"Don't come out we have visitors."
"Don't talk to adults or young ones."
"Don't talk to other groups like church, playmates etc. etc."
(It's a different scenario if we are talking about situation that we need to be prudent.)
When I was a child I've heard this over and over from adults esp when we have older guests or visitors. As a kid we've believed the adults who told us this because we were "kind and obedient young ones"!
But as I grew up into teenage and beyond I realized that there is something not right in this culture. Why would God not allow me to speak up if He has given me mouth and parts to enjoy it, esp that Filipinos love to entertain and are warmth by culture. Was it also because we were previously tained by different races that tried to enslave us that our older generations wouldn't even want us to come out if there are guests at home?
I didn't obey some of it when my mind was opened to how I am created by God.
What I've heard and learned from different entrepreneurs and good people I knew, "they let their kids talk to older people or younger to them". They let them use their mouth to learn how to deal with others especially the businessmen(women). Why would we hide our children from guests when early on they should learn from home on how to honor visitors, welcome them and communicate?
The table, the healthy talks, the foods, the mouth, why not and why preventing children from enjoying the moment to learn and adjust most when it's not toxic vices (except for serious matters)?
Kids are wise and intelligent, aside from our own judgement. They knew when it's time to stop and if ever that they go beyond their limits, the guardians can also use their communication tools to guide them.
As an adult, most when we are called by the Lord to be entrepreneurs, I can't imagine myself and you running away or to your room when there is a guest that might be one of your best client in the future just because you were told to "Don't speak to guests and don't come out, don't honor, don't be warmth, just hide, you're just a kid that might messed up outside."
My neurons wouldn't accept that anymore.
Children who learn how to deal and communicate and even be rejected at early stage are the builders of our future. Some may be called to be employees and some may be as businessmen. Whichever path and destiny they are called, let them have a different environment and culture away from the "enslaved mentality" that we had.
May we see the healthy individuals, spiritually, mentally & financially that will bring and help us to the next level and provide solutions both to the older and new generations.
Boost the children morale by guiding them to speak up with acceptable words & honor the strangers (the limits: we can know and feel the good ones).
Here's cheering on our better and healthy communication at home or outside,
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You are right. Kids are the builders of the future. We should teach them and explain everything in a good way with the values, so they can be great people. God bless you. Have a great time @SuperJulalaine 🙏.