Every Pain Is Unique

We often say " I can feel your pain" Does we really do? Only a person who goes through painful situation only knows how does it feel like. We are just a listener and audience. Some start judging according to their point of view. No one can feel other’s pain just can pretend to be sympathetic and shows their sympathy.

Yesterday when I was scrolling my social media timeline I found a video on it. An Islamic schooler lecture on this topic that our pain is unique, person to person it hurts in a different way. For example, some react on your rude words lightly and some burst out with anger, some get heart attack. So we can't judge other's pain even we go through the same situation. Some can take things easily and stay cool in unbearable situations.

Many unwise people comment on other's situation like when I became a mother I didn’t get panic like other woman react on their kids. This kind of comment often hurting other mothers who mostly react on their children's torture. Some women says, why you can't digest this food when my little child can digest it? And start comparing with others but its easy to compare but difficult to suffer. These people will never understand that every pain is unique and only who suffer can feel the pain and only Almighty Allah can heal the pain.

Many teachers compare their students with toppers. They says if a topper can score highest number then why you can't? Does a topper has extra head or hand that they score highest number? If a topper can do, you also can do it. This way a teacher pressurize students and they can't perform their creativity and can't repair their lacking on study as a result they score worse number in the exam. So comparing kids with other kids can be painful and that never can bring good result. Comparing sometimes make kids feel down or make them jealous at their early age.

The video of Islamic scholar was about letting us know that our pain only can be felt by Almighty Allah and only he can repair it, other people only can judge us when we react on our pain. Some cry out when go through the pain and some can't cry and feel broken inside. Some get shocked and died when hear bad news or something really painful. Our heart is unique, our situations are unique and our pain is unique. Each and every person can't react same when get hurt, it depends!

Some show off pain because they want to reduce it and they prefer this way to reduce their pain. Some hide their pain and never make it public because they believe showing off pain can't reduce it so they prefer praying to Almighty Allah and expose pain to him to heal themselves and it really works effectively. When we share our pain in public, our haters become happy, seeing us broken or hurt and our lovers shows sympathy but is these necessary? If something is necessary that is our peace and we need to heal our pain effectively. So let's stop judging others pain and if can't heal others just can shut our mouth that always ready to hurt others.