Stop being Judgmental

I read a book titled REMEMBER by Karen Kingsbury and Gary Smalley. It was really a beautiful book. Aside the Baxter Family having an unconditional love for God, I love the unity in the family. They way they came together every thanksgiving and birthdays’. Their faith was so strong. The part that left me amazed is Ashley’s story. How was she able to find someone that loved her that much even with her past? At first she didn’t want to tell Landon about her past. She Thought he was going to leave her after hearing her story. I like the part where Landon told her that she didn’t need to tell him if she wasn’t ready. The guy was like a god-sent. He was there to take away her pain. The pain she has carried within her over the years. Aside Luke, who made it obvious that Ashley wasn’t accepted after everything that happened to her, Ashley herself didn’t love herself. She thought it was completely over, she thought God had forgotten her and nobody could ever love her after listening to her story, but God love her despite everything she’s been through, same as Landon, who has loved her since he was a teenager.

After reading the book yesterday, I started thinking if it were to be in this present world will a guy really love you sincerely after listening to your past? Guys of today wouldn’t want to date a single mom not to talk about someone who was drawn nakedly by someone she thought loved her. How about if it was you, would you still agree to date or marry someone who in one way or the other has a crazy past? I think we need to know that whatever happened in the past, happened in the past. Let it stay there. People are completely lost trying to find themselves, trying to make things right. You do not have to judge anyone for not being a bit perfect like you are. Some of us can’t even walk a day in someone else’s shoes, you will fall. There was a part Luke, Ashley’s brother who claimed to be the perfect son of the Baxter’s family. He made the same mistake his sister made. He was caught in the moment that he lost control of himself. And that completely changed him. That was when he knew he was no difference to Ashley. That person you are judging or criticizing for getting pregnant or making one mistake or the other, if you were to be in their shoes, you wouldn’t make it out. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations we can’t even explain, situations that there is no going back.

Accept people the way they are. Do not judge anyone. Don’t try being the perfect guy or girl because the table can turn anytime. It could be your turn tomorrow. The fact that criticism comes from the people will love the most is another thing. Stop making people feel so unloved. Some of us are born to accept the broken ones the way they are. It could be your call. And if you are the broken one, I need you to know that you can’t stay like that forever. Put your pieces together and get up on your feet. Mistake happens, you won’t be the first to make one. If you think people will judge you if they hear your past, why not put the past aside and work on your future. Don’t hate yourself over something you’ve done years back. If it eats you up, take it to God. He is the only savior that you need. The only one you can talk to, to fix your life, he’s the one that won’t judge you nor look at you with so much pity. Humans will be humans. Stand up and move past that. Not any of us know what await us in the future. Stay optimistic. Move away from sadness in your heart. Take it out. God loves you.
To my fellow readers, let’s try and not judge anyone with crazy past. If you know you don’t know what to do whenever you are in that situation, pray with them and remind them that you love them. It goes a long way. Do not look at them with disgust eyes. Love your Neighbor as you love yourself. Do have a lovely day!