During my research on the secrets of sex appeal and the reason why so many "very smart" men fail to attract women, arouse their interest, or even establish a successful, balanced relationship with them that lasts for a long time, I found something extremely important and nothing to be left behind.
But let me first show you something very important. Perhaps, like me, you may one day feel that you are a "smart" person with multiple capabilities and talents and that you are better able than others to solve problems and overcome obstacles with your talents and constituents. Rather, you may be like me, I thought that you are a more intelligent person than the other "ordinary" men, and that you are superior to them in your mental capabilities, and that you deserve not to pay attention to those without your intelligence. Why not, you are more efficient and intelligent, you are different. Is not it?
Well .. you are not alone in this regard, as all of us as "smart" we went through the same experience and the same feeling, and when it comes to the fields of women, love, and spinning, we used to see a woman who does not pay attention to us and does not give us attention because she is a bad woman who does not choose well, so how can she be presented about A "smart" man like you and me to choose "bad" men who are definitely less intelligent and skilled than us?
How can she not be attracted to "extraordinary" men like us and you to chase down the men we used to see and think are "unimportant", not at our level of intelligence?
Well my friend, here's the cruel truth .. !!
Our intelligence is our number one enemy with regard to women, dating, and emotional and sexual relationships as well. !!
And if I give up a little about your ego and pride as a "smart" man, I can fully explain to you what I mean.
Most "smart" men use the left half of their brains, the half that has to be resolved
“Scientific” or “material” mental problems and issues and all “practical” challenges relate to theories and computational issues. Whereas the right side of the brain is the creative intuitive side, the side of freedom, contemplation, and imagination, which is responsible for literary artistic creativity with regard to one's interactions with the outside world and with things around him.
In other words, "smart people" like engineers, doctors, and automakers use the left part of their brains, and they are among the least successful in their emotional relationships and the least able to attract women and arouse their interest in the specialization of this aspect of the brain in mechanical engineering material matters, which are not appropriate to the emotional nature of women. Rarely, for example, is that you see a doctor, pilot, chemist, or engineer surrounded by a group of women who want to talk to him, date him, take a photograph of him, or ask him to sign an autograph for them unless the reason for that is the person’s popularity or financial capabilities. !!
On the contrary, artists, writers, musicians, and fashion designers use the right side of their brains, which is concerned with creativity, meditation, feelings, and spirituality in general. It is no secret to you how attractive women are to this group of people.
The use of the left side of the brain is not a shame, rather it is highly required, it does in that it is like all the different ingredients and human skills, balance is required in everything, but with regard to success in women's and emotional relationships the matter here becomes completely different, your use of the left side - Makes sense - from your brain dealing with women, it is more like using a hammer to cut a tomato or using measures and weights to express love and longings. !!
It's your use of the wrong tool to deal with the wrong issue. !!
Feelings do not respond to rational logic, so the opposite is true, and how many illogical and irrational things we have seen happen as a result of responding to the raging emotions, and go back to history to see for yourself how great sermons and leaders inflamed the feelings of millions and use them to pronounce irrational actions and justify their masters of what they cannot Justification, the mind is subject to feelings.
I think you have begun to realize what I want to refer to, and if you are not fully aware of what I mean, there is nothing wrong with it, it takes some time for it to be understood and assimilated.
Yes .. women respond to the effects of the right side of the brain, and those who are successful in understanding the nature of women who have the ability to stimulate them and attract their attention, are those who understand the language of women well, the language of the right side of the brain. !!
Each part of the brain’s hemispheres has its own function, laws, and language its tools, and once you realize this fact you may be a first step in the right direction towards achieving your goals in attracting the type of women you want and managing the relationship in the direction you want and want.
Here is this story, and then we will conclude by answering the question of this article, which is, why smart people fail to attract women:
One of Wall Street's rich, Frederick Vick, has decided to choose aides for him who work for him to manage his money and has committed $ 1 million to test the abilities of four highly-chosen programmers and technicians who were chosen, at $ 250,000 per person. Frederick must succeed in investing the amount to continue working for him and move to the next level of testing, otherwise .. he is permanently separated from work.
What happened? The four candidates conducted their research and studies, prepared their plans and strategies, and started work immediately.
Weeks after the start of these indicators, the level of financial returns decreased compared to the expected results and the effort.
What was the response of smart candidates to the low level of indicators?
Well done... They all said, in one letter: "But we are right ... We have conducted all the studies, research, and tests necessary to achieve the highest level of profits and success."
