The Painful History of Surgery
After a very long time I am back with another 'short history of...'I was writing about plastic surgery and about psychiatry , and if you are interested into that, you can read it by simply clicking on those two links. https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/the-painful-history-of-plastic-surgery-4d05b484 https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/the-painful-history-of-psychiatry-97166298
To me, articles like that are very interesting, and a couple days ago I remebered them and I was thinking about why I have never written anything about surgery. I mean, it is very interestring and it was there before those who branches of medicine.
https://www.foxchase.org/blog/important-role-plastic-surgery-plays-cancer-treatment
Surgery is very interesting and very useful for the whole world. People since the beginning of time are in need for it. People are having various deseases and injuries, and they need operations, that is why we can follow the history of surgery since the beginning of time. Of course, we cannot talk about surgery that we know nowadays, but we can talk about some attempts that people were making.
We can say that in some situations people were desperate because of their diseases and injuries and that is what made them try to operate each other and save lives.
https://www.uemsthorax.eu
It is important to say that surgery was developing very fast in some periods and very slow in some other periods. Those periods, when it was developing super fast were, as you can guess, wars. During wars doctors were faced to much more injuries than in periods of peace, and they had much more space to develop, to make experiments and to make some very good things. During wars doctors invented many methods and many instruments that surgery is using and developing during the time.
When we are talking about stages of surgery, we can split it to some big periods.
Prehistory and Anceint World
First period that we should mention here is definitely the prehistory. During this period we cannot talk about some operations and some procedures that people were trying to develop. They were just doing some simple things thanks to their instincts. For example tooth that is hurting was pulled out, abscess was opened, wounds were washed with water and covered with leaves or fabrics. Simple solutions for simple problems.
It is interesting to say that in the ancient Babylon sick person was on the forum, and everyone, who was passing by could come and help.
In ancient Egypt they were opening up skulls of hurt people. Also, they were doing amputations of hurt limbs. Also, we all know about mumies and how they were embalmed. Before that procedure organs were taken out of the body, which means that they knew much about anatomy and human body. But, they were not operating much because in that period people had no anesthetics.
https://www.facebook.com/149491478536682/photos/the-first-brain-surgery-in-history-the-first-brain-surgery-in-history-conducted-/452320861587074/
Anesthetics are extremely important for surgery. You simply cannot open up a man without anesthetic. That would kill that person. Cutting human's stomach hurts enough to kill a person. That is why complicated operations are risky without anesthetics.
https://www.ranker.com/list/ancient-egyptian-surgery-facts/harrison-tenpas
Corus Hipocraticum is one of the most important books about surgery of ancient world. As you can guess it was written by Greek doctor Hipocrat. He invented some very important things that we are still using nowadays. One of them is immobilization, which is not a part of surgery, but it is important for surgery. It allows us to do the operations. Moving a person who is hurt can do a lot of damage, and if that happens the operation can be pointless.
Middle Age
Next big period is middle age, and as you know it is also known as the dark age. Science was not in a good position and of course surgery and whole medicine. Diring this age religion was very important in the whole world, and thanks to that surgery was not developing a lot.
https://schoolshistory.org.uk/topics/medicine-through-time/medieval-medicine-was-it-all-plagues-and-pestilence/medieval-surgery/
Cauterization of wounds was very popular in this period. Cauterization is a process of burning the edges of wounds in order to stop bleading and kill bacteria. But, if the wound is bigger or deeper that can be a big problem. Maybe you will stop bleeding, but you can also make all the bacteria get into the wound, because you cannot burn the whole wound.
At the end of the middle age surgery developed a lot. Church gave the permission for autopsies and that helped a lot, because doctors found out a lot about anatomy.
https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/nejmra1202392
But also barbers got the permission to do the job of the doctors and surgeons, which degraded medicine as a science.
Renaissance and Modern Age
During this period we had a lot of wars and we had a lot of freedom which leaded to the great development of surgery. As I said before surgery develops a lot during great wars.
https://pixels.com/featured/country-surgeon-18th-century-artwork-science-photo-library.html
During this period we had many scientists, who discovered many important things, and one of the most important is definitely the discovery of anesthetics in 1844. That was not perfect, but it was much better for anesthesia than all atempst before.
Before this people were using alcohol as anesthetic, opium, lowering the body temperature and many other things that were not good at all and sometimes were doing only damage to hurt people.
Nowadays, people are operating everything, doctors are saving lives every single day. Surgery is one of the most important things we have nowadays. Saving human lives is the biggest thing that one person can do. But, surgeons cannot operate if they do not have optimal conditions, that is why other branches of science have to develop and to find things that can help surgery to be better and better.
https://www.cmpa-acpm.ca/en/advice-publications/browse-articles/2021/mitigating-the-risk-of-retained-foreign-bodies-during-surgery
That was it for this article, this short history is very short, but if you are interested into this topic, I can write about some branches of surgery, like I was writting about plastic surgery.
This is very wide topic and because of that I gave my best to write it here as short as possible.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
Only Dead Fish Go with the Flow
Once, while ago I saw this sentence on the Internet and I liked it a lot. Everywhere you can see 'go with the flow', and I saw this one from the title only once. And, I do not know why do so many people want to make us think that we should go with the flow. We should let the flow take us wherever it goes.
That is not what you want for yourself. You know, fish never go with the flow. Fish go wherever she wants and needs to go, she does not go with the flow, unless it is good for her. Only, when the fish is dead water can bring her there where she goes.
And, you know what?
You are not a dead fish!
https://www.theodysseyonline.com/only-dead-fish-go-with-the-flow
You do not go with the flow, you go wherever you want to go and wherever you need to go. You make your own flow, you are doing big things. You are making miracles. You know why? Because you can!
You can go wherever you want to. Do not go witht he flow, do not do what other people expect you to do and what other people want you to do. Do not let them make you build their dreams, get up and build your own dreams. For you, your dreams are most important dreams that exist, and because of that you will build them.
Get up, get ready and start! Today. No, not today. Right now! Now is the right moment for you to start building your dreams.
Your dreams are waiting for you, but they will not wait for you forever, you have to build them as soon as possible.
You just need the right mindset and things will come to the right place. You need to know what do you want and why do you want it.
Do not be a dead fish.
Do not follow other people, just because you do not have your own direction.
Do not be the one who is building other people's dreams.
You owe to yourself!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
'Thank You' instead of...
...instead of 'give me', 'I want to have', 'I need'...
Last couple days I was not active here because I was preparing for the Orthodox Easter, and while I was preparing for the holyday and celebrating it, I was thinking a bit about gratitude. About how greateful people are and I realized that we are much more foxusing on the things that we do not have than on the things we have.
https://www.franksonnenbergonline.com/tag/things-to-be-grateful-for/
We always think about things we need and about things we want to have but we do not have, instead of thinking about how happy we are for the things we already have.
I connected this to the Easter and I was thinking about this topic because of the Easter, but it is not actually connected to the God. It is not about things God gave to you. It is about things you have. God is not the one who is giving to you, you have to work for it, and if you do not work for it, those are simply things that exsits and do not depend on you, but you are glad to have them around you. For example, if your family is healthy, it is not thanks to you, but you should be grateful for that.
https://www.spd.org.sg/how-to-be-grateful-when-things-are-rough/
For every single small thing. For everything you think it is supposed to be there or you think is not something what you should pay attention to you.
But, if you drank your favorite coffee with your mother yeaterday, you should be grateful for having a mother, for having a coffee and for having a time to spend with your favorite person frinking your favorite coffee.
So many things all around to be grateful. And, before you get mad because you do not have something, think twice is it really neccessery to you. Many things you do not need. I understand that a man always wants to have something better and more and it is normal, you should work for it, you should fight for ehat you want, but you can also be happy and satisfied even if you od not have it.
https://sophiacasey.net/2020/03/02/i-am-grateful/
Because, when you are greateful you can be calm and happy and when you are happy you can move forward and fight for the things you want to have.
Be greateful to yourself, you brought yourself there where you are now, and you will lead yourself to your goals. So, sit down and say 'thank you' to yourself, show some gratitude to yourself. Show yourself how much you love and appreaciate yourself.
You deserve it.
You have a lot and you will have more, just focus on what you have and fight for what you want.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
Woman who Cries...
... at other people's weddings.
Last couple days we can see on the all social networks photos of a woman who is on a wedding, she stays next to a freshly married couple and she cries.
Those photos were really very interesting to me and they made me think about some very important things that are happening to many people.
You can find some other photos with this woman and this couple, and that made me think that is was some kind of a joke, this can be a forever alone firend, or for example his or her sister who des not like her or him. But, anyways, this photo made me think about the situation that is shown.
I watched her as a forever alone friend, who is desperate about her own situation and weddings are just making her feeling worse.
I am pretty sure this is a joke, but at the same time it is very serious, I am sure that nobody is really screaming and crying on the weddings, but many people are feeling like the girl from the photo.
Many people think that there is no a perfect person for them and that they will be alone forever.
And, why is that happening?
I personally think that being with someone is only up to you. It is up to your energy and your manifestation, your state of mind. If you are opened for a relationship, truly, deep inside of your mind, you will find someone, if you are not, for any reason, you will not find anyone. Maybe it seems to you that you want someone, but deep down you do not. Many people think they want to be in a relationship, but for some reason they cannot and they know that, just they do not know that they know that. Someone is not ready for that, someone does not have a time, someone works too much, someone wants some other kind of a relationship...
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-happiness-4869755
And, that is okay, you just have to be sure what you really want. You have to realize do you really want a relationship.
And, next thing, that is also very important is to realize what kind of relationship and what kind of a partner you want for yourself.
Many people would say I want someone to love me, to be a good person and some similar, general things... but after that, they would say many other things. In case that you have a very long list of things that you want your partner to have, to do and to be, do not expect many people to be good enough for you. You simply know exactly what you want and it will take a time for life to bring that to you.
https://www.bonanza.com/items/like/522300275/-1-Top-Rated-Twin-Flame-Soulmate-Connection-Spell-Powerful-Love-Attraction-Djinn
Let's make an example, if you go to the store to buy a black shoes with high heels, you will find them easily, but... If you go to the store to buy pink shoes with black details, golden heel with chains and some rivets on the sides. And you want them to be made out of metal and leather, and you want the heel to be 13cm high, and you want the inside of the shoe to be light pink and the sole to be black with golden sparkles... well, maybe you will have to visit many stores before you find them.
It is the same situation with finding a perfect partner for yourself. It will take some time. It is good to know wxactly what you want, but you also have to be ready to wait, you have to be patient, you have to learn how to wait.
Good things come to those who wait.
Now, the most important part. Learn how to make good things come to you. Being patient is not enough.
If you want someone to love you, first you will have to love yourself. Other learn from you how to behave with you. So, if you do not reaspect and do not love yourself, other people will not either.
Next is to be happy alone. If you want to be happy with someone, first you have to be happy alone. With yourself. Happiness will bring you more happiness.
https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/romantic-love/how-to-find-your-soulmate
Manifest good things by being happy and good person.
