Everything’s gonna be okay

Farouk sent me a Dm on WhatsApp in the midnight. I could tell he wasn’t having it. He was frustrated about being the first child of three wives, his father married. Things were not so good for him as he is depending on the gadget he sold. Farouk, insisted he wasn’t going to do fraud to earn money. He’s so consistent on posting his business on WhatsApp.

I really wish Farouk get a breakthrough soon. I can’t imagine the pressure from his mom and his siblings. I wonder how he copes. Things are quite hard these days. Everyone is saying there’s no money. The bills we get is more than the money we earn. Debts on debts.

Farouk made me understand that he will be over that stage. He said it’s just a phase. I loved the way he said “It’s a phase”. It won’t always be like that. It’s just for a while. He then said, “I’ll get through it.” You don’t need any motivator other than yourself. That’s why I mentioned positive mindset in my last article. Overthinking will not sort the issues.

You need to speak positively to yourself when you don’t feel like yourself, when you feel nothing is working out anymore. Do not injure yourself with drugs or alcohol because you think nobody will understand you. The major problem most people have is poverty. The way to fight it is not by drinking or damaging your system.

You need to believe you’ll be alright at the end of the day. There’s nothing you are going through that someone else’s haven’t. It’s just stage. Yesterday, an idea came into my mind. I immediately cut it off by saying I can’t do it. Then, something in me said why can’t I? I’m already working towards it. You can do anything to change your story.

Everybody have something bothering them. Yours might not be the same as the other person but we will all be alright. Let’s stay positive. Don’t give up on yourself. You are going to look back one day and everything will turn to history.

You don’t need to turn yourself to a drunkard or smoker because you think it’s your story that touch most. At the end of the day none of these things matter. I have seen some fathers who were addicts throughout their adulthood and ended up giving up alcohol at old age. You don’t want to waste your time or the little money you have on weed or alcohol.

If you think you have the saddest story maybe you should call your friends and listen to theirs. Some people see you as their hero. There was a time I was going through life, and I decided to visit a friend. I’ve been home for weeks and that was an opportunity to step out. On getting to her house, she started saying her struggles and all I did was to listen. People who are dealing with real problems still go out with a smiling face, like they already accepted their fate. But young man like you, is already lighting weed, because you think it’s the solution.

You just have to be happy and be contented with what you have. If you think life in your house is the worst, remember there are people in lekki, who are also tired of living there. Stop hoping that your happiness is based on something. Enjoy the moment. You are not the only one going through life.

Depression is real. Don’t isolate yourself when you are sad. If you love music, use it to get yourself in mood. If you are the type that keep friends, have them over and have fun. If you are the type who love to have family around, go over and visit them. Do whatever makes you happy and won’t harm you. And if you are the type who finds comfort with his/her partner, go over to them. You don’t need to tell these people how you feel, but the joy of having them around is beautiful. Life is short to be anything other than happy.