Preserving Romantic Relationship

Preserving a relationship is hard especially if you both have different schedules and attitude. But, break up or a divorce is not an option. You can save your relationship or preserve your romantic relationship by applying this tips in your life.

Spend quality time face to face

You fall in love, looking at each other and listening. You will maintain the falling in love feeling for the long term if you continue to look and listen in the same attentive ways. You probably have fond memories of the first time you dated your loved one. It all seemed fresh and exciting, and you probably spent hours just talking together or trying out new, exciting stuff. As time goes on, though, the pressures of work, family, other responsibilities, and the need for time that we all have for ourselves will make it more difficult to find time together.

Many couples notice that rushed texts, emails, and instant messaging are eventually replaced by the face-to-face communication of their early dating days. Although digital communication is perfect for certain reasons, in the same way as face-to-face communication, it does not have a beneficial effect on your brain and nervous system. It's nice to give your partner a text or a voice message saying "I love you," but if you barely look at them or have the time to sit down together, they will always feel like you don't understand or respect them. And as a couple, you'll become more distant or disconnected. The emotional signals you both need to feel loved can only be expressed in person, so it is important to carve out time to spend together no matter how busy life gets.

Commit on a regular basis to spending some quality time together. Take a few minutes each day to put your mobile devices down, stop worrying about other things, and just concentrate and communicate with your partner, no matter how busy you are.

Find something that you enjoy doing together. Whether it is a joint sport, dance class, regular stroll, or relaxing over a cup of coffee in the morning.

Try something different together. Together, doing new things can be a fun way of interacting and keeping things interesting. It can be as simple as visiting a new restaurant or going to a place you've never been before on a day trip.

Emphasis on getting together to have fun. Couples, in the early stages of a relationship, are often more enjoyable and playful. However, when life problems start getting in the way or old resentments start piling up, this playful mindset may often be overlooked. In reality, having a sense of humor will help you get through difficult times, minimize tension and work more easily through problems. Think of playful ways to surprise your partner, like taking home roses or booking a table at their favorite restaurant unexpectedly. You can also help to reconnect with your fun side by playing with pets or small children.

Stay connected through communication

A essential aspect of a successful partnership is good communication. You feel comfortable and happy when you experience a healthy emotional bond with your partner. They stop connecting well when people stop interacting well, and periods of transition or stress can truly bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but you can usually work through any issues you face as long as you're talking.

State what you need to your partner, don't make them guess.

Talking about what you need isn't always easy. For one thing, many of us don't spend much time in a relationship thinking about what is really important to us. And even though you do know what you need, it can make you feel vulnerable, humiliated or even ashamed to speak about it. Yet look at it from the perspective of your partner. Providing someone you love with warmth and understanding is a joy, not a burden.

You may presume that your partner has a pretty good idea of what you are thinking and what you need if you have known each other for a while. Your companion is not a mind-reader, however. While your partner may have an idea, in order to prevent any misunderstanding, it is much easier to communicate your needs directly.

There might be something your partner can feel, but it may not be what you need. What's more, people are evolving, and, for instance, what you needed and wanted five years ago might be very different now. So get in the habit of asking them exactly what you need instead of letting frustration, confusion, or rage develop when your partner repeatedly gets it wrong.

Take note of the nonverbal signals from your partner

Too many of our conversation is expressed by what we're not saying. Far more than words are conveyed through nonverbal signs, including eye contact, tone of voice, stance, and movements such as leaning forward, crossing your arms, or touching someone's hand.

If you can pick up on the nonverbal signs or "body language" of your partner, you will be able to say how they really feel and be able to respond accordingly. In order for a relationship to function well, each person has to understand the nonverbal signs of their own and their partner. Responses from your partner may be different from yours. For instance, after a stressful day, one person might find a hug a caring form of communication, while another might just want to take a walk together or sit and talk.

It's also necessary to make sure that your body language is balanced by what you say. If you say "I'm all right," but clench your teeth and look away, then your body clearly shows that you're anything but "all right."