Do not scream on the other people's weddings, be happy for them. Truly happy for them. Their happines should be a proof to you that people can be happy, that people can find a perfect person for themselves. Their happiness should be a hope for you. Say to yourself, he or she found her or his soulmate, I will find mine too. It is possible, people are happy, life is good and amazing things are happening to people all the time. Amazing things will happen to you, good people will come into your life.
Enjoy your life and love yourself.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
The Angel and the Gambler
First of all I have to say that I had problem with my Internet connection, and because of that I could not write any articles, but meanwhile I had some very interesting ideas and I was thinking about some very importan topics.
A couple days ago I saw the video for the song by Iron Maiden called 'The Angel and the Gambler', I have not heard it in a while and it made me think about some very important things. How do people become gamblers, but not on the table, in real life? How do people lose what is truly important for them? How do people lose those who are important to them?
I will leave the song here, so you can hear it, if you have not heard it before.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IhlRyxWU21s
The song is not all about what I will talk about in this article, but it is very interesting.
There is one very interesting proverb that says, do not be sorry, be careful, because, if you are careful you won't have to be sorry ever.
If you do not become a gambler you will never lose your angels.
Do not play with things that are not toys and do not ever play with anybody, because noone is a toy. People are not there for you to play with them. You cannot bet on people you love and you cannot 'put on the table' people you love, and be sure that you will never lose them, because you will.
https://www.istockphoto.com/photos/angel-woman
Many people put people they love on the table, and first time they do not lose them, and that gives them courage to try again and again and again... One more hand one more spin. Every hand is the last one, you promise to yourself, but deep down you know that it is not the last one. You know that you will keep playing, but you are pretty sure that you cannot lose, and once when you lose that is pretty shocking for you, you did not expect that, you do not know what to do, you cannot handle the situation.
http://groundswellsociety.org/category/events/sasic/sasic12/
Do not lead yourself to that. Appreciate people areound you. Love them, truly love them and respect them. While they are there. Always know that you can lose them. They can leave, they can find someone who will know how precious they are and who will not put them on the table.
Everyone can be replaced, always know that and always be careful. Of course, they have to respect you to, because you can be the angel too. Always know that you also do not have to stay with people who are not careful with you. You do not have to stay where you are not respected, you do not have to stay where you are not loved.
That is why all the people always have to know that they are supposed to be careful, they have to be careful. Unless you want to be all alone, you have to take care of other people. You have to show them how important they are to you.
No One Has a Good Idea while Tiger is Chasing Him
While people are in trouble, they usually do not think soberly, and that is normal. While people are afraid or while they are stressed, they do not have any good idea, they cannot cope with the situation and because of that they are making mistakes.
Let's get back to the our metaphor, while tiger is chasing a person, that person can easily fall, because he or she does not see the rock on the road and he or she stumbles. Or for example, he or she cannot see some object that can be good for hidding. And the tiger is fast and strong, and he is getting closer and closer, and there he is.
https://www.unep.org/news-and-stories/story/year-tiger-how-can-we-help-them-thrive-wild
What is the point is to learn how to cope with stress, to learn how to suppress the fear, because fear leads to more things that we will be afraid of. If you run and do not look in front of you and you stumble and fall tiger will be closer and you may get hurt, and those are two new things to worry about.
One thing that you are afraid of and worried about, will bring you more and more things to worry about. That is why you have to learn how to cope with all those bad, scary things, because they are all around of you.
There are many tigers and many of them are ready to chase you, many of them would love you to be their snack. But, you will not let that happen. Because you will learn how to cope with stress, you will show your teeth to those tigers or you will be stronger and you will not run away.
Until you face your tigers, you will not know if you are stronger than they are. And, if you are sure that you are not stronger and you have to run away, be sure to think soberly while doing that. Be sure to see every rock on the road and to see every object where you can hide from the tiger.
Just stay for a second, take a deep breath, and realize that you can only gain things, many very good things, if you stay calm and 'sober'. If you are calm you can solve your problems, you can escape from the tiger, you can cope with the situation.
Your problems and your tigers are not bigger and faster than you. You are amazing person and you will be even more amazing. You will learn how to cope with your problems, you will learn how to face your tigers.
You just have to remeber what is waiting for you at the end of your 'race' and always know what you can lose, but do not be afraid of that, because you will not lose it if you stay calm. Always stay calm, always think what you can do, how you can help yourself. Always think.
That is the key, think. Think about everything what is happening to you and around you. Listen, watch, learn how to find new opportunities. Listen to what other people have to say, watch what they are doing, you may learn from them how to solve problems that you have now. Many people were in that situation before you, you are not alone, it is possible to get out of that.
Just believe in yourself. Trust yourself and let yourself develop. You can learn how to solve your problems, you are atrong enough, smart enough and brave enough to solve your problems.
And, even if you do not solve all of your problems that is okay. It will be better next time, you will solve some next problems. You will learn, you will be better.
Just give yourself some support. This maybe sounds silly to you, but your own support means a lot to you. It is great to have people around you, that support you, it is amazing.
But, nobody is you, nobody knows all the details about your situation and nobody can know how exactlly you feel deep inside. That is why you need to support yourself, that is why you need to believe in yourself and always tell yourself to keep going. To keep moving forward. That is extremely important.
Always remeber that.
See you next time,
SuncicaZ.
Why does not He Call?
Because he did not chose you.
Why does not she call?
Because she did not chose you.
Why do they do not call me from the company, where I had the job interview?
Because they did not chose you.
Answer is the same to all the questions about why someone is not calling you. That person, who you are waiting to call, did not chose you. They chose not to call.
Here is one example. You went on a date with someone and it seemd to you that everything went very well, you talked about many things, you liked him or her a lot and he or shge was acting like he or she likes you too. That date was a couple days ago, and that person is not calling you. That date was a couple weeks ago and that person is not calling you. That date was a couple month ago... why are you still waiting for him or her to call you?
https://blog.hubspot.com/sales/best-time-to-make-a-sales-call
One more example. You had a job interview a couple days ago, it went great, but they did not call you, and you are still waiting.
Do not wait for the people to call you for too long.
I cannot tell you for how many days you should wait, because that depends on the situation, but I know that you know when you should stop waiting. You know, you always know.
Do not sit at home desperate and wait, move on.
Do not chose those who do not chose you, no matter if that is your crush or the company where you wanted to get a job or your friend who promised you a favor. Do not wait, you know that they will not call. Deep inside you know, so do not lie to yourself, accept that and move on.
You can move on, you can find new job, new crush, new friend, you can if you stop waiting for something what is not going to happen.
We can talk about every of those examples a lot.
But the point it to know that you are great, you are amazing and you are worth everything, butyou also have to accept that you are not for everyone and that everything is not for you.
https://www.npr.org/sections/al
Maybe, there is a better job just around the corner, but you cannot find it, because you are waiting for the one that you will not get.
There are so many amazing people, who like you, and who would be liked by you, a lot, but you do not see them, because you are waiting for those who are not calling you.
Accept failure, it is okay to be rejected for a job that you applied for or to be rejected by someone you like. That is normal. Everytime you are rejected just remeber all the times when you rejected someone or something. That is normal part of every person's life. Life is about getting and forgetting.
Get things that you want to get and that want to be gotten by you, and forget the things that are not meant to be yours.
Live your best life, without suffering for all the things that you cannot have.
https://www.facebook.com/mylifesmovingon/groups/
Stop waiting for things that will not happen to you and for the people who will not come to you.
Move on, find what is for you. find who is for you.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ!
Crowned Head...
... will rather lose the head than the crown.
In this article I would like to talk a bit about power, and people who have power. I used this metaphore for the tiltle and first line of this article, because I thought that it will fit in very well.
https://stock.adobe.com/search?k=crown
By the way, this line 'Crowned head will rather lose the head than the crown.', is from Serbian movie Battle on Kosovo (1989).
This line is showing very well how people with power think. People who have power, any kind of power, any amount of power, will rather lose all the other things that they have than their power.
People with power think that their power is only worthy thing that they have, that it is the most precious and only what is truly important. That is why they would give all the other things they have to keep their power.
Of course, here I am not talking about all the people, who have power. There are powerful people who know how they gained their power and who know that they can gain it again, those are people who are working hard, and who are with both their foot on the ground.
But, there are also people who did not work for their power, who get in on a suspicious way and now, they are afraid that they will lose something what they did not work for,something what they do not know how to gain. They did not earn it, they got it, and they do not know what will happen to them if they lose it. What will they be, without their power?
They identify themselves with their power, and they see themselves only trough their power.
Their power gives them some benefits and they do not want to lose that.
https://stock.adobe.com/search?k=crown
That is why those people are sometimes cruel and they are doing horrible things to keep their 'crown' on their head.
My message here is that you have to remeber always where you came from. You have to know that you can lose everything you have, and you can always fall to the bottom, but. There is always a 'but'. Whatever happens to you, you have to know that if you work hard and if you give whole your being, you will get to the top again.
And, if you are not on the top, and you have never been there, it is not too late to start. Get up, and go. Do something good for yourself. Do something to become successful.
And, always know that everything what you get instead of earning it, you will lose easily.
That is why you have to get your 'crown' by yourself.
See you next time,
SuncicaZ!
Some very important Lessons Dostoevsky Taught Us
In this article I would love to present you some of the best Dostoevsky thoughts, that I think can be very useful to you. I think that all of us can learn a lot from Dostoevsky, and I think that all of us should pay attention to those things that he is talking about in those quotations.
https://www.danas.rs/zivot/na-danasnji-dan/dva-veka-od-rodjenja-fjodora-mihajlovica-dostojevskog/
Power is given only to those who dare to lower themselves and pick it up. Only one thing matters, one thing- to be able to dare!
Power will not come to you, never. Power is not waiting for you, and you should not be waiting for it. If you want it, go and get it. Lower yourself, risk things that you already have, get up and go, struggle, suffer, but do not wait. Because, if you wait and if you do nothing to take it, you will never have it.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_(TV_series)#/media/File:Power_Opening_Title.jpg
Of course, when it comes to power, you should be careful, if you want power, you have to be sure about some things. First, you have to know what kind of power do you want to have. Second, you have to know what will you do with your power, and last thing, you have to know what you are ready to risk to get power. Because, you will have to risk something.
Man only likes to count his troubles, he does not calculate his happiness.
This is sad true, we are sometimes too busy with our troubles that we forget about our happiness. There are so many things to be happy and grateful for, but we sometimes do not see them.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/28/sunday-review/joy-happiness-life.html
Before you become sad for something what you do not have, be happy for all those things that you have, be greateful. When you are grateful, you are positive and positive people are happy.
Give your best to say happy and positive, no matter what is happening to you. You really do not need much to be happy. You just need to pay attention to the good things.
Once I read somewhere, I really do not know who said that, but he or she said, when you wake up in the morning, and get up on you legs, and take something with your hands, and realize that you are in your home, you should know that you are happy. All the other good things that may happen to you during the day are just a bonus.
