Aged-old society mindset to break

Have you ever imagined how long have this mindset been started?

At this time most individuals are still adapting and surviving the world of online possibilities.

There is this one person that can be not as strong as your mental health.

Maybe he/she is still trying to figure out what's his/her goal in life. Maybe he has so much to carry on his own? maybe he/ she is feeling stucked? maybe they are prone to bottling things up? maybe they were shut down and never heard? Maybe they have had brutal experiences before? maybe they don't have friends? maybe they are constantly being bullied?

In a world full of critics, one might refuse to live.

It's not important now where this mindset came from but the world is changing, so should we improve for the betterment too.

Here are some of society's mindsets that are somehow, might be very harmful to someone:

Once you cry, you are weak!

It's cool to show off your fangs and a strong personality but at some point in life, it's okay also to feel every negative emotion and your feelings are valid. We are human beings, not a robot. Some people might dictate what to feel or how should we react but we have different personalities, different circumstances, where we came from, and different stories to tell.

Crying just shows off how brave you are to see the situation clearer. To embrace the pain, to see where chaos came from, and to plan for your next move.

Women are designed from birth to be the housekeeper, just inside the house.

Women-girls-ladies-mothers-girl at heart etc. These are strong, independent, and capable human beings. Value them while you can and never abuse their love and sacrifices. Even if their hearts are devotedly loving and caring, they can be as cold as ice too sometimes.

If you plan to marry her because you want someone to keep everything organized, someone to cook your daily meal, wash your clothes, give you everything you want then that somehow calls for a big reassessment dude. Unless your wife agreed with it then it's fine, but if you insist on doing what you only want and expected of her without respecting her decisions then just go live her alone.

Respect every woman in the world. They are born special and wonderful. Help them invest in the things they want to do, not just cage them inside the house to fulfill duties. Make them happy and feel loved.

You should have your own house or own car or own family by the '20s.

Argh! The endless rootless comparison and unsolicited voices.🤮 next, please!

Haha you know what I mean, it's common and they're not helping out but judging you around.

Just never mind these people and do things at your own pace. Set realistic achievable goals for a more productive outcome and happier you. They are not your responsibility and they don't give any positive input in your life so just let them bark while you shine.

Once a headstrong, always a headstrong

Without giving second chances and concluding that they will never change is a big no-no. If one can't be done through peaceful, decent talks, or if you are so pissed off to that person. Be it your child, a brother, a co-worker, a toxic relative.

I'm writing this as a reminder to myself also.

If there are deep cuts already, and that maybe you never talk about the problem.

For your peace of mind, just pray for them and your healing. Forgive them. You cannot change a person especially if he/she plays the victim or was too blind to see her mistakes and flaws. You should learn how to deal with them without compromising your health before it's too late for you.

After graduation, a child is responsible to get the whole family or parents out of poverty.

I've seen this a lot. In fact, most of the children I know have experienced this. They also know the feeling that they have no choice but to give and give and give until they have their own family, some are still the breadwinner and there to provide. Even if some are still studying, some parents would say "study harder for you to graduate on time, have a job and let's rise from this muddy life."

They think of their child/children as a ladder to success or an investment.

Children are in awe of every parent's love and sacrifice. Paying back to what they've done is normal especially here in the Philippines, most families have a closer and intact bond. Children also can't take it when their parents are still experiencing hardships with their age.

Somehow this should be discussed within the family, how much you can give, how your work is, sometimes your cashflow(for them to understand), and if the baggage is too heavy, ask someone to help out(if there's any), and how long(this is the hardest, I don't know if parents would understand that you have your own life too, own bills and payments, etc etc.)

I just wish things go well through better communication in the family.

It's okay to abuse a girl. (physically, emotionally, mentally like a society of sexism)

I have mentioned this before in my previous article. Check it here.

By any means, I don't want to see this again but I've experienced this even inside the house, in my previous workplace. Girls are being laughed at about how they categorize women are weak.

I had an incident where I am expected to just agree and laugh with them because of their bad jokes about women but I never did. They tried to bully me, I excelled in work even more and that left them speechless. Sometimes I do things to show them that we can be as equal as men, sometimes even powerful when suppressed.

To every woman out there. Cheer up! You are strong and beautiful.💕

Happy women's month!.🥂