Some scars never leave
In her childhood days, she had some secrets she never told anyone not even her strict mother. For a while it disappeared until one fateful day, it all came back and started ringing in her head. Watch who you keep your kids with, and know well enough that it isn’t compulsory to leave your kids with your neighbors. The people you trust most are those that leave you with a scar.
When I say “Scar” I don’t mean the usual meaning of a physical mark on one’s skin as a result of an injury. My definition of scar is an emotional pain, the one you can never forget. My definition of scar is not a physical one. We all carry different scars on us. The pain you’ve carried in you for so long, and you never want to make that same mistake again.
There is this girl who was about eight years old. Her brothers and sisters were close friends to the neighbor so she decided to be friends with them. She didn’t have a choice because she was always taken there by her siblings. Luckily, she became friends with one, who was about her age mate but not so close, about three to four years difference. They were young. They started playing with tin-tomatoes cans. Back then they will put sand inside the cans and say they were making yam flour(Amala) in Yoruba language. It was fun. They would even pack sands on one leg and make it like a mold. It continued that way. Some days they will play with skipping rope and count numbers. Some days suwe games. Until, this fateful day. This little girl’s friend was named Precious. Precious took her in and started kissing her, the little girl was lost. Precious told her it was a movie scene they were acting. It continued this way till the day the girl saw both Precious and her little brother acting the same movie she’d acted with her. There was no one the little girl could tell. She was young and never understood what was going on.
Some weeks later, Precious started touching the little girl and still said it was a movie. Precious herself was so young, and because she had seen her elder brother bring in so many girls doing the same thing to them that was what made her think it was normal. Precious father was in debt and decided to sell their house. That was how the little girl escaped from Precious. Aside Precious leaving, the whole scenes were still in her head. This little girl was taken to a boarding school and that was where she met new friends, new environment. The new environment wiped off Precious from her head. The girl then is now reminiscing about her past and suddenly remembered Precious and her acting. Precious will be around twenty-three or twenty-four now. Nobody knows where she is, not even the girl’s siblings knows where their friends are. Precious herself might have a vague memory of what happened then, or even have no memory of it. She hope Precious and her brother stopped the act back then.
My advise for parents, sisters or brothers is, always watch who you leave your children or siblings with. Most of us have memories of been maltreated, manipulated by friends or families. There are people out there with scars from childhood. Scars that they’ve never mentioned to anyone. Some male Children are being sexually harassed by their female teachers. Watch who you trust with your kids. Some people can’t control their selfish desires. Stop being the strict mother that her children can’t stand or talk to, you are only ruining their lives. Always have a good communication with your kids. Let them know they have you to trust with their secrets.
As siblings, do not watch wild movies with your little ones. Stop it! Stop watching movies of under 18 movies with your little siblings. They tend to practice whatever is been shown without minding the risk. Don’t make your little sister or brother find you in a compromising position with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Let the change begin with us.
