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Help yourself! Date: March 28,2022 Author: Sequoia **“The hardest thing in the world is trying to extend a hand to someone who don’t have any plans to pick up himself from where he is, in the first place.”** *You can have all the best mentors, coaches, leaders and encouragers in the whole world.* *You can attend several seminars, orientations, workshops and other empowering activities.* *You can be the most skilled and talented person in the history.* *But if you have no plans to help yourself get up, you will never go anywhere.* Some people tend to misunderstand us for pushing them to their limits. They will often think that we are pressuring them and taking their ‘freedom to enjoy life’ away from them. Little did they know, we are just doing it for their own growth. Unfortunately, not everyone would accept and appreciate our helps. They wanted to have the life that the successful people is living but isn’t willing to do the things that those unbeatable and powered people do. Helping this kind of people is like teaching cats how to shake hands. It isn’t impossible, but tough. You can provide all the treats that they need, but won’t still obey the tricks that you teach. However, the problem is not with you, it’s with them. A person who really wants to do something will do everything just to have it. But a person who isn’t willing will always find a way to not do it. They will make a lot of excuses. In short, most people want instant success without undergoing anything. But it doesn’t work that way. _________________________________________________ Success doesn’t come overnight and so is self-development and improvement. If you really wanted to grow and achieve things that you desire, you must be willing to sacrifice your unhealthy and unproductive habits. Compromising is one of the most crucial ingredients in success. Visible results won’t be noticeable in just a blink of an eye. We gotta undergo multiple process of pruning, fining, polishing and other necessary things to be the person that we ought to be. Growth doesn’t come in our comfort bubble. You have to take that step and come out from your familiar surroundings and activities and allow yourself to be lost in unfamiliar set-ups and situations. People who are willing to change should be ready with everything that they may face. You will lose some people along the way, you will get lost most of the time, you might even reach the point in your life where the only thing that you can do is to quit and go back to where you came from. But we shouldn’t fret and keep the faith within our hearts. _________________________________________________ ***We may wander around, but we are never lost. Just because we are going the opposite way on where everybody is heading, means we are already in the wrong path. We have to remember that we have individual race to run and road to take. Aim for what your heart really wants. People might belittle and laugh at you. But soon, they will see you shine and stand out from the rest. Not because it happened overnight, but because you choose to endure while everyone is enjoying.*** ***The time will come that all your sacrifices will be paid off accordingly.*** _________________________________________________ Disclaimer: Lead Image not mine. It's from https://www.istockphoto.com/
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A person who is not willing to help himself will not be helped by others. The people who are trying to extend help to him will only sound like a gong.
indeed sis. Kahit anong gawin natin, tayo pa yung mamasamain.
I can relate to this by, and it was a real life experience. My tinulungan ko nga yung klasmet ko sa thesis namin kasi irregular cya tapos di man lang marunong mag effort para sa team. Hindi ako demanding as the leader pero malapit na umabot sa point na ilaglag ko cya from the group kasi kami² lang sa ibang members nagtutulungan kasi requirements cya fro grad. Tapos cya di man lang tumutulong.
aygooo. Big no no talaga yan for me by.
To be honest I had to meet with psychiatric. It's feel like something is after me
How are you know?
Instead of lending your hands, why don't we encourage with words. Certainly it is more powerful than anything if none is effective.
I've tried encouraging them with words, but still, no effects.
Last paragraph is my fave lines too. Haha It's okay to be different than the rest or be the slowest of all as long as you are making those steps towards what you really want and whatever makes you happy.
Indeed. We have different seasons and journey
Agree Langga. While walking the paths we want, we shouldn't mind the others who look down to us. We must focus only the goals and work hard.
yes ate ganda.. Let's smash our goals.
Yes Langga. Continue lang tayo Langga para sa mga goals natin.
Sometimes, it's only those on your last paragraph that matters lods, others may react to it as selfish but its the best way around to further reach dreams and goals in life.
yahh. I hope na mainntinhdan nila yung pooint ko
this is really true. kay naa juy mga tawo nga super ka negative ..
kaau beb ay. Ambut nlang jud.
Taking care of yourself is the pathway to fulfillment and to high performance in work and in life. And, just as importantly, it's a gift to others. When your needs are met and you feel good about yourself, it's easier to elevate the needs of other people in front of your own.
exactly. We gotta learn the art of importance in taking care of ourselves.
everyone has a different character from each action and deed, indeed the real goal to inspire them is a good thing but the way they receive it may be different from their response so actually advice is necessary and there is no need to regret the most important thing we have given the best for them if they do not accept it is their right.
you are right. Atleast, we did our part
literally the description of pag gusto, may paraan, pag ayaw maraming dahilan
kaya nga ate eh.
Trueeee sis! "if you have no plans to help yourself get up, you will never go anywhere". All bark no bite is no good.
Kaau sis. galaw2 din tayo
Teach them to catch fish not all the time you had to give them fish. Somehow this is happened where people will always post sad things about their lives and seems like they loved the drama haha.
Yeess. You are truly right besh.
This is why I don't like it when people that of people helping than and they're not thinking of helping them selves...life is short so it's best to make legacies out of it
Same here.
The Eagerness is not present. If you don't have this then it's futile.
Indeed.
Oara umandar ang banka mo, matuto kang magsagwan, ganern. Di talaga uusad yan kapag walang effort. OMG, I'm saying this yo myself huehue.
HAHAHAH I am aslo pertaining to myself ate ruru.
Truulala yan, hindi naman natin sila pinupush para sa kapakanan natin, para sa kanila naman yon. Some people just misunderstands everything
INdeed. HAys, hindi mga receptive eh.
Uso sa pinas ang aasa sa iba. Example, ayuda. Nung nag ayuda, yung iba sa amin di na pumapasok kasi nga may bigay naman daw. Pero di nila narealized na one day, they are so dependent to the gov, sila rin mahihirapan sa huli.
Indeed. Dpat hindi tayo umasa sa mga ayuda. Tayo yung may responsibilidad sa mga sarili natin
Even your own sibling. Its hard for me to say no esp to my siblings but now, I can see that one of them is not worth my help and money. But just recently, I still extend my help coz after all were family. It is just so sad to think that they still manage to continue their vicious not knowing that that money is out of my Hardwork.
Helping isn't bad. But let's not always do it. Let's help them learn how to fish in the sea.