You feel cherished and satisfied when you experience positive emotional signals from your partner, and your partner feels the same when you give positive emotional signals. If you stop taking an interest in the feelings of your own or your partner, the bond between you will be weakened and your ability to communicate will suffer, particularly during stressful times.

Be a good listener

While a great deal of focus is placed on talking in our culture, you will create a deeper, stronger bond between you if you can learn to listen in a way that makes another person feel respected and understood.

There's a major difference between listening and simply hearing in this way. When you really listen, you'll hear the slight intonations in the voice of your partner that tell you how they really feel and the feelings they're trying to express when you're concerned with what's being said. Being a good listener doesn't mean you've got to compromise or change your mind with your partner. Yet it can allow you to find common points of view that can assist you in dispute resolution.

Keep physical intimacy alive

The touch is an integral component of human life. The value of frequent, affectionate touch for brain growth has been shown by studies in infants. And the advantages do not end in infancy. Affectionate touch increases oxytocin levels in the body, a hormone that affects bonding and attachment.

Although sex is often a pillar of a committed relationship, physical intimacy should not be the only process. Frequent, affectionate contact is equally important: holding hands, embracing, kissing.

Of course, being responsive to what your partner likes is crucial. The other person will tense up and withdraw with unwelcome contact or sexual overtures, just what you don't want. This will come down to how well you express your desires and intentions with your partner, as with so many other facets of a healthy relationship.

Even if you have pressing workloads or young kids to think about, by carving out a daily couple of hours, whether in the form of a date night or simply an hour at the end of the day where you can sit and chat or hold hands, you can help to keep physical intimacy alive.

Learn to give and take in your relationship

You are setting yourself up for disappointment if you plan to get what you want 100 percent of the time in a relationship. On agreement, healthy relationships are established. It takes effort, however, on the part of each person to make sure that there is a fair exchange.

Recognize what is vital for your partner

It can go a long way towards building trust and an environment of consensus to know what is really important to your partner. It's also necessary for your partner to consider your wishes on the flip side and for you to clearly state them. Constantly giving to others will only create frustration and rage at the cost of your own needs.

Don't make your goal "winning"

It will be impossible to find a compromise if you approach your partner with the mentality that things have to be your way or else. Sometimes this mentality stems from not fulfilling your needs when you are younger, or it may be years of cumulative frustration hitting a boiling point in the relationship. Having strong opinions about something is okay, but your partner needs to be heard as well. Be respectful of the other person and his or her point of view.

Learn how to settle disputes with dignity.

Conflict in any relationship is unavoidable, but both parties need to feel they've been understood in order to maintain a relationship strong. The aim is not to win, but to preserve the partnership and improve it.

Be prepared for ups and downs

In any relationship, it is necessary to understand that there are ups and downs. You won't be on the same page all the time. One spouse may often deal with a problem that burdens them, such as the death of a close member of the family. Other incidents can impact both spouses and make it difficult to relate to each other, such as job loss or serious health issues. You may have various ideas about handling finances or raising kids.

Different individuals cope differently with stress, and misunderstandings may turn to irritation and anger easily.

Don't take your concerns out on your mate. The pressures of life can make us short-tempered. It may seem easier to vent with your partner if you are dealing with a lot of tension, and even feel better to yell at them. Initially, fighting like this might feel like a relief, but it poisons your relationship slowly. Find other ways to handle the tension, anger, and annoyance that are healthier.

Many more issues can be created by attempting to push a solution. Every individual works in their own way through issues and problems. You're a squad, remember. It will get you through the tough spots by continuing to step forward together.

Look back at your relationship's early stages. Share the moments that brought the two of you together, analyze the point at which you started to break apart, and decide how you can work together to rekindle the feeling of falling in love.

Be open to change. In life, change is inevitable, and whether you go for it or fight it, it will happen. In order to adapt to the transition that often takes place in every relationship, flexibility is important and it helps you to develop together through both the good times and the poor.

If your partnership needs outside support, reach out together. Problems in a relationship can often seem too complicated or daunting for you to deal with as a couple. Therapy for couples or communicating with a trusted friend or religious figure may help.