Every new year, new month and new week, a lot of people who want to see a positive change in their lives will promise themselves that I am going to do/make it this year, this month or this week, but at the end they are back to square one. This is not because they are not competent or not having the needed resources, but they don't just get it, why? They are missing it because of their fear and anxiety.
What is fear and anxiety.
Fear is a strong uncontrollable, unpleasant emotion caused by actual or perceived danger or threat. While, anxiety is an unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and obsession or concerns about some uncertain events. Fear and anxiety are not actually the same but they are inseparable friends, where there is fear believe me anxiety is also present. These two friends are powerful enough to make someone derail from his/her path to success. They lead people with misconception thereby making their host to make wrong decisions and take wrong steps which may lead to a very serious disaster.
Causes of Fear and Anxiety
A lot of things can cause fear and anxiety, here are the major ones.
Low self-esteem :- when you are not sure of your self, it brings about fear and anxiety which will never allow you to focus on how to progress but keep you worrying, on something you can just walk over with ease.
Pressure from family and friends :- when you are under too much pressure and you are trying to satisfy everyone then you begin to trigger the fear of disappointing those pressuring you. Surely you will disappoint them because your fears has taken over your ability to reason and think straight.
Imitating others :- Everyone is unique in his /her own way. God created us in His own image meaning we are all unique beings as God Himself is unique. Trying to be someone else is biggest mistake most people make, because a lion can never be an eagle. So find out who you are and stop being someone else, if you are still trying to be someone apart from you, then you are bound to fail. You can click here to know how to discover yourself
Judging an event with what you heard or believe:- For the fact that so many people are missing it in an area doesn't guarantee your failure and when they are getting doesn't guarantee your success either. Don't judge a book by it's cover. Discover what others fail to realize that lead to their failure or success.
Thinking too much about future :- Yes, truly you need to plan your future well, but there is a big difference between planning and thinking. Thinking is just overwhelming yourself with uncertainties while planning means taking actions. Don't think but take actions to secure your future, when you take actions, you see yourself getting there gradually.
How to Overcome your Fear
Don't understand yourself :- Don't belittle yourself and abilities. Your beliefs about yourself has a means of determining your success and failure
Be yourself :- When you are yourself it will help you develop yourself and bring out the best in you.
Don't rush to take actions:- Observe things you want to do and the people doing it, learn from their activities discover their secrets of making it and find the unknown reason for their failure. Observing doesn't mean you should be watching forever.
Be courageous :- Life is all about taking risks and it takes only the courageous to make it. Don't be disturbed by what others are saying, they don't determine your destiny and success. But don't take a risk that can ruin your life. For example, there is this new business that you are convinced is meant for you, don't put all your resources in it at a time do it gradually, for you to be at the safer side.
Get God involved :- Let your creator know anytime you want to take new step. He knows the best for your life.
I hope this help you a little in your journey through this world, don't forget that no one can determine your success but you yourself. Please like, comment and subscribe. Thanks for reading.
Fear kills faster than what one fears