The mystery of human existance lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.
It is extremely important to have a purpose in your life. To have something that you are living for and that you would die for, if needed. It is important to know what do you want, where you are going and what do you love. It is important to love something in your life. To fight for something.
When you are chosing your purpose, you have to be careful, you have to find what is and what will be good for you, you have to find what truly makes you feel complete, and then you go and take it.
The cleverest of all, in my opinion, is the man, who calls himself a fool, at least once a month.
Smart man knows that he does not know enough, he knows that there are so many new things that he can learn, that there are so many things to see, to find out. And, smart man knows that he is doing things that are not smart.
Smart man knows that making mistakes is normal, being a fool somethimes is normal, that is happening to everyone, and we should be learning from those situations, we should become smaerter when something like that happens to us.
Go ahed, try and make mistakes, but be aware that you made a mistake, be aware that you should correct that in the future.
And, of course, be ready to learn from mistakes.
Your mistakes can lead you to your goals, but only if you are ready to learn from them.
You will burn, and you will be burnt out; you will be healed and you will come back.
Burnouts are normal. You have lots and lots of things to do. Many places where you have to be. Many people that count on you to do something. Many jobs to finish. And, somethimes you will not be able, you will feel horrible, you will be weak, you will lost it. But you will rise again, you will heal, you will have your life in your hands again.
https://www.discovermagazine.com/the-sciences/20-things-you-didnt-know-about-fire
That is a normal cycle of life, that is happening to everyone, just have on your mind that you will heal, you will get up, you will be fresh and ready again.
If you want to overcome the whole world, overcome yourself.
If you are better than you were yesterday, you can be whatever you want. If you make the best version of yousrself, you will get what you want to have. Just focus on yourself, instead of focusing on other people. Focus on making yourself a better person. Focus on making yourself happy and strong.
Things will happen when you deserve them, and you will deserve them, when you become better. Your hard work will bring you the Eden fruits. Just stay focused, do not give up. You mustn't give up on yourself!
That was it for this article, there are many more important things that we can learn from Dostoevsky, and if you like this article, I can find some more interesting quotes and make that part two.
See you,
SuncicaZ.
The Owners of Now
Hello wonderful people, today I am here with one very important article, with a bit strange title.
But, let's trust the process.
Things we have are numerous, but when it comes to time, we have only now. We only own now.
https://www.thenowinstitute.org
Tomorrow is far away from us, we cannot know what will be tomorrow, will tomorrow come, what will it bring to us. And, here I do not want to be negative, I do not want to sound like someone who always thinks that glass is half empty. But, that is true, we cannot know what will happen tomorrow. We cannot be sure that tomorrow we will be able to do what we want to do.
Yesterday is far away from us too. It passed. Yesterday passed, and we will never have it again. Tomorrow will come, we do not know what will it bring, but it will come, but yeaterday will never come back. We do not have it, we had it and we do not have it anymore.
https://faithunited.ca/180513-now/
We have now. We are the owners of now, of this moment. We can use it or we can let it become past. It is our choice. And, we should chose to use it, as good as we can. Do as good as you can for yourself, all the time. You only have now. You only can do things now.
So, I wanted to say that you should not wait, should not expect that something will happen, because it is not going to happen, unless you do something.
Get up and go get what you want to, now.
https://www.internetmatters.org/parental-controls/entertainment-search-engines/now-tv/
You cannot do much now, but you can start, you can make the first step and it will lead to things that you want to have.
This moment will pass and you will regret if you do not use it. You will regret for all the moments that you do not use, sooner or later.
Just set your goals and start working for it. Step by step, thing by thing. Small steps are better than staying in place.
You may struggle now, but your current struggle is only you have, so accept it, take it and solve it, fight with it, fight for what you want to have. Now.
You own it. You totally own it. It is all yours. Now is whole yours, and you can do whatever you want with it. Just, please, pretty please do something with it, something good for you.
Do not let yourself regret later.
You owe good things to yourself.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
What about Disney's new rules?
Last couple days Disney is on the all news, on TV on the Internet, on social media, and reason for that are the new rules that this company has.
https://headliner.rs/2022/04/03/nova-odluka-kompanije-disney-koja-je-uzburkala-svet-najmanje-polovina-likova-u-njihovim-projektima-ubuduce-ce-morati-da-bude-lgbtq-ili-druge-boje-koze/
As you all know Disney is making great cartoons that whole family watches and loves, for years. Many fairy tales were in Disney's movies and thanks to Disney we now love those fairy tales, but lately things are changing.
At the beginning of some Disney movies, that are very popular in the whole world, and that are loved by many generations, you can see warnings that say that those movies contain some messages, some stereotypes and racism.
https://disneyparks.disney.go.com
Those are some very old movies and I am sure that you have seen them, I will now post here a list of those movies, and negative things that they contain.
Let's start.
Lady and the Tramp (1955). In this movie you can see two Siamese cats, Si and Em, are presented with the anti-Asian stereotypes. Also, in the shelter for anymals you can see some dog breeds that are presenting countries and people from countries where they are coming from, on not very good way. Chihuahua Pedro is from Mexico and greyhound Boris is from Russia.
Aristocats (1970). In this movie again we can see Siamese cat, shown as a person from Asia, actually as a caricature of a person from Asia.
Dambo (1941). In this movie you can see a group of crows who are helping Dambo to learn how to fly, and those birds should represent African Americans.
The Jungle Book (1968). In this book king of monekys is singing jaz, is lazy and represents African American. I think that I should not say more about this.
Peter Pan (1953). In this movie Indians are called 'redskins'. They are making fun of Indians because of their skin color.
Song from the South (1946). You cannot find DVD with this movie, and it is not that easy to find it anywhere. The title of this movie is saying us what it is about. It is about South, and you can see the year when it was made. It is about people, from Africa, who are working on cotton plantations. They were slaves, and in this movie they are presented as very happy, they are singing.
https://www.britishairways.com/en-gb/destinations/orlando/travel-guide/disney-world-holidays
As you maybe noticed all those movies are very old and during that period of history, people were still thinking that people with white skin are better than other people, just because they have white skin.
If you ask me, maybe it is good to show to children how bad it is to dislike someone just because he has different skin color than you. Nobody should be a slave, nobody should be a servant.
Children should see that. Children have to understand that. To accept that, to think it is normal to respect everyone, no matter what is his or hers skin color.
This part of new rules I personally support, I think that this is important.
Next thing I would love to talk about is Disney policy about LGBT people and people who are coming from other minorities.
Every second characher, which means that 50% of Disney characthers will be minority members.
This made people express their opinions on the Internet and I personally noticed that many people think that this decision will lead to very bad things.
https://colourpop.com/collections/disney
Many people think that children should not be watching those cartoons. On the otrher hand, many people think that children who are different should see that it is okay to be different and, children who are not members of minotiry will learn that those people are normal, and that they deserve to be accepted.
I would really love to see what do you think about this, so please share your opinion in the comments below.
Bad Romance
This morning, while I was drinking my first coffee and scrolling You Tube, I saw Lady Gaga's song 'Bad Romance'. I have not heard this song for a very long time, so I played it. And, to be honest, for the first time I was listening to it carefully, and it made me think about some very deep and very important things.
This song is about love that is obssesive. It is about a person, who falls in love with a person that is not good for him or her. I will leave it here, so you can hear it, if you want to.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qrO4YZeyl0I
And, that made me think about toxic relationships, about toxic people, about how people, who are not bad, can be bad for exac other...
**What makes people get into toxic relationships?**
This is very simple and very complicated question at the same time. We see someone, we meet someone, and we like him or her. We simply like that person. After liking we fall in love, and when we fall in love we cannot see whole situation very well. We do not see 'red flags'. While people are in love they do not see that bad siodes about their person and about their relationship. They are happy, not because other person but because themselves. They are in love, they are happy, they see everything in pink, and they feel good. One side. One person. That is how we get into a toxic relationship.
https://www.femina.in/relationships/love-sex/toxic-relationship-191889.html
When do people see that they are in a toxic relationship?
As time is passing, people, who are in a toxic relationship, start realizing that something is wrong. They see that they are not happy anymore, they are annoyed by other person, they are arguing with their partners.
You simply feel when something is not right.
And happiness is replaced with sadness.
Positive is replaced with negative.
Now, all the feelings are not about one person, one side, they are about the relationship, about relation. Two sides, two people now.
Now, you can see all the red flags, all the things that you do not like.
And, that is when you realize that you have a problem. That problem can make other problems to you. That problem can make you feel anxious, depressed, stressed...
One problem always can make other problems.
And, being in a toxic relationship is really serious problem. Your relationship can affect to all the other aspects of your life. This may sound scary, but a toxic relationship can really destroy your whole life.
Why do people stay in toxic relationships?
https://cairowestmag.com/what-is-a-toxic-relationship/
There are a few reasons why do people stay in toxic relationships.
First one is habit. People simple get used to each other. They get used to being in relationship, and they do not have enough strength to change anything. They go with the flow. They live their lives as a routine. They do same things for years and they are not in the mood for changes.
Next reason is a good aspect of their relationship. Something in that toxic relationship is good. They love that person, or they are having fun, or that person is also their business partner, and business is going well, or they have mutual friends... There are many things that can possibly be that one good aspect in their relationship. That is what keeps them together, that is what makes them believe that they can still be happy togethert.
Also, there are some people, who are afraid to be alone. They do not know how to be alone and for them toxic relationship is better than being single. That is why they chose to stay in relationship.
How to leave?
First, you have to realize that your relationship is toxic.
Next you have to make a desission to end it.
And, third step is to leave.
I know it is not that simple to do it, I know you have your reasons why you are in that relationship, but it is good for you to leave.
Sometimes hardest things are the best for you.
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/ending-domestic-violence/signs-of-a-toxic-relationship
And, in this article I focused on romantic relationships, but it is the same situation with any other relationship. If your friends are toxic leave the, if your relatives are toxic, leave them.
You can leave anyone who is not good for you, you ove to yourself to find good people for yourself. Develop yourself, be happy, and love yourself. Love yourself enough to find what is good for you.
Thank you for reading!
See you very, very soon in next article,
Sending you all love and support,
SuncicaZ!
In Corpore Sano...
I am pretty sure that we all remeber the Latin proverb that says 'Mens sana in corpore sano', in English it is 'A sound mind in a sound body'. That literally means in a healthy body there is a healthy mind.
https://www.fsnursing.com/a-sound-mind-in-a-sound-body/
Let's talk a little bit about that.
In 2022 Serbia will send very interesting song to the Eurovision Song Contest. It is called 'In corpore sano', and it has a very deep message. It is about problems in healthcare system of Serbia, and about some other very important things. Today, I would love to talk about those other things that are very important.
Those things are problems with mental health.
There is a part of the song that says
"In healthy body, body is healthy
and now what?
Sick mind in healthy body,
Sad soul in healthy body,
Desperate mind in healthy body,
Frightened mind in healthy body,
And now what?"
This is my favorite part of this song.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLAYRJv6nQc
Here is the whole song in case that you want to hear it.
