I will share from shiv khera's international best selling book "You Can Win", "Goal setting and how to reach the goal"

Knowledge helps you reach goals, that's why you need to know; What is the goal?

In ancient times, an Indian sage was teaching his disciples archery: he placed a wooden bird in a tree and told the students to "set a goal in the bird's eye" and then asked the first disciple to describe what he was seeing. The disciple said, "I see a tree, a branch of a tree, a bird in the sky and its eyes." The sage told him to wait Then he asked the second disciple the same question and said, "I only see the bird's eye view" The sage said, "Very well, then pierce the eye." He drew the arrow and pierced the bird's eye.

What is the principle education of this story? We cannot achieve success if we do not set goals and focus on them properly It is difficult to concentrate on setting goals; But we can acquire this skill through practice If you want to move forward on the path of life, focus on the goal Focus on good habits, not bad habits.

Focus on the goal: -

On July 4, 1952, Florence Chadwick and the female swimmer were about to cross the Catalina Strait. Before that he had won the English Channel The whole world was focused on him Chadwick struggled with thick fog, bone-chilling cold, and often haor ravages.

He tried his best to reach the shore But whenever he looked through his glasses, he saw a thick fog in front of him Unable to see the arrow, he stopped trying Chadwick was devastated to find that he was only half a mile from the shore.

He had to give up because his goal was not visible Other obstacles could not stop him He said, "I'm not making any excuses If I could see the arrow, if I could see the shore, I would surely succeed

"Two months later, he swam across the Catalina Channel. Despite the bad weather, he remained steadfast in his goal. This time, he not only succeeded, but finished in less than two hours, the male swimmer's record."

Why is the goal important?

Even on a very sunny day, a strong fire cannot ignite glass paper if the glass is shaken all the time. But if the fire glass is kept in one place by aiming, then the fire will burn on the paper Such is the power of mindfulness

On the way to the lake, a man stood at a crossroads and asked an elderly gentleman, "Which way is this road?" The gentleman asked, "Which way do you want to go?"

The lady said, "I don't know." The old gentleman said, "Then go whichever way you go, because what's the difference?" It is very true When we don't know where we are going, we can go any way Suppose a football team of 11 people is seen playing with excitement and excitement. Anyone has picked up a goal-paste. How to play now?

How to win - How to determine the winner? When left unmanaged, they can be left astray and lose the right path. The goal is to guide life in a certain way Do you know where you are going on a train or an airplane? The sure answer is "no", so why go to life without any specific evidence?

Dreams

Lake confuses aspirations and dreams with goals Dreams and aspirations are nothing more than desires Weak will 6 It is necessary to strengthen the will

1: - Specific path

2: Self-employment

3: Determination

4: - Discipline

5 :- Death

It is by these that the difference between desire and goal can be understood The goal is to realize the dream within a specific time frame and through an action plan Goals can sometimes be successful and sometimes unsuccessful The goal is not a vague desire, it is a deep desire that makes the dream come true

Ways to make dreams come true: -

There will be a clear written goal There will be a plan to achieve this goal Read these two things twice a day

Why not target more people?

There are many reasons for this, the most notable of which are: -

1: A pessimistic attitude; Many people are more likely to be overwhelmed by the prospect of success

2: Fear of failure? If I don't succeed, what will happen? The subconscious mind always thinks that no one will call them unsuccessful unless they have a specific goal or purpose. But as a result of this thinking, they have failed from the very beginning

3: Lack of ambition; It is the consequence of our values ​​and lack of desire to live life to the fullest Our limited thinking hinders our progress If a fisherman caught a big fish, he would release it in the river He kept six fishes Noticing this unusual behavior, a man asked the fisherman the reason The fisherman replied, "My fish frying pan is six." Many people have gone fishing with six fishing pots in their lives. This is the limitation of thinking

4: Fear of rejection; If I don't succeed, what will I say to others?

5: Procrastination; "One day I will set my goal" - such a thought indicates a lack of ambition

6:low quality confidence; A person does not develop self-confidence and self-esteem unless he is driven from the heart and inspired.

7: Inability to realize the importance of the goal; No one taught them to hold hands, nor did they learn to set goals

8 : Lack of knowledge about goal setting; Many people do not know how to set goals The need for such an indicator will help them to follow a specific procedure step by step The goal is being set, one by one, the sum of several methods What are the instructions given when buying an airplane ticket?

Departure place Destination place * Travel class Ticket price * Day of departure 7 Expiration date If you ask what is the main goal of life? Then many people will probably give vague answers - such as, "I want to be successful, I want to be happy and I want to have a prosperous life" and so on. These are just wishes, none of them are specific goals

The goal will have the following qualities: -

1: - specific; For example, my goal is to lose weight, but it's just a wish This will become the goal when I decide exactly how much I will lose 10 pounds in 10 days, otherwise I will stop eating.

