Dating at younger age

Clearly, everyone knows what dating is, but one thing I know is, dating at younger age is a total waste of time. If you ask me, as a young girl of 18-23 years, I will tell you that you don’t know what you want. It’s just full of heartbreaks and mistakes. Being younger, you find yourself in relationships, or flings you have no business in. Once you come of age, you know what you want as a lady, you get more courageous and you are not going to surround yourself with some little guys, who have no plans for themselves. You start telling yourself, this is what I like, this is what I do not want. You also become more self-aware. Let me tell you a little story about Tade.

Tade is a young, beautiful, and upfront lady. She started dating when she was 20-year-old. She got an ex, but it wasn’t really a serious thing. Then she met this guy who happened to be the one she spent her last 8 months with. Tade felt it was really worth with. She had likewise goals with this person, and even believed it could be her last bus-stop, because she liked the guy. He started really sweet, he swept her off her feet, he knew what she wanted at the right time, they had no issues at the beginning, until few weeks before his birthday...

He was on a video call with someone on WhatsApp, clearly it wasn’t just a friend because it was a lady who called him. After the call, Tade decided to glance through his chats only to see her boyfriend replying a lady with “Love you too”. At first, she was shocked. She stood up and was ready to leave when the guy went to the entrance, and stood at the doorstep. She asked him to let her leave, but he refused, and later went on his knees, to apologize. He said she was his ex, and he didn’t want her to feel bad, that’s why he returned it. He promised to stop talking to her. She believed him, and they moved pass it.
It was really a fun-filled relationship. Things were going smoothly, there was no problem or trust issues until Tade went home for holiday.

Tade missed her boyfriend so much, and decided to resume early to school, lol! You know the stupid things we do for love as students🤣. Immediately she got to school, she dropped her luggage at her apartment and the decided to move to the guy’s own. On getting there, she was so happy to see him. She ate, and talked about how her holiday went, she asked him if he did anything stupid while she was away, but he said NO. Tade decided to take a picture of herself on his phone. She deleted some that she didn’t like, and went to his recently deleted pictures, only for her to see videos of his ex in his room. It was really a bad day for Tade, she didn’t know what to do, than to leave. As usual, he stood at the doorway, but she pushed him and left. One thing that rang in Tade’s mind at that moment was “What’s the point of loving, when you end up losing at the end”. She left to her friend’s hostel that evening. At the end of the day, she decided to forgive him because she loved him.

He was surprised to see Tade at his door. He ushered her in. He kept apologizing. He was sorry, it was clearly written all over him. Tade forgave him based on conditions. They continued the relationship from there. Just like before, it was all rosy again. Things were okay between the both of them. It had effects on both of them though, but that were moving forward, financially and educationally. Tade felt like he meant the whole world to her, but I don’t know if the guy felt that way, too. Recently, Tade went over to his place because she was ill, and she needed support, but that only added to her sickness. Tade made very mistake of her life as she decided to check through his phone. Her instincts told her somethings were wrong, few days before she went to his place. She unlocked his phone, went straight down to his WhatsApp, only to discover her boyfriend has been sabotaging her to get into other girls panties...I wonder how Tade feels presently. She thought she and the guy could grow together, she saw something really special about him, that’s why she sticked with him. Only for the guy to tell other girls he was in no serious relationship. Has Tade been dating herself all these while?...

Let me know your views about dating at early stage, is it worth it? Or it’s just filled with mistakes?