The part that I have written here is originaly in Latin.
If your body is healthy that is great, really, but what about your mind and your soul? What about your mental health? What about how you feel deep inside?
https://www.azquotes.com/quote/541732
Your mental problems can really damage your body. For example depression can lead to many problems with your body.
I would love to talk about mental health in general. Not about one specific illness or problem, not about one example, not about one thing. Mental health is not one thing.
Mental health is a bunch of things. Bunch of feeling, bunch of processes that you will have to pass trough.
Your soul and your mind are as important as your body, and you need to give them the attention that they need and that they deserve. You need to do good things for yourself.
Many people have a spa day once or twice a month. That is a day when they are taking care of their body whole day. They are doing things they love to their body and that helps their body look good and feel good. How many people have a mental spa day? Not many.
https://www.azquotes.com/quote/524437
Many times I have heard that we should look great when we feel bad so other people will think that we are great, and we will send positive energy to the Universe... and that is great, but if you do not feel like doing something, you should not be doing that. Do not force yourself to do anything what you cannot do at the moment. Give yourself time. Give yourself care. Stay at home, cry, eat your favorite food, forgive yourself because you have not done something what you wanted to do...
It is okay if you failed your exam, you will have another try very soon, it is okay if you lost your job, something better will come to you...
https://www.latimes.com/lifestyle/story/2021-12-30/5-pieces-of-mental-health-advice-to-give-you-strength-in-2022
Whatever is happening to you it will pass. You will pass trough it, you will get what you want to have, just give yourself time. Everything needs time, that is normal and that is okay.
If you are taking good care of your body that is okay, that is great, but do not forget to take care of your mind and your soul.
In case that you have any problem with your mental health, ask for help, talk to people around you, talk to the proffessiona. You are normal, you will be okay. It is normal to feel bad, to have various problems with mental health, that is happening to people all around the world.
https://ncatregister.com/18993/the-word/what-does-mental-health-mean-to-you/
There are still many people who are ashamed of their mental health issues, and that is wrong. That is a problem and it can be solved if you ask for help. If you do not ask for help, it can lead to some terrible things. So, do not be ashamed, illess is illness, problem is problem, no matter if it is mental or physical.
It is important, pay attention to your mind and soul.
You need them more than you think.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
Skin Has Texture
Hello beautiful people, today, I would love to remind you how pretty you actually are.
Today, we are going to talk a bit about skin.
And the texture of skin.
Let me tell you something, at the beginning, all those perfect photos that you can see on social media are fake. All those people with smooth skin are using photo editors and they are changing their photos.
Long story short, they are lying. They are not perfect, their lives are not perfect and they do not have perfect skin.
Nobody has a perfect skin, and skin, everyone's skin has texture, it is not smooth, it is not supposed to be smooth.
Your skin is your biggest organ, and sometimes it can be sick, if you have redness on your skin that is itchy, or your skin is dry and i8t hurts, you should visit a doctor and ask for help. Yes, a doctor, not a profile on social media, where someone with 'smooth' skin made in photo editor is telling you what you should put on your skin to make it perfect. You should visit a doctor to make your skin healthy.
But, if you do not have a problem with a health of your skin, and it still has texture, that is normal.
For example, blackheads are normal. It is okay if you want to get rid of them, but if you still have them after peeling for example, that is fine, they are part of your skin.
That does not mean that you are dirty, or that you are not cleaning your face well.
Next thing that I would love to talk about are acne. They are serious problem for may resons. First, they are not healthy, and in order to solve that side of the problem, you should visit a doctor, who will know how to help you. The other side is being ashamed of yourself because of acne. Many people have them, and they are normal. It is okay to have them, so please do not have yourself because of them, and do not try to sovle that problem by yourself. Visit a doctor, he will know what to do. And, be patient.
https://metrodermatology.net/are-acne-scars-permanent/
Next thing that I would love to mention are scars. They can appear on the face and they can be the consequence of acne. And, they are normal.
Also, they can be on any other part of the body, and no matter where they are located, they are normal. Almost everyone has at least one scar, bigger or smaller on the face or on some other part of the body.
Your scars are one kind of memories, do not be ashamed of your memories.
https://tribune.com.pk/story/1508954/9-surprising-causes-wrinkles
Next are wrinkles, one more thing that most people have. If you ask me, wrinkes are giving shape to our faces, they are making our faces unique, and they are big part of us. They can be caused by many things, and some of the causes are really surprising, you would never tell. And, you know what? Who cares what makes them, they are here, and they are supposed to be here.
Just like scars, they are memories, and we should love them. They are a proof that we lived, that we smiled, laughed, cried, yelled... We were alive human beings. And, we will not get rid of them because we want to still be alive human beings, not dolls who because of botox cannot move their faces.
Strechmarks are small lines on our skin that can appear on any part of our skin when it streches. They can appear, for example on female breasts, while those are growing, they can appear on the belly doing pregnancy, on legs and arms while growing up...
So many places, so many reasons. There are some very skinny people who have them . And, they are not ugly, they are not dirty, they are not anything bad that people are saying they are. They are part of the skin.
Next is his majesty, cellulite. Every woman has it. Every single woman. Those who do not have it, have it too, just they are hiding it. Less or more, every woman has cellulite.
There are many diets, many treatments, many massages, many machines, many exercises, that are supposed to help you get rid of it. And, you know what? They do not work. There are some things, like drinking a lot of water and wearing baggy and soft clothets that will help you to have less cellulite and to make your cellulite less visible, but it will not be gone. No matter what you do.
And, definitely the best thing that you can do about it is to accept it. It is a normal part of female body.
That was it for this article, I really hope that someone will find this useful. I hope that you will love yourself more after you read it.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
If it Goes to Well...
...it goes downward.
Remeber this everytime in your life when you do not have any struggle in your life.
Things are not supposed to be easy, no matter what you are doing, if you are studying, working, doing whatever...
https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-images-3d-puppet-going-down-downwards-ladder-image4280794
Here is one example, if you are a parent, and you feel that it is difficult, that is normal. If you sometimes feel tired, or that you do not know how to do something, or even you feel that you are loosing it, that is normal. There are many other people who are in a similar situation and who feel the same. You have to keep doing, to keep going, to keep climbing...
https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photos-downwards-slope-image14336463
Or, if you are working, and your work is hard, really, really hard, and you feel weak and you feel desperate, that is also okay.
If your college is harder than it seemed it will be, that is fine.
If you are not working hard, are you sure that you are even working?
If things are easy, are they really for you?
As Dostoevsky once said 'There is not happiness in comfort, happiness is bought by suffering.'. If you have not worked for it, will you really enjoy it, or you will just get used to it, get bored and at the end get annoyed buy it.
I was already writing about people who got everything by doing nothing, their lives have no purpose. They do not feel complete, they do not feel 'useful'.
So, as Dostoevsky also said 'Happiness does not lie in happines, but in the acheivement of it.'. It is not about the goal, it is about the race, you know, sometimes you do not get to your goal, but your experience of race noone can take from you, ever.
https://www.azquotes.com/quote/80787
Happiness is not a moment it is a process.
Struggling is meaning. It gives your life a purpose, and it makes you satiesfied and happy.
Next time when it seems to easy to you, think about it twice. Maybe it is going downhill, maybe you should change something, maybe you should change somthing. For example, set higher goals, find something harder to do, set any goal, if you do not have any goals at the moment...
In case that things are in place for a while, or they are going too easy, you should look around you. Maybe, your job is not enough for you, or you should find some creative hobbies, or you should try to do som,ething you love and what you are good at as your second job. Or, you should change people around you, maybe it is about them, maybe they are creatin the environment where you cannot develop yourself, because they are too passive.
Whatever it is, do not be afraid to change it, do not be afraid to search for a change. Change is sometimes the only choice that you have, if you want to develop yourself, if you want something better for yourself.
Also, one more thing is important, actually it is not one thing. Change your whole 'set-up', if it is needed.
https://www.alchemyformanagers.co.uk/topics/BvrKqDkAhnwEHxuJ.html/?a=1047
For example, if you have lost your motivation to do good things for yourself, find it. Find your motivation on social media, follow people and things that are giving you positive energy. Watch movies that are giving you positive energy. Listen to positive music.
And last but not least, I know that for the previous thing I said it was last, but this one is last, I promise, fake it 'till you make it.
If you are sad, if you are losing motivation, if you feel that you are going downhill, get up and climb. And if you cannot climb, fake climbing, till you really start climbing.
Get your mindset ready for victory!
Set your goals, and start going upwards!
See you very soon,
SuncicaZ!
Guilty or Not Guilty?
Here I am again, after a break. Today, I would love to talk a bit about so-called 'guilty pleasures'. We all know for those things, those small everyday things that are pleasures for us, and that we should not be doing.
https://www.quora.com/Do-you-believe-in-guilty-pleasures
For example it is an ice cream while you are on your not sugar diet, or it is a movie that is not good and everyone knows that it is not good, but you still like it. Or, it is a book that your friends do not like, or whatever you like and people around you do not.
Whatever makes you happy at the moment and should not make you happy.
https://stefandjukic.com/2021/02/14/guilty-pleasures/
Well, here is my opinion, if you are happy because of something, whatever it is, and that is not making any harm to others, it is okay. It is just fine, just enjoy your ice cream, book, movie...
Whatever it is.
I personally think that there are too many standards, that we do not need at all, we have standards, and bans, and boards everywhere and I do not see the point of all those. Really.
Why don't we just let people be happy, why do people out there, including us have to be ashamed of some small things that we like, that are making us happy. We all know that small things are those that are making our lives big and happy. If we take all those small things, from all of us, what will we have? When you take all those small everyday things, what is left? Only big things, that are happening once in a while. We are left to wait for the big things, that maybe are not going to happen.
https://www.pastemagazine.com/comedy/the-8-stages-of-a-guilty-pleasure/
We do not have to like same things, and that is totally fine, differences are okay, they are normal and we have to accept them.
So, I personally think that we should not feel guilty about things thjat we like and other people do not like. You should not be ashamed of that,and you should live how you want to live.
Just do things that are making you happy, for yourself.
Do not feel bad because you like something what other people do not like.
It is fine, they also have their guilty pleasures, I am sure.
See you soon,
SuncicaZ.
People who are Insulting other People on the Internet
Today, I would love to talk a bit about people who are insulting others on the Internet. No matter are they insulting famous people, people they know, people they do not know, from their profiles or from fake profiles...
About insulting on the Internet in general. Who is doing that, why, how does that affect to the insulted person... and many other questions are waiting for the answer.
But, before I start with the answers I have to tell that I am not a professional, I am not a doctor and I am not a sociologist, so I do not know for sure why is this happening and how does this affect, what I can say is my personal opinion, things that I have learned from professionals and some things from my personal expericence.
https://www.dreamstime.com/angry-fists-insults-online-internet-abuse-concept-photo-internet-online-abuse-insults-two-shaking-fists-emerging-image123339243
Now, we can start.