2: - The goal will be measurable; If we can't measure, then we can't achieve that goal Measuring means judging progress on the path to the goal

3: - The goal must be achievable; This means that the goal will be to achieve it even if you have to face difficult situations to overcome it. If the goal is beyond capacity, it will be disappointing

4: - Realistic; A person who wants to admit a loss of 50 pounds in 30 days is called an unrealist

5: Deadline; Each goal will have a start date and an end date The goal will be 6

A: - Short term - 1 year will achieve the goal 6

B: - Medium term - will be fulfilled within 3 years

C: - Long term - will be fulfilled within 5 years It may take more than 5 years to achieve the goal But it becomes the purpose of life The purpose of life is very important because without it we cannot have foresight; I am busy just to achieve the goal If we break our goals into pieces, we can easily achieve them Life is difficult when it is long, but it becomes easier if we divide life into six small endeavors.

The goal should be balanced: -

Our life is like a wheel with 6 of them These cables maintain the balance of life

1: - family; We make a living and make a living for our families and the people we love

2: Financial; The livelihood provides the money we need to sustain our lives

3: - Physical; Everything else becomes meaningless except health

4: - Mental; Knowledge and wisdom provide the material to survive mentally

5: Social; Every person and organization has a social responsibility If that responsibility is not fulfilled, the society will be ruined

6 : spiritual; Our values ​​and character depend on the consciousness of our values

If none of these wires are in the right place, then the balance of life is lost Think about it for a few minutes, if 1 of these 8 is not there, then what will life be like? We need two kinds of education We need to learn how to make a living as well as how to make a living

Many are so preoccupied with their livelihood that they do not care about their families He also became indifferent towards his own health and social responsibilities When asked, they said that he was indifferent to other matters for the sustenance of his family But this indifference is harmful to life

When we go to work from home in pursuit of livelihood, the children fall asleep, and when we return home, they fall asleep. After 20 years like this, when we look back we can no longer find our family - it's a tragedy.

Not quantity, but quality

Many people say that it is very important to consider how much time you spend with your family and how you help your family in a short period of time. Suppose you go to one of the best restaurants in town

There, they set the table with chocolates from England, spoons, cups from France, and chocolate from Switzerland. You ordered a plate of barbecue chicken with a snack on the army plate.

Within minutes, the waiter brings you a sixth of a delicious chicken. After eating it, you asked, "That's all, nothing else?" The attendant replied, "Not quantity, but quality." You have to say, "You are not hungry yet," but the attendant gave you the same answer.

I hope the statement has been made clear, that is, the quality does not meet all the needs Just as quality is needed, so is quantity We both need our family

Health: - We waste health while earning money and later we waste money while rescuing health

Social responsibility: - We ignore social responsibility to earn money The situation became so dire that others began to ignore us socially

Examine your goal thoroughly: - He who has no goal never misses the goal ৷ Not keeping the goal high is a big mistake Those who want to succeed keep an eye on the goal - and those who lose, always look for the goal. Our goal should be set so high that we are motivated to achieve it, but not to kill it as unrealistic. What we do either gets closer to our goal, or we get distracted and go the other way

Each goal should be evaluated in terms of the following criteria:

1 : How much truth there is in this goal

2: Will it do justice to all concerned?

3: Will I gain confidence as a result?

4: Will this goal be able to give me health, wealth and peace of mind?

5: Is this goal consistent with my other goals?

6 : Can I dedicate myself to the goal?

The following examples failed this test:

A : If the goal is that no matter what my financial situation, I will be an example of good health. Then it will be seen very naturally that after a while it is becoming difficult to maintain health This means that my goal is not consistent with other goals

B : A person can earn a lot of money but if it destroys his family and health, then it has no value. Isn't that so?

C : A person can earn crores of rupees by selling drugs But then he will have to flee for the rest of his life to escape the law As a result, he will not have peace of mind and the people associated with him will not be able to trust him That is why every goal should be evaluated by this standard and all the goals of life should be consistent with each other.

D: If there is no effort to achieve the goal, all the goals become according to the zero dream Work has to turn dreams into specific goals If we miss the point, we will not fail at all Delay in achieving the goal does not mean failure It is only necessary to re-create a different plan to achieve the goal Just as you need to read the focus of the camera to take good pictures, you need goals to live a creative life.

Failed efforts do not mean performance:

There is a big difference between working and completing work successfully . A group of French scientists named Fabri examined Shuaepaeka and found that the person in front of him, Schuaepeka, followed him blindly. In a round vase, Fabri led the bunkers in such a way that the front bunkers actually came behind the team.

Some pine flowers were left in the middle as food The puppies circled around in the vase, finally dying of exhaustion and hunger after a week of siege, even though they had pine flowers in front of them.

There is a lesson to be learned from the use of these sleeping pills. Evaluation of work is necessary to know how far we have progressed towards the goal A man drove his wife out

After a while, the wife said, "We're probably going the wrong way." The husband replied, "It doesn't matter. We're enjoying ourselves so much." I will not be able to move towards the goal

Meaningless goal: - A farmer had a dog, he was waiting for a car on the side of the road As soon as the car arrived, he ran with the car screaming and tried to overtake the car One day a neighbor asked the farmer, "Do you think the dog can run with the car?" The farmer replied, "I don't care if I can, I wonder what will happen if the car overtakes the car one day. Many people run towards meaningless goals according to the dog

Work plan: -

1 : Set specific goals

2 : Get rid of those goals

3 : Read those goals twice a day, once in the morning and once at night

4 : Keep the goals slightly out of reach but not out of sight

5 : Check the progress of the work from time to time.

** There is a lot more information about life in the book.I hope everyone will read the book. And of course you will like it a lot .