Humans are social beings so we cannot live alone as human beings. Every moment of life from birth we make some valuable relationships and some important relationships have to be made. In order to move on, we all want these relationships to be a lasting and unbroken bond throughout our lives.
For any relationship to be beautiful, the contribution of both present in the relationship is undoubtedly needed. But, could our own behavior also be the reason for breaking up our favorite relationship?
As can be seen, it is not always possible to maintain a relationship with love. Some of the habits of the people in the relationship cause their mental deterioration -
1. Showing extra possession
If there is excessive possession in everything, if there is skepticism, the relationship is ruined from the beginning. When a man wants to be tied tightly, naturally his mind slowly starts to get out of the relationship, and he starts to lie. In fact, just as it is important to have a financial bond, it is also important for each person to have their own identity.
2. Not giving personal time
Every human being needs some personal space or personal space and time; No matter how close he is to you! If you, as a half-partner in a relationship, claim the full time of a person, insisting that his world revolves around you, then that is utter nonsense and undoubtedly oppressive on the person in front! So let the people closest to you spend some time of the day with yourself. Personal space is essential for mental well-being, and indirectly for improving relationships.
3. Other friends, not to spend time with family
If you expect, (primarily marital, spouse) that your life partner's time is just your right, he or she can't have a relationship with his or her friends or family, or even if he or she has a relationship, he or she can't spend time with them. However, the chances of your relationship being sweet are slim! Good relationships with family and friends are very important for good mental health. And if a person is not mentally healthy, he will never be able to maintain a good relationship.
4. Excessive authoritarian behavior
About two people are of equal importance. It is very important to respect each other's opinions, decisions and ideologies. But if one thinks that every decision of the whole relationship will be according to his opinion and wants to have complete control over the life of the partner, then the other cannot express the right opinion. One person's overly authoritarian behavior can be a major cause of relationship breakdown.
5. Use of disrespectful sentences
Arguments and quarrels are normal. But if during a fight one person constantly speaks disrespectfully to the other, abuses and uses words that hurt the person in front of him, it does long-term damage to the relationship. Maybe the cause of the monomalignment is gone very soon, but the words that come out of the mouth cut a scar in the mind of the person in front, which may not go away very soon!
6. Threatening to harm him or himself
Although blackmail achieves an immediate goal, it is not possible to improve a relationship in the long run. So threatening to harm yourself or others if something like your own doesn't happen, or if you don't get something, is the same as killing a relationship with your own hands! If anyone has this habit between the two people present in the relationship, the consequences of that relationship are very unlikely to be happy!
7 . Constantly blaming or insulting
Every human being present about beauty goes forward in all areas of life. But if it happens that one person in the relationship is constantly blaming the other for something, belittling it, trying to hold it back, maintaining that relationship means a loss of self-esteem!
8 . Showing unrealistic needs:
No human is perfect, everything in life will never be like your mind. About If you expect everything perfect from your partner, or expect something from him that is not possible for him, then your unrealistic needs will harm your real life.
9. Constantly comparing
Comparison is a thing that is enough to ruin any beautiful relationship. No one on earth is like anyone else and everyone has both faults and virtues. But if you compare one person with another, you can never be happy in life.
10. Not giving importance to the existence of others
Taking the relationship or the person present in the relationship ‘for granted’ and not trying to do anything for the relationship, gradually destroys the relationship. The mentality of "she is, and she will be" keeps us from working for our relationship. But in fact, every relationship is beautiful through small actions.
Many times the relationship that is the cause of our emotional damage, it is not the fault to come out of that relationship! Having these habits within ourselves, by giving them up quickly, we can keep our relationships good.
Your article is nice one. Everything what you have said are totally agreeable.
But in my opinion you missed one point that: Male and female act differently in various situation and they are completely different . Like if female feels depressed they need company so that they can share their feeling where as male likes to be left alone, so that he can take out some solution. Female speak the language of company but male speaks the language of action.
This attributes of male and female must be known at first and then we can talk on how we can take our relationship.
It's just by opinion towards relationship.