First of all, I am pretty sure that we all have been insulted at least once, maybe it was not horrible and maybe we did not even pay attention to it, because it lasted short, but I am sure that we faced it. Anyways, it is a kind of a violence. It is a kind of cyber violence. Any rude comment under your post or your photo is violence. Every single insult that you get online.
https://www.istockphoto.com/vector/cyberbullying-victim-hand-holding-smartphone-abuse-internet-hate-concept-social-gm1226763104-361554427
Now, I also have to say what violence is not. If you are doing something, for examplle writing article here and someone disagree with you in comments under your post, without being rude, without insulting, just sharing his or her critic, that is not violence. That is opinion, and it is okey to do not like someone. We cannot be liked always and by everyone. And, we need to accept that, because it will make us stronger.
Criticism is normal, it is everywhere and it is very useful. We simply need to know what is not good in something what we are doing, but everyone can recognize what is insulting and what is criticism.
https://www.istockphoto.com/vector/cyber-bullying-icon-cyberbullying-victim-abuse-internet-online-hate-swear-and-gm1317430453-404861800
Also, if someone is posting photos of himself or herself, you are not aloved to say bad things. Noone is allowed to say bad things about someone's apperance. That is not okay, that is always insulthing. If you do not like how someone looks like, that is okay, you do not have to like everyone, but you cannot say to someone that he or she is ugly, fat, too short, too tall or anything bad...
Just no! Never! To anyone. You cannot comment someone's face or body in negative way. There is not any reason for that.
You can say that you do not like what someone is doing, but you cannot say that you do not like how someone looks like.
https://www.dreamstime.com/guy-discussed-insulted-social-networks-trolling-hating-stressful-situations-negative-comments-internet-editable-image155576775
When you think a bit about that you will realize that there is not need for you to say that someone is for example ugly. You will not feel better, you will not help that person, you will just make him or her feel bad. Bad about himself or herself, and that is not bringing anything good.
Now, when we know what is cyber violence and what is not and when we are clear with what is insulthing and what is not, we can move on.
https://www.thebeijinger.com/blog/2019/12/29/these-are-the-insults-that-celebrities-took-their-trolls-to-court-for-in-2019
Who and why is doing that?
Well, that are doing people who are not satisfied with themselves. Person, who loves himself or herself, will never have a need to tell someone that he is fat or stupid.
Many times you will see that people are using fake profiles to insult other people, and that can tell you many things about person who is insulting.
When you have a fake profile noone knows who you are. Because of that you feel free to say anything.
On fake profile you cannot see photos and even if you can, they are fake, so insulted person or any other person cannot insult the one who is insulting. That is what gives those people freedom to be very rude. Also, if the insulted person deciedes to report this to the police, for the police will be harder to find who is doing that.
That shows us that people who are insulthing are not very brave. They are usually afraid because in real life they are not powerful at all, they do not have anyone to protect them, they do not have a lot of money, they do not have any power. That is why they are hiding.
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Ftheconversation.com%2Fonline-suicide-and-the-dark-psychology-of-internet-insult-forums-101686&psig=AOvVaw1oT6PD9kyDldSVgh89pMIN&ust=1644421755447000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CAsQjRxqFwoTCMiE3cq68PUCFQAAAAAdAAAAABBO
Their fears can come from various sources. First of all, maybe they were bullied in real life, in school or even in their family. They were victims and now, they have a chance to do the same to someone else, they have a chance to feel powerful, they have a chance to see how it looks like and how it feels like to be on the other side.
And, they are taking that chance, they are using it as much as possible, they enjoy it. But, they do not even know how bad their condition actually is. They need help. They need to heal their trauma, and traumatizing other people is not a way, but they do not understand that.
Lack of love in family can also be a kind of trauma that will lead to insulting other people to feel better.
And, those people really need help, and if you ask me, I am sorry for them, very sorry. But, that is not an excuse for what they are doing to other people.
And, if you ask me how to solve this, I do not know what to tell you.
We need first to heal all those people who are insulthing others, and lated we will have to heal all those people who got trauma from being insulted on the Internet.
It is a circle, we need to help to the both sides. When I say 'we', I mean whole society. Everyone needs love, and all those people who had no love, will later during their lives spread hate. We need to stop the hate. We need to help every bullied child before it grow up into a bullie.
Bullies will make new bullies and they will be torturing new people and making new traumas and making new bullies and that is a circle that will never stop unless the society do something about that.
I would really love to know what is your opinion about this and how you would solve this problem.
See you next time,
xoxo,
SuncicaZ!
Big Dreams Babygirl...
No risk, no profit, no story, no dreams...
A couple days ago I was writting about young men, who want everything and now, who want money, easy money. Lots of money in no time, and they have their path. If you are interested into their path, you can see that article here. https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/big-dreams-gangsta-e96b2ec8
Today, I would love to write a bit about young girls who want the same. Their path is a bit different, but it also leads to the edge and sometimes pushes them over the edge.
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/women-are-about-to-control-a-massive-amount-of-wealth-but-cant-find-anyone-to-manage-it-2017-05-12
The economical situation is not the best in many countries, all around the world. And, because of that many young women are frustrated and hopeless. They would do anything to get easy money and because of that they are not chosing way to aceheive their goals.
Usually we have a young girl, who looks pretty and has no money. Her parents are working sometimes for the whole day, but they cannot afford almost anything. People have to buy food, pay rent... and they do not have money to buy expensive clothes to their daughters or to pay them trips.
Girls are watching TV, reading magazines, surffing the Internet, and they see many expensive things all the time. We are living in era of consumerism. Expensive things are presented to us as something what we need and what will make us happy.
Social networks are showing us people, who are all happy, rich and satisfied with their lives. Which is, as I said in my previous articles, normal, nobody will take a photo of himself crying or cleaning the toilet and post that online. We are posting nice photos of ourselves, and that is normal, but it is also normal to know that sometimes we do not look good, sometimes we do not feel good.
https://www.themidlifecoach.org/blog/moneymindset
If a person is posting a photo of herself eating in an expensive restaurant, you have to know that the person worked for that. We can spend only money we have and in order to have money we have to work. That is the only way to really enjoy into spending money and to be proud of yourself while you are spending money.
Only hard work leads to good feeling while spending. Remeber that always. If someone gives you money you will not enjoy spending it as much as you would enjoy if you earned it.
Doing something and earning your own money is a great feeling. You will feel worth, you will feel capable, you will feel independent, and that cannot be bought, that cannot be replaced.
https://www.developattraction.com/money-status-attractive/
Let's get back to our poor girl. She is mad, she is hopeless, she has no time to study hard and to work hard later and to get one by one things that she wants to have.
She is seeing all those rich girls on the Instagram, and she does not know if they are working hard or they have a suggar daddy, or they have rich parents, and she does not care, she only sees that she is prettier than all those girls on the Instagram, but she does not have all those great things that all of them have.
And that is not fair, simply not fair... She has to do something about that... What she can do? She is so pretty but so poor, she wants all those things, and all those not so pretty girls have all that...
That is the point! She is so pretty!
Mne like her! A lot! Many men, young men, older men, rich men, directors, students, judges...
https://www.voicesofyouth.org/blog/love-vs-money
Say it again! Rich men!
That is the point, that is her kay to the life she wants to live. She could have any men with her pretty face and hot body, then why would not she find herself a milionaire?
She will, of course she will.
And, she does not need a lot of time for that.
Milionaire can give her a lot of money, can give her all those expensive things that she wants to have, but what does he think about her?
Maybe, you think that it is not important to her, and, at the begining it is not important to her, butlater will be.
Not his opinion of course, she does not love her, but his opinion will affect to his behavior. And, that is what is important to her.
At one point he realiyes that she onlzu wants his money, he realizes that she is only pretty from the outside, he realizes that she does not know what true love is, and he starts watching her as a thing.
Simply as that, barbie girl he bought for money, and when you buy something for money it is yours.
So he, we will call him Mr. Rich, and we will call her Babygirl, it is easier.
https://www.nicknotas.com/blog/what-happens-when-you-use-money-to-attract-women/
As I said, he realizes that he bought her, so, Mr. Rich starts to treat Babygirls as a doll that he bought. And, Babygirl does not like that at all...
She is not a doll, and she is not there to fulfill his wishes, she wanted Mr. Rich to do what she wants him to do, it seems that her beauty is not enough anymore.
She wants to change that, but she cannot.
There are a couple ways for her. First, she can have children with him, which will lead to more problems, because her body can change, and he will not like that. Remeber, he bought a perfect doll, imprefections are not what he wants. So, he can leave, or even worse he can stay there buy have some other babygirls, yes, lovers.
And, Babygirl cannot handle that, she is the prettiest one, she is the best one, why does he need other babygirls?!
https://www.vectorstock.com/royalty-free-vector/money-parasites-women-and-financial-vector-17739733
Second choice that she has is to divorce, and leave. In that case she can lose everything, or she can get something from her. In both cases she will not be happy, because there are big chances for her to realize that love and respect are important.
And, in case that she gets something, she can spend it easily, and again she will have nothing, because as I said, she was not doing anything, and she does not how to invest money.
And, third is to stay with him. With him she is not happy anymore and because of that she can start doing drugs, for example, which can lead her to the edge and puss her over.
Every single way leads her to the some edge and puss her off.
So, money is not what buys happines, money is not what she wants, what she truly wants, but it is too late for her when she realize it.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2016/07/20/9-things-successful-women-never-do/
There are many TV series and movies about this kind of a woman, and I think that we should have more, more realistic movies and series about it. We need to show girls that money is not what buys happines, and that they will never be happy if they sell themselves.
https://www.inc.com/christina-desmarais/5-traits-of-the-most-successful-women-in-business.html
Remeber babygirl, noone can ever buy you, you are not a thing, you are not your money, and if you sell yourself, your money will never be yours, totally yours.
Remember babygirl, you can do and be whatever you want. You can be successfull woman, and you can buy to yourself everything what you want, if you work hard enough for that.
Spending money will feel much better if you spend money that you earned by working hard.
That was it for this article!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Why are We Breaking our New Year's Resolutions?
I saw many articles about New Year's resolutions, about how to stick to them, and even articles that are recommending some New Year's resolutions.
I personlly think that it is totally wrong to recommend someone what he or she will decide and do in new year.
Also, you cannot learn someone how to stick to anything.
Only what we can do is to support other people.
We can support each other to stick to our plans and resolutions. And, we definitely should do that, because we all need support sometimes.
https://www.verywellmind.com/new-year-resolutions-for-stress-relief-3144722
There are many lists with the most common New Year's resolutions, and on almost all of them you will find decisions like, lose weight, go to the gym every week, stop smoking, read more, ride bycicle and walk more, travel more...
And, at one point, people break them.
Why? Well, simply because they are not ready, they do not want to do it, not enough. People who decided to save money and later break their resolution do that because they, deep inside of themselves do not want to save money. This is just one example. When you decide something what you reallu want, you will be strong enough to stick to it, and to do it for a long time, so if you break it, that just means that you do not want it.
