Can we change this mentality?

I saw a post now on a guy’s status. The girl stated why she broke up with the guy and part of her reasons were because she couldn’t afford a body cream ever since she started dating the guy, couldn’t make her hair, she said she couldn’t get gifts for her friends, she couldn’t go out due to no funds. She said being single is better than dating the guy. She also stated that she couldn’t be in a relationship with a guy who could not provide for her needs, and that she deserves better in a relationship. I felt sad after reading all these, because I don’t know who gave these girls this mentality that in every relationships your needs must be met. There’s nothing as beautiful as having your money to take care of yourself because it gives you self-respect and also prepare you for the future. Like my Dad always say “You have to work your way towards being independent in life, think on how you’re going to bring out the potentials in you so that you can fulfill the purpose to which God created you”. Girls are so desperate for a sweet life without working for it. You just want to sit and be taken care of, how? I personally hate being told what to do. I can’t imagine a guy giving orders to a girl just because he feeds her and buy her everything that she want. Girls are out there without dreams and all they want is a bone straight and a latest iPhone, money to get skin care product so you can look like Kim kardashian, really? Is that the breakthrough you want? A guy to foot your bills, while you sleep and forget you have a future. Does these girls think at all? The celebrities you are seeing didn’t wake up one day being successful, they waited for their time. You can’t be as lucky as your friends who have guys that buy them quality hairs, some girls were born to be independent and they just keep trusting the process. You will be bigger than those being dependent on some guys. Everything is for a while. The luxuries will keep coming, will you keep changing boyfriends to get it? Later, we will hear justice for Tade, if Tade had stayed where her parents kept her would she be used? Ladies you can make it as well as these guys. You can have as much money as that guy. Stop having a low self-esteem. It’s enjoyable to be like ones mates but you can’t push it if it’s not your time yet.

Girls generally need to be contented with the little they have. No matter how small it is, you just have to be contented. Being discontent will only make you lose focus. The bags, quality hairs and all you are seeing on your mates will forever be available, in fact way better ones that you’ll be able to afford in the future. Don’t allow what’s reigning now to make you lose yourself. It’s not worth it. Nobody owes you anything. Just because you are dating a guy doesn’t mean he owes you anything. Stop that mentality that after all you guys are getting laid, is it not consensual? What if he asks you to get him stuffs he gets you, can you afford it? Obviously, we have friends that are lucky to see guys that get them stuffs and I know how it feels seeing a friend of mine getting gifts but that makes us different. Because without the guy she’s back to day one without nothing doing, but you are going there, almost at that stage you can afford all the luxuries you have for yourself. Don’t lose yourself for things that if you don’t get now, you will still later get. Not all girls will be lucky to see guys that treat them well. How many mothers still get gifts from their husbands? It’s a good thing to be independent but it’s not easy to be at the first stage. If you teach yourself to be independent, no guy will disrespect you. The level you keep yourself as a lady is how you see a guy who would cherish you like how you should be cherished. Don’t put yourself in a beggarly level, babe. You are worth more than that. Human being will disappoint you, but the work of your hand will never disappoint you. Henceforth, make God your only source not humans.