The indicators are falling, the returns are decreasing, and they see them as right. !! why not? Are they not smarter than others?
Well, the opportunity is still great for the candidates ... and the test is not over, because they have not lost everything
They have ... there is no room here to back down or surrender, as the options are limited for them, either to profit or to end their services immediately.
They have to continue the path, more research, and study, in addition to a falling return index.
But we are right .. !! This was the response of the candidates to the low level of sales.
The strange thing is that these "smart" people were getting more convinced that they were "right" every time the results showed the opposite ... and they were getting more and more convinced that they were really "right". !!
The world of sales and marketing does not care if you are "right" as much as you care about being "right".
What surprised Mr. Frederick, as he said by himself: Even after they lost everything they had, some continued saying: “But I am right.” !!
Now let me personally ask you ... which do you prefer? To be "right" and get "nothing", or would you prefer to admit by showing that you are wrong and open your mind to acquire new knowledge and skills that were not guided by you before, in exchange for the results you want?
I leave you alone to answer this question .. I return to answer the question of this article .. Why do smart people fail to attract women?
Here are the reasons...
1. Smart people are wrong in their estimates and understanding of the nature of women, but they cannot see or do not want to see that they are wrong and if they see they do not want to admit that.
Smart people always see that they are right, and if they are shown evidence by other than that, they do not refer the reason for this to a mistake in their assessments and their understanding of things, but rather that there is something wrong with others. !!
When they lose a sum of money - as in the previous example - they do not admit their mistake and do not see them as wrong, but insist that they are right but something has changed in the tastes and perceptions of others, or that "unethical" competitors and their devious ways are the cause and not their intelligence.
2. Intelligent people lack literary skills (social intelligence), and they may consider such skills as a waste of time or that they are the skills of dreamers "unrealistic" and general and not the elites like them.
3. The intelligent seek for practical solutions of a scientific nature (i.e. 1 + 1 must always equal 2) and do not pay attention to other aspects of social life, what they are always looking for to solve any problem they face is information .. more information is the solution. With regard to the emotional side of human relations, especially with regard to women, they want to know everything before they take their first steps. Thus, they do not lift a finger.
4. The intelligent do not accept the idea of learning from those who are less intelligent, and they do not like to acknowledge the superiority of the “ordinary” people in them in an aspect of life. They close the doors to any idea that may come from an “ordinary” person who is less intelligent than them and thus miss an opportunity for themselves. Benefit from the experiences of others.
5. They deal with life with rational "logic", not with emotional affection, and here is the truth ... women are not attracted to those who make them "think" .. they are attracted to those who make them "feel". (We will talk in detail about this fact in other articles).
6. Intelligent people deal with the challenges of the outside world by the logical side of the left part of the brain, they are not used to confront emotional feelings, and when an intelligent man deals with a beautiful babe, he does not know how to deal with feelings of desire and attraction within him towards her, which makes him confused, fearful, confused and anxious Which also does not know how to deal with it (have you ever felt that you fear a conversation with an attractive woman and instead of trying to know and address the causes of your fear you are making excuses for yourself about the reason for your failure of such as, I do not want to talk to her now she is "may" be married, engaged, has a friend or Brother "may" be close to her or somewhere here, or she does not want those who disturb her at least for the time being at least .. etc., it should be noted that the smart are the most skilled people in making excuses that would prevent them from being tested They reveal their weaknesses and lack of social skills.
7. Smart people believe that the best way to attract women is "rational reasoning", and that they are able to arouse the admiration of women by being "nice" people, and instead of trying to "attract women’s interest in influencing them" by understanding the nature of their feelings and their female behavior, you see them striving to try " Persuading her "and engaging her with logical means such as buying gifts, communication cards, and an expensive dinner in a luxury restaurant, asking her whether she is comfortable with him and enjoys his company, and to any questions that reveal personal weakness and lack of self-confidence.
8. Smart people are confused between the personal qualities that they feel comfortable with and that work for them and the personal characteristics of their competitors .. Where some smart people see that they have good qualities and that they are more qualified than others to excel and succeed, but they collide with a different reality, which is that the least of them are more intelligent than they are able to attract women And this is what makes them confused about continuing their approach or imitating their competitors without understanding the truth of what these competitors are doing, and here they find themselves in a critical situation they do not know how to get rid of them they understand - as we have said - they want to understand everything before they do anything.
This is some of what I found and wanted to participate in, with my appreciation and thanks for your interest in developing yourself and developing your abilities and skills. Please Don't forget to support me to share more about Relationships.
Greetings to you, Sobex
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