How can you fix that?
Well, fisr is to think about what you really want to. You need to be sure about what you want to. If you do not want ot work out or to save money, do not do it, just because someone told you you should, or you read somewhere that you should.
Next thing that can happen is that while you are thinking about your whole life, you can realize that you actually truly need something. And, you will wish it, with all your being.
What I am trying to say is that you should be sure what do you need in your life and what do you want in your life, when you are sure about those two things, it will be easy for you to stay on your way and to acheive your goal.
See you in next article!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Moral Dilemmas
Today I would love to talk a bit about moral dilemmas. I know that this is a wide topic and I know that we can talk a lot about moral dilemmas.
There are some very famous ones for example is it moral to steal from a theif, is an attorney, who is defending a killer moral, or he is even worse than a killer...
There are also many other less or more known examples of moral dilemmas, and of course, a lot of them we are facing in real life, and other people do not know for them, because moral dilemmas usually stay inside of us, we are fighting with them by ourselves, and we hide them from others, because we are afraid to say. We are afraid that other people will not understand and that they will judge us.
We feel like everyone else would know what to do, except us. We feel like we are not clever enough to solve our dilemma.
But it is totally normal, we are all facing those dilemmas.
Even, if you say someone what is your problem, noone can tell you what to do.
There is a moral in society, and those are some things that whole soicety think are good or bad. Simply as that. About some things whole society has same opinion, but for some others, every member of society can have a different opinion. Totally different. And, that is the inside moral, moral that lives in every person, moral that shows to every person where to go, and, what to do. Moral that will tell you is it alright to steal from a theif or is an attorney who defends a killer worse than a killer.
Here you can see some very interesting moral dilemas. This is an article from a Ice Breaker Ideas site, and there you will see some really great examples of moral dilemmas. I suggest you to think about them, and maybe to ask someone near you what does he or she think about those dilemmas. https://icebreakerideas.com/moral-dilemma-questions/
https://icebreakerideas.com/moral-dilemma-questions/
I am pretty sure that two people will not have same answers to all those dilemmas. Many things have influence to the inside moral of one person. Family, friends, job, way of living, traumas...
And, that is okay, I mean I cannot tell you what is correct, I can only thell you, what I would do and why would I do that, so you can agree or disagree with me.
I cannot tell you, noone can tell you how to solve your moral dilemmas, but, what I can tell you is that it is normal to have them, in many situations, about many things.
https://www.thehindu.com/thread/reflections/moral-dilemmas-in-the-time-of-the-pandemic/article31355118.ece
We all have them, you are not a bad person because of that, you are just a human being, and human beings sometimes do not know what to do.
I hope that you will think about this, and that you will not judge to yourself or feel bad next time when you have any kind of moral dilema.
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Until the Lion Learns to Write...
...every story will glorify the hunter.
-African Proverb.
This proverb is actually very deep and you can recognize hunters all around of us. There are many 'mistakes' in history, because hunters were those who wrote the stories. Many historical facts we do not know nowadays because those who were writting it, wrote it how they wanted. And, they wanted to make themselves heroes, make themselves correct.
https://www.townandcountrymag.com/leisure/travel-guide/a28543120/disney-lion-king-help-endangered-species/
As I said in many my previous posts, I am living in Serbia, that is a former republic of ex Yugoslavia. As you maybe know, Yugoslavia was a comunistic republic and 'making of' it was not totally 'clear'.
After the World War Second and of course during it, comunists were doing some things that they were not supposed to. If you are interested into this topic I can write more about some specific things.
Anyways, the point is that during the history, specially during the wars and after wars, history was written by victors. And, that is wrong. That is totally wrong. If our history is not true, that means that our lives are not based on true. That means that we are all living in a lie, that we are living in countries that are built on lies.
https://www.istockphoto.com/illustrations/history-book
For how log lies can last? 50 years, 70 years, one century, two, three centuries? How long should they last? And, when it is over with them, who will stop them? Who is going to tell us the true?
In my opinion, those who saw what happened. People, who lived during the period that 'history writers' are trying to present in a wrong way. Revolution after revolution if it is need. We have to fight for the true. It is the most important things that one country can give to her people.
That is why, people have to fight for it, when the country is trying to hide it.
One country are all her citizens, not only a couple of people who are leading it. That is why the lion has to learn to write as soon as possible. Lion has to know his rights, and has to fight for them.
Big Dreams, Gangsta...
Said you have to leave to start your life over.
But there is no gangster who can syart life over. None of them. Ever.
Once you get in that kind of a trouble, you stay there forever. Till the end, and many times the end is not far away.
Today, I would like to talk a bit about life on the other side, about young people who get there, their reasons for that, about what happens to them, and how they end up.
https://www.inc.com/tim-askew/white-collar-criminality-addiction-and-the-entrepreneur.html
There are many movies about criminals and some of them are Scarfect, The Legend, Carlito's Way, Donnie Brasco, Dead or Alive, The Public Enemy, A Better Tomorrow... and many, many more. And, some of those movies, actually all those movies from the list, and many more gangster movies are really great. And, I recommend watching them. But, carefuly. Focus on the end of the movie. Focus how any money, any power anything was never stronger than the state or than the bullet.
All those bad boys ended up bad.
https://wicnews.com/caribbean/jamaican-criminals-always-carry-weapons-committing-crime-reports-271031521/
I am living in Serbia and the end of the last century was not the best period in my country. War, restrictions, politics, all that was leading us to the edge, and unfortunately many young people, fell of that edge. I say young people because that was happening to the bouys and girls both, just in different ways. Maybe, I will also write about gilrs in some of next articles.
Now, young boys were watching their parents working hard, having no money and having lots of problems during that period.
They saw that hrad work is not bringing any money and that is how they 'realized' that they do not need to go to school that they do not need education to get money. At the same time, they are watching criminlas all around them, having best cars, lost of money and prettiest girls. So, they simply decided to go that way, to earn a lot of money in no time.
Next thing, young people do not like boring things, life of a criminal is everything but boring. There is a lot of risk but it is never boring. And, some young men really like that. Lost of adrenalin lots of adventures...
https://www.dreamstime.com/flower-guns-lemon-apple-watermelon-guns-roses-design-vector-theme-illustration-set-bundle-icon-symbol-image167631499
It is fast. I said that before but I think that I should talk more about that. When you are doing something legal, first you go to school, after that university, after that you start, you move up and you have to confess, that is a bit slow. Young people are not patient. They want everything and they want it now.
When you mix all those things with a bunch of negative energy and negative feelings, you get people who do not understand each other, who do not have time for each other. You get parents who do not talk to their sons enough and sons who do not ask their parents anything.
Situation is not much better nowadays, there are still many poor people in Serbia, still many people who are doing two jobs in order to buy everything their family need. Many will say now that love and time spent with family is more important than money. I agree, but many people, cannot afford everything they need for normal life if they are doing only one job. People have to buy food, clothes, pay rent and bills...
That is why people do not have much time for their children. At the same time, children do not have any control and they can do whatever they want to. They are spending a lot of time watching TV and on social networks. As we all know, we are all happy, pretty and rich on social networks. And, that is normal, noone will ever post an ugly photo, but sometimes that makes people think that is not normal to have bad day, to do not have money...
Also, movies, music, everything glorifies violence, money, drugs, criminals...
Young people are under bad influence and that afects on many of them.
Those are the reasons why young people decide to become criminals.
How do they get into that?
Well, there are many ways. Some of them know someone, who is already a criminal, some of them get into that alone...
There are many songs about the 'criminal path' and about how boys become criminals. There is a Serbian song called 'Zivot Klinca', which means life of a young boy, he got into that because he was poor and he wanted to help his mother. His friend 'helped' him to get in, later he become rich, powerful, he head everything, but he had nothings. At the end he lost his mother, and then he realized that he actually has nothing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sNuch0RySI
No matter how do they get into all those things at one point they will realize that it is not what they wanted. That it is not what it seemed like. Here in Serbia we have a proverb that says 'It is not gold everything that shines', which means that if sometihing seems very good, does not meen that it actually is good.
Anyways, when they realize that it is not what they want, they usually at the same time realize that they cannot get out of that alive. And, of course they are in panic, they would love to change their lives, but there is not way for that.
Now we can connect this to the first sentence of this article.
'Said you have to leave to start life over'. You have, but you cannot, you want to run, but you know that you cannot escape, you want to change but you know that there is not a point. You want to scream, but noone will hear you, you want to hide, but they will find you...
That's just how it is.
Because of that, be careful before you even get into it, be careful when you decide what you are going to be in your life. There is not way back. You will stay where you are.
Some mistakes cannot be corrected. Never.
That was all for this article, in followinf days I will write the 'female' version of this article, about topic that is connected to this one. I hope that this will be interesting to you.
Let me know what do you think about this in the comments below.
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Best Slasher Movies of all Time
Today, I have a bit different topic. I usually write about people, about characthers, about what people have in themselves. But, not today. Today, I will write about movies. Not characthers from those movies, well, not about who they are, why they act in the way they act and things similar to that.
Today, I am here with a list of best slasher movies of all time. On this list, you will mostly see movie serials.
And, first of all slasher is a subgenre of horror movies. Shortly said, it is a movie where we have a serial killer, a lot of blood, a lot of dead people, and a lot of scary scenes.
Those horror movies are the most popular horror movies.
Now, we can start with our list.
And, yes, movies on this list are movies I personally like, maybe they are not the best, maybe you do not like time, maybe censors had nothing good to say about them.
First of all there is my favorite horror serial, '***Texas chainsaw massacre***'. This horror movie serial has 8 parts, and my favorite parts are the first one and the last one. I personally love to see the story behind the maniac who kills people, because that shows us, why is he doing that, that is why I like the last part of this serial.
https://www.nme.com/news/gaming-news/a-texas-chainsaw-massacre-game-might-be-in-development-3038619
Next slasher that I like a lot is a '***House of Wax***' (2005). This movie is really great, and if you like horror movies, and you have not seen it before, you definitely should. Also, in this movie you can see why the killer became a killer. (I know that some people love to see the story behind the maniac from horror movie, I am one of those people.).
Next one on this list is a serial called '***Silent Night, Deadly Night***'. It is also a movie with a story behind. We see what happened to the killer. Here are also a couple serials, and I want to put all of them here. Those movies are very popular, and I am sure you can guess what I am going to say. Of course, those movie serials are great, and they are 'Halloween', 'Nightmare on Elm Street' and 'Friday the 13th'.
Now, when we are done with those popular movies, we can move to some that are not very popular, but they are great.
'***Stepfather***' (2009) is a movie that definitely deserves to be on this list. This is not a typical horror slasher movie, because we do not have a typical maniac who kills people. Killer from this one is a man, who looks totally normal, actually kind, but he definitely is not.
https://www.ebay.com/p/25046021401
'***Pumpkinhead***' there are four movies from Pumpkinhead serial, the first one is from 1988. And if you have not seen it yet, I recommend you yo watch it. Again, we do not have a typical maniac. I mean, he does not look normal, but he is not a human, and that m akes him different.
https://www.amazon.com/Pumpkinhead-Blu-ray-Lance-Henriksen/dp/B07GNW9BTN
That is my list of best slasher movies. Of course, this list can be much longer, and maybe I will write the part two.
