Believe in yourself

There was a time in my life I was so dependent on people. I know there is a time in every woman’s life when you feel what can I do without him? You can do a lot without that boyfriend or whoever you are depending on if you believe in yourself. You need to start believing that there is nothing above your reach. See yourself as a conqueror. Stop underestimating yourself! There is nothing above your reach if you are willing to take the risk. Women can be billionaires as well. Have you dreamt it, or you think it’s only men that can be billionaires in your family?

Ladies tend to have low self-esteem when they are in a relationship. There are times you feel unloved, times you think nothing is right anymore, times you think you are not good enough for anyone, what if you put that energy into yourself and try to become a better person. That time you have complaining about yourself use it to love yourself. That time you are busy looking for fault in yourself, searching for something to blame about yourself, why not put that energy into something creative that will yield good result. Stop waiting for a guy to love you like the way are supposed to love yourself. Stop looking for something to blame about yourself. God created you so well. Love yourself more. A friend of mine told me lately that she wasn’t feeling herself anymore, she said no matter how she explains herself to people around her they don’t seem to understand. I told her I have passed through that phase. Sometimes you find yourself in situations you can’t even explain, but it’s normal. You will be over that stage soon. I wish there’s a journal written by someone who has passed through every stage in life so it can guide those of us coming. I feel if we all have someone to talk to, someone we can explain how life is treating us to, someone that won’t judge us but will give us her listening ears alone, I believe the percentage of those going astray will reduce because people are losing it everyday.

The percentage of people with a dream have reduced, drastically. People have stopped believing in themselves. No matter how much you try to speak to or advise a friend who smokes it’s like it falling on deaf ears. They tend to have something to say to pull you off. And at the end of the day, if you look closely into the conversation you had with them you will know they also have a point. As for those of us who still have a dream, do not give up on yourself. I know its tough, sometimes it is always long but just keep pushing. Nobody is interested in what you are going through now and the only time people will be interested in your story is when there’s already a success story to back it with. Times you don’t feel like yourself, just keep trusting God. I know how tough it is for some of us that have older siblings who are hustling and there is still no breakthrough. I know there are times you feel are these not the people you were looking up to when you were a kid, but I want you to know they don’t determine your future. Everybody is with a different head. Do not say because your siblings are not there yet , you may not be too. No, you will be there, exactly at that position you want for yourself in life, the moment you discover yourself. Just like Oprah Winfrey once said, The greatest discovery of all time is that a person change his future by merely his attitude. Allow yourself listen to your instincts. Trust the process and don’t you quit. No matter how sad your story is right now, somebody has been there before you, someone have passed through the same thing, keep the positive energy going. Keep believing in yourself. Keep dreaming it.