Favouritism among siblings by Parents

Are you in a family with many different siblings asides you? If yes you will agree to me that there are many advantages of having siblings aside you, there are some benefits that may be enjoyed by the siblings due to the fact that they are many in the family compared to a single child in the house. An only child born into a family will easily catch boredom because he or she doesn't have anybody to play with. He or she will only rely on the parents to play or communicate with. The siblings in a typical large family can help one another and also serve as good human resources to help with house chores and all other tasks in the house.

However, in a situation whereby there's more than two siblings in the house, usually there's always a possibility of undue favouritism towards the children by their parents. Needless to say that there are some disadvantages that comes with a family with three or more siblings. If those children are not well trained and managed responsibly by the parents, the siblings grows us to be rival of one another. Another thing that can be considered before going for a large family size as a couple is to ask whether there's financial resources enough to cater for their needs. Obviously large family size with many siblings usually implies large expenses which requires finance. However, a good family size with good financial resources for maintenance do have many benefits.

Have you ever considered favouritism in your family before? As parents, have you ever thought of the fact that you might actually love one or two of your children more than the others, if yes then that's undue favouritism. Many parents usually give some privileges to one out of their children. For some parents, they show their favouritism towards their children by prioritizing their needs, some even go as far as giving more food to those they liked and giving less food to other kids without any reasonable explanation.

Favouritism is usually based on the fact that the children are different in behaviors, abilities and so on. Those children whose behaviors and abilities probably align with the parents' interests will receive more favours from the parents than the others. However favouritism has many implications that are adverse and that can affect a family structure.

Putting one child against the other(s) may warrant hatred among the siblings. Consider Joseph in the bible and how much hate his brother had for him, he wasn't initially hated but the singular love his father has for him above his other brothers annoyed his brothers that they even sought to kill him. Prioritizing a child above others will bring hatred and hate, rivalry in the family. Since every child will compete to seek their parents favours, unhealthy competition and rivalry may creep in. As parents it's not always ideal to love one child and other less. The love and care must be shared accordingly to them. A child who feels he's not loved enough or like his or her other siblings may feel worthless and develop hate both for his parents and the other siblings. The most irony thing about this favouritism is that it's usually the most unfavored that brings out the best results and make the family proud because the unfavored one will work very hard to secure the love of the parents.

Loving all our children equally will promote peace and unity in the family. The children will feel a sense of belonging and rivalry will be reduced. As parents, we should treat another children the same, don't grant unmerited favours to one and discard the rest. Let equal love leads