Is Man a Beast?
Hello all, now, when I am writing this it is only 5 hours left till New Year. Maybe, some of you, when you see what I will going to talk about, say that tis is not a topic for a New year's Eve, but I think it is perfect. I think that we should talk about bad things that were happening trough history to some of us, and I think that global New Year's resolution should be to be better. Better people. For us. For others. For everyone and everything.
At the begging of the pandemic I was writting a bit aobut people and what they can become in situations that are not good for them. Here you can see that post. In that post I was talking about people during pandemic, while we are all equal. https://read.cash/@SuncicaZ/who-we-actually-are-a2460662
I am pretty sure that you all remeber people in markets fighting over toilet paper and fluor that they actually do not need. But, what is happening when someone thinks that he or she has more rights on the paper.
https://www.antislavery.org/12-years-slave-inspiration-modern-day-abolitionists/
What is happening when someone is stronger than other people? When someone feels power and know that others are totally powerless. What will that 'powerful person' do? How cruel a human being can be?
A couple days ago I was watcign great movie called '12 Years a Slave'. It is about a man, free man, who by accident becomes a slave. As the title of the movie says he was a slave for 12 years, and during his journey he has met many people, from good people, who are trying to help slaves to people who are sure that they have a right to torture, humilate and kill their slaves.
https://www.amazon.com/12-Years-Slave-Benedict-Cumberbatch/dp/B00ICSVLPA
Thanks to some bad people he becomes a slave and thanks to one good man he becomes free again.
At the beginning this man is free, and he is a good man and a bit naive. He has nice family and he is an artist, musician, thanks to evil people, who cheated him, he ended up as a slave. First, he was bought by a good man, who has not very good employees on his holding. That man, who is a supervisor and is not an owner is not a rich or powerful man is doing some terrible things to slaves.
https://www.history.com/news/dachau-concentration-camp-liberation
That only shows us that people, who are powerful usually are not as cruel as those who have nothing, but they think that they have something. Something like those capos in German concentration camps, during World War II. They were also in camps, they were not free, just the Germans gave them some power. Some of them, of course, used that to help other prisoners, but some of them used that so be as cruel as possible.
I do not know what is that in a man to make a beast out of him, when he should be the best possible. There were concentration camps in whole Europe, in Poland, in Serbia, in Croatia. For example in those camps in Croatia, prisoners were Croatian people and in prison were Serbs, Roma and Jews. It is interesting to say that all those people lived in Kingdom of Yugoslavia before the World War II. And, also there were some Croatian people, who were not working in those camps, who were helping Serbians and Jews. And, some prisoners were doing horrible things to other prisoners. For example, they were reporting others for various things, they were beating them... all that in order to get more food or less drubbing.
https://www.ramascreen.com/poster-and-trailer-for-serbias-holocaust-drama-dara-of-jasenovac/
Which shows us that some people, of course, risk a lot, and give their best to help those who need help, and some other people think that they can do anything to those who are helpless, while they are helpless.
Now, to get back to the movie, in order to save his slave life, the good man who owns him, has to give him to another man. That man thinks that slaves are his private property because he bought them. He is even cruel to his own wife, which means that maybe, he is just a bad person, but he is notbeating his wife, he is beating only his slaves. Even a girl he is in love with. All the time he shows that he is powerful and that they are nothing. That they mean nothing, that they are worthless.
And, what makes one man think he is better than any other man?
Why did Germans during the World War II think that they are better than Slavic folks or Jews? What makes white people think that they are better than black people?
Why does color of skin make someone good or bad? Why does money make one man more powerful than the other man?
No matter how much you have, no matter what do you believe in, no matter where you are from you are equal. We are all equal. We are all the same.
One man can only be a good or bad and that is all.
So, when someone else needs help, you should help if you can help. Specially if you are also in a similar problem. People, who share problems, undeerstand each other, and owe each other to help, as much as they can help.
So, in New Year help everyone you can, and if you cannot help, do not make their situation worse than it is.
Being nicer to others is perfect New Year's resolution, and if we all decide that, I am sure that in the next year the world will be a better place to live in.
Dear Santa...
No, this is not a beginning for the letter to Santa Claus, but those letters are the topic of this article.
I am sure that we all believed in Santa and we all were writting letters to Santa or if we were not writting letters to him, we were telling to our parents what we want to get from Santa for Christmas and for New Year.
Also, children all around the world believed in Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny...
I was thinking a bit about all those creatures that children all around the world believe in, and I think that it is nice to beleve in something nice.
https://www.shutterstock.com/search/religious+symbol
Also, there are some scary creatures, like for example Boogyman, that children also believe in.
They think that they if they are good Santa, or Bunny will bring them presents, and that if they are not good that Boogyman will come to punish them. And, some of them really act nice because of that.
What I am trying to say is that they believe in reward and punishment. For good things reward, for bad things punishment.
When we grow up we learn some things about religion and we believe in God. Here, I do not want to talk about specific religion or specific God, I wanna talk about religion in general.
Many people, if you ask them if they believe, would say that they do, but they do not act like they do.
I mean, if you believe in God, any god, you believe that God will give you rewards for all the good things that they are doing, but do yopu believe that he will punish you for all the bad things that you are doing?
If you do, why are you doing bad things, and if you do not, then why do you believe?
I have to tell you, before I move on, that I do not want to insult anyone, and that I respect all the religions. I respect all the people who believe.
What I want to say is that people, who are saying that they believe, actually do not understand religion on a right way. They believe only in the part they like. You know, people often say that God will punish someone for something, but they never say that they are those who will be punished.
You have to understand that religion has two directions, one for the good one for the bad.
If you want to believe you will have to believe in all.
That is just my opinion about religion and about believing into things. Kids, who believe into all those creatures, truly believe into them. Grown people, who believe in any religion do not truly believe in their religions.
They believe only in a part that is good for them, and that is what I do not like about religions nowadays.
Religions have lost their sense.
My opinion is that you should find something, what you will believe in, truly.
Religion, yourself, law of attraction, anything what you find useful for you.
When I say useful I mean, anything that can help you to feel better and to move on, when you do not feel like moving on.
So, that was my short opinion about this very important topic, and I would really love to know what do you think about this!
Not my circus...
Here in Serbia, when somethig is none of our business, we say 'Not my circus and not my monkey'.
People say this very often, for many things. For example, when someone is having any kind of a problem. But, is it really that way? Are other people's problems our business, specially if we can help them.
Not only in Serbia, but all around the world, people seem to be interested only in their own problems, even when they can help other people, even when other people need them.
First of all, domestic violence is a problem that has hit many people, specially women, children and elder people. Socieaty sometimes, well not sometimes, very often, leave victims to solve their problem by they own.
Domestic violence is a violence that family members are conducting on other members of their families.
https://www.coe.int/en/web/portal/-/violence-against-women-in-finland-monitoring-report-praises-more-services-for-victims-but-calls-for-review-of-criminal-offences
As I said victims are usually women, children and old people, which means that bullies are usually husbands, parents and children. Husbands are torturing their wifes, parents their young children, and children their old parents.
I can talk a lot about domestic violence, about all the victims and about situations they find themselves in. But, that would be very long, so here I will write only something very shourt about a couple cases.
In Serbia, police had a criminal charges, from a woman, who was hit with a hammer by her husband. Later that woman took back her chargers.
https://www.coe.int/fr/web/commissioner/blog/-/asset_publisher/xZ32OPEoxOkq/content/no-violence-against-children-is-acceptable-all-violence-is-preventable?_101_INSTANCE_xZ32OPEoxOkq_languageId=en_GB
Some women where beaten up to death.
Some of them were humilated and tortured in front of their children.
Some of them were thrown from balcony.
Usually victims are woman, and very often that lasts for years, because of that, some women have terrible psychical consequences. Some of them have a beaten woman syndrom, which is a type of beaten person syndrome. Person, who has this syndrom is very afraid of everything what is happenig. Person is constantly afraid and because of that her mental health is destroyed. Those persons at one point cannot handle anymore and because of that they need to 'get out' of their situation.
https://www.vox.com/2020/3/26/21193814/coronavirus-domestic-violence-shelters-covid-19-abuse
Women, who do not have kids, or whose kids are not victims of domestic violence, decide to kill themselves, and to end violence.
Women, who have kids, or whose kids are also victims of domestic violence, decide to kill their violent husbands. They just do not have anything other to do, because society is not there for them.
There are some institutions, who are supposed to help them, but it seem that it is not enough. Because of that I think that we, as a society have to do something for those women, and not only women, also gor children, old people, and all other people, who are victims of violence.
If all of us are ready to help them, they will have chance for a normal life, they will have chances to leave their bullies and they will survive and live a normal life.
So, next time, think twice is it your circus and is it your monkey.
Chose your life
Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn'd settle for it.
You can be anything and the world is yours.
Just, you have to find out what do you want for yourself, and you have to be sure that you found what is for you, because as I said you can be anything, but you cannot be everything.
https://gurulex.com/the-best-quotes-of-all-time/
So, first step is to believe in yourself, and to know that you can.
Second step is to be sure what is for you. Here I do not think occupation only. Your lifestyle should be expression of what you are. You have to live a life that you feel is totally yours and is meant to be yours. Everything what you do, should be in order to make you satisfied. Not always happy, but satisfied. As I always say, happiness is a strong feeling that cannot last very long and whan you are satisfied that can last forever.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-happy-life/202010/what-is-the-purpose-life
So, when you found out what is really for you, you are going to feel like it is the only in the whole world. For example, if you have chosen your occupation and you really love it, you will know that it is the only thing that you can doo. If you do not know that and you do not feel that, maybe you should change your occupation. Or any other thing in your life that is important for you and you do not feel it as yours.
It is never too late to change things. But, get up right now and go change what you do not like, do not settle. Never.
You are not too old, you do not need more money, you do not need better conditions. Because, if you had all that, you would not have to change anything, you would be satisfied with what you are and what you have.
https://www.facebook.com/lifeisnow2020/
Do not settle for your life, never. Here is Serbia we have a phrase that says 'give what you give' and it means we do not care what will be given to us, we just want something, anything. Never get what is given, always take what you want to take.
You deserve to have what you truly want to have.
Unfortunately, many people nowadays do not know what they want, they are going to colleges that their parents are chosing for them. They are doing jobs that are paid well, because they want money. They are doing things that society think should be done.
Money is not happiness. College is not happiness, being accepted by the society is not happiness. If is it not for you is not happiness.
If you do not want to have a regular 'nine to five' well paid job that is okay, and if you already have it and you do not want it, it is okay to quit that job. It is okay to make for living from your hobby.
In case that you do not want to get married but you want to have kids, that is totally fine. It is also fine if you want to get married and you do not want kids. Also, it is okay to do not want none of them.
