Hate

Hate begins from home. It bothers me when I hear little children use the word “Hate”. I have seen parents who told their children not to communicate with their Neighbor’s kids just because of a clash they’ve had in the past. And it continues that way, the kids stay away from each other because of their parents clash in the past. This should stop in the society. Whatever issues you have with friends or relatives, neighbors, it should never be passed onto the children.

I know a mother, who made sure she separated her son from his father. She tells the son how cruel the father had been since he was born, and made sure the son hated his father. Few years after, the mother jumped into the father at a restaurant, and she noticed he wasn’t an asshole as she assumed. She started seeing her son’s father secretly, but was too ashamed to tell the son, because of the hatred she had built inside of him. The boy later found out, and couldn’t imagine how his mother can be so inhumane. I believe whatever happened between our parents should stay by our parents. Children should not be involved. As a mother you don’t need to tell your sons or daughters never to communicate with their father. This hatred parents build in their children goes a long way in life.

Next to social media. I wonder why there is always this one person who would type something contradicting to whatever someone has said. Some people just hate you naturally. They wouldn’t even want to see a picture of you, they are quick to type a bad comment.
I was on a celebrity fashion designer post yesterday on Instagram. Her last post, someone talked about her incorrect English. On this particular post, I noticed no error, until I went over to the comment session, and there was this one person who saw an error there. I was shocked. I asked myself “How do people have time to look for errors in people’s post?”... Funny enough, the guy who pointed out the error to everyone also couldn’t type a correct English, funny Nigerians🤣. This needs to stop, actually. Can we just view people’s posts and pass? It’s just as simple as that. You don’t need to make jokes on people’s mistake. Most people don’t even take it as joke.

About celebrities having clash too. We get to see fans diverting from one celebrity to another. Fans are basically the ones that start the fire. This one would say, I belong to Davido, the other one will say Wizkid, and they start judging through their differences. The funniest thing is, these celebrities doesn’t even know you exist. Why waste your time on their case. If fight start on Twitter, you are there. On instagram, you are there. You start hating on somebody you don’t even know, or doesn’t even know you exist. And immediately these celebrities get back together, you are the first person to know. Really?

Let’s stop hating on people. It is of no advantage to us. It doesn’t remove anything from the people you are hating on. And about our parents dispute with friends, or colleagues, it is not our responsibility to take up the hate. Little Tee once said, I wouldn’t greet this guy because he doesn’t greet my parents. You don’t get to talk to everyone, but don’t hate anybody. I remember in Js2, a friend of mine called Precious told me she hated my friend and I. This same Precious became my best friend in Ss1. We were little, she didn’t know what hate meant. Sadly, I never did anything to her to make her hate me.
Never hate people because you think everyone hate them! That’s the commonest thing in the country today. Most people don’t even have a reason for hating you, they just hate you because you are who you are. Let’s not participate in hate. Yes, you don’t get to make everyone your friend, you don’t get to talk to everybody, but don’t join people in hating anyone. Let’s choose love over hate.
Be good! And do have a lovely day!