Anger

Anger seems to be a nice word. It is a sign that we are alive and well; hate is a sign that we are sick and need to be healed Anger is a natural emotion in all of us. But mere it sends chills down the backbones of many individuals, families, and churches. It has been looked upon as a terrifying emotional monster......a violent and uncontrollable Frankenstein. Many of us are guilty of excessive out burst of anger for which we have either suffered or by which we have brought suffering, sometimes fatal suffering on others. Many of us can bear witness to the fact that people have died as victims of another man's anger.

An SSS II student was charged of murder because he knocked the head of a JSS II student against a wall. The incident followed a quarrel between them over a bottle of Coca Cola. The JSS II student eventually died at the General Hospital shortly after reaching the Hospital. This was a "tragedy of uncontrolled anger".

It has been said that anger is a natural emotion in man. Most interpretations and explanations of anger given by social scientists have one common feature-anger occurs when you, or those important to you, are threatened.

Various Phases of Anger

Phase 1

There is mild irritation-a feeling of minor discomfort brought on by someone or something.

Phase 2

Indignation-frustration over something unfair or unreasonable.

Phase 3

Wrath-a strong desire to avenge or punish, which never goes unexpressed.

Phase 4

Fury- a state that suggest violence and temporary loss of control

Phase 5

Rage- the most dangerous form, where acts of violence are committed by people scarcely aware of what they are doing. Like a school boy who stabbed his mate to death during a disagreement that occurred over a bottle of Coke.

Mild irritation leads to indignation, indignation transitions into wrath. Wrath then leads to fury, while fury metamorphosed into rage.

Perhaps the monster we have learned to fear and despise is lurked in these last three phases. And possibly, these phases are why so many people try to keep this emotion locked in the cellars of their hearts, behind doors of denial.

God's View about Anger

Too often, to be considered "good Christians," we've had to bottle up our anger and drop it to the bottom of our being. Over time, however, this repressed anger ulcerates into bitterness, revenge, and other harmful feelings that leak out and poison the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual streams which flow from our hearts.

1. Anger is a God given emotion. We should be grateful to God for giving us his ability to feel emotions. But why do many of us keep trying to give back the gift of anger?

2. Anger is not necessarily sinful. "Be angry, and do not sin." It is as though someone were to say to you, "Now when you go out. tonight, enjoy yourself. Have a good time-but not at the expense of others." In the same way, we are being told, "Be angry, but do not carry that anger to the point of its becoming sin."

3. Anger has safeguards. All hot water heaters have an important safeguard built into them called a pop-off valve. When excessive heat and steam build up too much pressure inside, the pop-off valve automatically blows and releases it. But what about you and me? What do we do when anger is boiling inside of us?

Why do we get Angry?

Anger may be triggered when anything or anybody hinders our forward progress, challenges our intelligence or takes us for granted. We become angry when we are treated with disrespect. Anger is also triggered when ones selfhood is threatened.

When anger occurs, two things are present: a good person and a threat. When you feel angry, you feel threatened or endangered by something. Any threat to your selfhood (or those people, ideas and things which are important to you) triggers an internal alarm system indicating that you're under attack.

Possible Causes of Anger

Check the following list to see some anger possible causes of anger:

• Srong disagreement in views, ideas, and opinions.

• Anguish on inferiority feelings. Hurts from false accusations and put downs. .

• Distress when taken for granted. V. Disappointment with other oversights of your needs. Anxiety stemming from loneliness.

• Guilt from disagreement with others or disappointing others.

• Discouragement with personal failures and lack of initiative.

• Jealousy and envy of those who receive or achieve abundantly. Pain from neglect.

• Trauma of physical or mental abuse e.t.c.

Final thought

Anger, like love, is a feeling all mankind struggles to understand, but the mark of maturity is proven by the way feeling is controlled. Also, we know that since anxiety is an inescapable part of being human, anger also has angry to be present. Christians who are willing to face anger have the possibility of expanding their spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity includes choosing what we will allow to ably upset us, then controlling how we express our feelings to guarantee the greatest benefit to all concerned. The closer we walk with God, the more emotional control se should have-enabling us to gently express our feelings of anger before allowing resentment to take root. Decide at the beginning of the day that you will allow any feelings of anger to catch your attention and teach you something more about yourself. Controlling angers constructively and with optimism leads to peacemaking: "But the wisdom tham comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

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