If you want to work all day because you love your job and that is what makes you happy that is okay.
It is just fine to be shy, to read a lot, to do not read at all. You can go to every party in your city, if that makes you happy, you do not have to go to any party, you can travel a lot or be at home all the time.
Whatever you want to, whatever makes you satisfied.
I cannot tell you what is for you or what you should try. What I can tell you is that for you is what makes you feel satisfied. What brings you peace is yours. Accept it, and work on it.
So, do not settle for anything because someone said you to do it, because society thinks it is upright.
It is not upright if it is not for you.
So, go ahead find fhat is yours, and when you find it, take it and never ever let it!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ.
Cyberbullying...
... is a serious problem and it should be defined as a crime in Criminal Law of every single country.
Two days ago 21 years odl influences from Serbia commited suicide because of cyberbullying.
She could not handle it anymore.
She could not star strong anymore.
She lost hope that one day things will get better.
And, for her, things will never get better.
For her, it is all over, unfortunately.
But, for some other young people, who are facing the same problem it is not over yet, and for them, it can end in a different way. They need help, and country with laws and punishments is not the only one who will help. We all have to help, and we all can help.
Even if there is a law about this, sometimes is hard for the police to find people who are doing this. Sometimes, there are a lot of them who are focused on one person, and they usually have fake profiles. Also, sometimes people who are getting abusive messages and comments are deleting them, because they do not want to watch them. Sometimes, people who are writing all those things are using VPN, and it is not easy to find them.
Because of that we need to learn to respect other people. No matter are they famous or not. Famous people have more attention and because of that a lot of us know that they are victims of cyberbullying.
https://www.bitdefender.com/blog/hotforsecurity/make-the-internet-a-better-safer-place-on-stop-cyberbullying-day
A lot of people, who are not famous are also facing this, but we do not know that because we do not know all those people. Unfortunately it is very common among children.
That can be a serious problem it is a kind of violence and it can do a lot of damage to victims.
I do not have a lot of things to say in this article, I just wanted to say that we need to learn our kids to be kind always to everyone, and we need to realize that every message, evbery commnt can hurt people.
That was it, and I would really love to hear your opinion about this.
Why does Bonnie like Clyde?
Hello everyone, as always I hope that you are healthy and happy.
Today, I would love to talk a bit about one interesting topic. As you maybe can guess from the title of this article, I will write about good girl and bad guy.
Maybe you are wondering why do women like bd guys, criminals, what is so special about it, what bad guys have that good guys do not have.
https://www.fbi.gov/history/famous-cases/bonnie-and-clyde
Well, it is not about guys, it is all about girls.
It is ***hybristophilia***, what makes girls like bad guys.
Hybristophilia is a kind of paraphilia, and pharaphilia, simply said is a sexual attracion to something what is not normal and usual. People with paraphilia are attracted to atypical objects, fantasies, situations or behaviors. Some of the most known paraphilias are pedophilia, sodomy, sadism... there are also many fetishes, and some of them are very popular.
Well, hybristophilia is one, not very known kind of paraphilia. It is a sexual attraction to people who commited crimes. Usually, women are those who have it.
That is because of women's nature. Women are used to men that are stronger than them. Trough years that was normal, and because of that women subconsciously are searching for strong men. Criminals seem strong, they have money, they have power, they seem like they can do anything.
https://www.vectorstock.com/royalty-free-vector/good-girl-and-bad-boy-romance-cute-doodles-drawing-vector-1826904
Also, those men are constantly well, maybe not afraid, but they all the time know that any moment can be their last. Because of that, they are spending a lot of money, they are having all the time. 'Work hard, party hard', they can lose their lives while they are 'at work', and because of that they are having a lot of fun, traveling a lot, spending a lot of money, and women love that.
But, there is one more thing about them, they can have a lot of women, and they usually do not have a relationship with only one woman at the time. And, that is what women usually do not think about, they want to believe that they are the only one, and they do believe.
https://totalsororitymove.com/why-good-girls-fall-for-bad-boys/
Sometimes, they are the only woman to those men, but that is not happening often, because in mind of those men they are the alpha males, and as time is passing, their woman is getting older, and she is not the alpha female anymore (for them alpha female is the pretties one, and the prettiest one is usually the youngest one). So, they move forward and find an alpha female for themselves.
Usually those relationships end with a woman who is not happy anymore.
Now, I will talk a bit about reasons for this.
And, before I start with reasons, I want to tell that some of those reasons are not proved. Sicence still does not know all the things about our mind and because of that we still cannot be sure about some things.
https://www.pinterest.com/rah9112007/good-girl-bad-boy-aesthetic/
First reason on this list is a lack of father. Some women, who have this kind of paraphilia do not have father, because he is dead, some of them are children of divorced parents, and they lived with their mothers, without their fathers, and some of them lived with fathers but they did not have a proper relationship. Maybe, father was too strickt, maybe he was not strickt at all. There are many things that can make a relationsip between child and father inapropriate.
Because they did not have a father that will protect them as they would love to or did not love them enough, or was not there for them. And, they have so called 'daddy issues' and they are looking for someone to solve that. Powerful man seems perfect for that.
Some other women are very successful and powerful and because of that they want to have man that is more powerful by their side, and criminals seem perfect for that.
Some women think that there is a little boy inside of dangerous man, and that buy needs love. So, they are loving that little boy. Sometimes dangerous men had some trumas in childhood, and tht made them dangerous. And, women are trying to comfort that boy.
And, sometimes women see that those men are not good and they are simply trying to fix them.
This is very common, hybristophilia is something what many woman have, but its name is not very popular and many people do not know that sexual attraction to criminals has a name and that is it a kind of paraphilia.
What we all know is that many women like bad guys a lot. There are many movies, many books, even songs about good girl who loves bad boy.
There are even perfumes Good Girl and Bad Boy by Carolina Herrera
Here is one song about that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6b33PTbGxk
I am sure that you have already heard this song.
And, here is one more song about this that is not as popular as the previous one. But, it is very popular in former Yugoslavian republics.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=civL6EPLX7o
In all those movies, books, songs... criminal loves his princes a lot, but in real life sometimes she is not her princes and he is not his only woman.
Tell me in the comments below what is your opinion about this, and do you know any good girl who likes bad boys.
See you in a next article!
xoxo,
SuncicaZ
First Man who Died in Space
Today, I am bringing you one very interesting and at the same time very scary story about human being. Human beings who wanted to do big things, human beings who truly loved each other, human beings who sacrificed themselves for others.
I will write abour Vladimir Komarov, Russian cosmonaut, who was the first man ever who died in space.
http://t0.gstatic.com/licensed-image?q=tbn:ANd9GcS8GB61OJHcniryq7Oobd3eLc1Is9pRcRskJ0rsJC3Y9TMZnJmHrzLO0Xat35mL
There is a whole book about this man and his last mission, where he lost his life, written by Jammy Doran and Pirs Byzony. In this book you can read a lot about this happening and things that were leading to it.
Now, I will write one short story about this man, and if you are interested into it, you can find that book and find out mora about Vladimir.
This man was very good pilot and he was really very competent for a lot of things, and that is maybe the main reason why he was the only cosmonaut who was sent to the space twice.
https://rs.rbth.com/istorija-rusije/92094-vladimir-komarov-tragican-kraj-kosmonauta
His first trip to the space was successful and he was a hero of Soviet Union. For the second trip he was chosen between him and Yuri Gagarin. Thos etwo cosmonauts were close friends and each of them wanted to fly in this mission, because thery both know that spacehip Soyuz 1 was not safe for flying.
Komarov was the one who was chosen and he accepted this because he knew that if he reject, Yuri will be the one who will fly. Yuri wanted to fly instead of Komarov, because he checked the ship and he noticed that there are 203 problems on the ship.
You are maybe wondering why did they send the ship with 203 problems to the space. It was 1967 and that year Soviets were celebrating 50 years of the Great Soviet revolution and they wanted to celebrate it. They planed to send two spaceships to the space, they were supposed to meet each other up there, on one of them Komarov was supposed to be alone, and there were supposed to be two cosmonauts on the other one. They should meet there, and Komarov was supposed to change places with one of the cosmonauts on the other ship, and to land on the Earth.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9b3l5pl7aoQ
That had to be great Soviet victory in space and predsident of Soviet Union Leonid Brezhnev did not want to give up on that. All around of him knew how much he wanted that and because of that nobody dare to tell him that Soyuz 1 is not safe for flying.
Yuri Gagaring has written a report and tried to send it to Brezhnev, but it never got to him and Komarov has left the Earth in it, knowing that he will not get back to the Earth alive.
http://www.russianspaceweb.com/soyuz1-crash.html
Before this trip Komarov said "I cannot reject this. If I reject it, they will send the substitute pilot and that is Yuri. I cannot let that happen. We have to take care of him.".
http://www.russianspaceweb.com/soyuz1-crash.html
This spaceship was sent into the orbit on 23rd of April in 1967 with Vladimir Komarov in it. After the Soyuz 1 was launched into the orbit the realized that everything is wrong with it and they gave up on launching Soyuz 2, and they gave up on all the show that they wanted in space.
Also there are some audio recordings, but connection was not very good and because of that we cannot be sure what Komarov is saying to cosnonauts that are on the Earth. But, people, who were there and who heard him later said that all of them were crying and that he was crying and screaming while his ship was falling back to the Earth. Also, some of them told that he was railing everyone except his wife and Yuri. And, we can understand that, because all of them, who were there except Yuri and his wife were guilty for what was happening to him.
Now, let's move to the main part, as I said the spaceship was not good and was not safe. Nothing on that ships was working properly, almost every part of it had some problem. Even catapult and parachutes were not working and that was one of the main reasons why he could not survive. He had no chance.
At one moment whole ship began to fall because the fuel tank was empty, he could not get out of it, actually he could get out, but he had a choice between getting out of spaceship in the middle of the space or to stay in his ship and be burned to death, actually not burned, melted.
The temperature in the ship became so high at one point that his body, his uniform and everything else in that ship started to melt. He was in extremely pain. the only 'good' thing, if we can even call that good is that it did not last long. He was not in pain for a long time.
This is one more example how big countries are sacrificing their best people in order to be good, to be the best, the strongest...
https://mondo.rs/Info/Svet/a1565734/Smrt-ruskog-kosmonauta-Vladimira-Komarova.html
One year later, in 1968 Yuri Gagarin died in a plane accident, and that would look like an accident, but if we did not know that he was very angry and that he attacked many peoople because of his friend Vladimir, who was sent to the death. He even asked Leonid Breznev for explanation, and some people told that he even spilled a drink into his face. Now, when we know that, should we believe that he really died into an accident?
I will not give answer to that question, I will leave you to make your own opinion about that.
What I would love to say for the end is that Vladimir Komarov was real hero, he was not only good cosmonaut he was also making ships, he was giving instructions to other cosmonauts and helping them with his experiences from space.
My opinion is that people should never be sacrificed like Komarov.
I guess that you agree with me.
@SuncicaZ
