Just Familiar or Totally Similar? There's Difference.

If you are a horse, I am unicorn. If you are a sun, I am moon. If you are struggling, I am at the battle. If you're lost, I'm in the dark. There are moments in life, where we always compare ourselves to other. Sometimes we compare yourself to an old you, also to the future you. It's funny that at this hour, you remember someone or thinking a typical moms who always say "Why you can't be better like (name of person)?", and it truly hurts knowing that you're doing your best but no one can appreciate 'cause they want you to be like somebody else.

The comparison in life is contagious where it leads to questioning your own value and terms. There are also times that when you open up to your friends the problems you have and you seems you can't fight anymore, they're like "Ako nga eh, ganito ganiyan, di naman ako nagpaka apekto" (sorry I can't translate it right in english language, but it's about your friend telling you that he/she has problems too but he don't mind to give up, something like that). They simply comparing your battle to their situation when we all know that you has a lot difference to another.

So the question about your life comparing to others is, ARE THEY EXACTLY THE SAME OR JUST LOOK FAMILIAR? Totally similar is different from just familiar. Let's make it easier to understand. Example of totally similar; questions on test papers from school, the uniform you're wearing to your workplace, the movie that you and your friend watching in the cinema, they are all exactly the same. On the other hand, the example of just familiar are; answers to exam questionnaire from school - because there are ideas that seems like the answer but not, your job compares to other - in the same field but not in the job description/position, story of the movie that you and your friend watched in the cinema - some ideas are alike but not in perception and understanding. Meaning, your page is not other's page. It's not always about "Oh! I've been there in that situation, I've just done this and that until I neglect it for good. Do it because it's effective", but somehow it's also about "I know how it feels, so I'm here. Cry if you want, shout or what just don't hold back, release it until you're feeling better, I am just right here willing to listen.". It's more than motivating the person who's having a hard time, because it's making them feel that their feelings are valid.

There are things that we still don't know and it's up to us if we want to learn it or not. As what the picture shown, they are both fruit. They are the same because they are both apples. But in different of colors which we're familiar of. Somehow, we always relate our own perception to someone's point of view because we thought that yours and his are exactly the same, but not really.

So far, at this age, that's what I've learned in life. We always try to make a bad comparison to the things we have rather than appreciating our own differences. Even in twins, maybe the same in faces, but sometimes a lot differences in likes and dislikes, differences in attitude or personality, differences in mindset, skills, coping up breakdowns and differences in perception about life. Moreover, we can be similar at some things that is nature to human, visuals we seen, lyrics of a song, basic needs, etc. but we are all difference in the way we live. We are similar of having a shelter, but not all called "home". We can be similar in fashion style, but different on reason why. We are similar in color skin, but not all are in the same tribe.

Also, we are born with differences but it should not be the reason of belittling others. I don't know why some people are having hard time to try to stop comparing or judging each other when it's favourable for them. They know that there are situations where it's only for them but they keep on giving it to others to experience. I believed that we have the same finish line, but different in pathways and timeline. When it serve for you, it's not what it serves for anybody else. If you are a horse, I am unicorn - we're in different physical structure but both beautiful and have purpose. If you're lost, I'm in the dark - we're in different side of world, but both crying and breaking. If you're struggling, I'm at the battle - we're in different problems but both fighting for our own good. If you are a sun, I'm a moon - we're in different time to show but both are shining. Try to understand first what differences are, so you can appreciate similarities, because both have purpose, have lessons and both training for us people to be better in living the life. Similarities and Differences are important for us to accept more our own existence in this world and stop questioning our worth.

Therefore, we should now stop practicing about comparing others to another one or belittle them because you're different. But rather uplift them when they are not their time and help them move forward when they are stocked. Because someday, what you achieve will also achieve by them, the things you have now will be the things that other's have. Don't put your situation to them even if it's look like familiar or the same as yours because even at some alikes, there's difference.

Always remember this: be kind to each person whether you know personally or not, because we maybe at the same ocean but not at the same boat.

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Thank you for reading! I wrote everything what's on my mind, so I hope you learned something from it. And by the way, this is my piece for the 3rd prompt challenge by @JonicaBradley about similarities.

I encourage all to participate in this challenge so that more ideas and thoughts will be learned.

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1. About Similarities

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3. atleast 600 words

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