships. Always and everywhere you have the feeling that you are not good enough, worthy enough ...

On the other hand, we have overprotected children who later also have problems when they grow up. Problems with a child's self-confidence arise when the obstacles are too high or when the child has no obstacles at all. A typical example of this is an overprotected child - a child in cotton wool.Such children are passive, dependent, and overly attached to their parents. They are constantly worried about whether their father and mother are near him. In fact, it is the parents who constantly monitor the child and do not allow him to move away from them. The child is constantly faced with prohibitions, and the parents do things for the child because the child "does not know" or "cannot do it alone"

An overprotected child therefore develops with two messages: that he is incapable and that the world is a very dangerous place. This shapes his conception of himself, others, and the world by becoming a passive-dependent personality instead of growing into an active independent adult. These children are passive because they dare not do anything, and addicted because they are convinced that they cannot do it on their own. As a result, they become pathologically attached to another person from whom they expect to be cared for just as their parents once did.

Overcome all these problems and establish inner strength within yourself. But don’t blame your parents or cook up resentment. There are no perfect parents, everyone makes mistakes and learns all the time, everyone who has their children finds out. They may have been inexperienced and behaved inappropriately, but they wanted the good, so you can forgive them. Be aware of their mistakes and actions that were not the best and do not repeat them.

Thank you for reading my article.

Love you @Teji