How to attract Riches
If you remember the law of cause of effects, which states that for every action there is a reaction; for every effect there is a cause. Poverty is not a cause but an acute effect. Poverty is not an outcome or results planned by nature or some unseen elements of the universe contrary to majority's opinion about life.
Majority believe that life is determined or your life's outcome is determined by a force outside your capacity. An uncontrollable and unseen force; many called it "fate". You'll hear them saying "such is life" and it's unpredictability in nature.
To analyse this theory in layman's terms, why is it that some folks are doing well regardless of their background and socio cultural context?. Why is it that some folks are doing below average despite the resources that are available at their disposal?. Let me ask this clear and generic question, why is it that a folk from a very poor background would fight and struggle through life and end up as a successful person of noble?. Why is it that folks from a rich background don't seems to maximize their resources to be great in life?. I've met some folks that their parents are begging them to be serious and do well in life. What determines our success and riches?. Is it our cultural context or parents etc?.
You need to realize that poverty is a mathematical results that can be proven.
Let's look at some laws that guarantee your walk into riches:
1. The Law of Positive Thought Life: nothing has been proven than this law of magnetism; you attract and you're becoming what you're in your mind; as a man thinks in his heart so is he; a poor man is poor because of poverty related thoughts like lack, bitterness, anger, and being irritated by the rich. It's the poverty mentality that produces the lack of resources. The abundance mentality produces the abundance of resources. Your thoughts are the greatest energy level in the universe that can pull blessings and also pull misery into your life; it's a door in the unseen realm that determines what and what can not enter your life.
Your thoughts can make you healthy, it can override an imperfection or magnify a claw. It can make you optimistic about life and face life as a victor or makes you cow inside and refuse to take your chances of success. Every great thing in life starts from the unseen realm then it manifested in this physical realm. It lay hold on the truth: "things that can be seen was made from things that can not be seen".
It affects your circumstances, people you meet and how you're being treated. Dwelling on inferiority thoughts like "I'm not good enough" what you're attracting to your life are the people who'll never treat you good, always looking down on your abilities etc. This reminds me of a truth:
"These signs shall follow them that believe"
These circumstances will follow them that hold onto this kind of thoughts and leading to their believe system. What is happening to you externally is not the point to focus on, they're just an attestation to what your thoughts are. I love circumstances because it reveals man to his true self and bringing revolution to his inner world, to stop dwelling on toxic thoughts and switch to thoughts that build up.
It lay hold on this pillar:
"Whatever things are pure, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, think on this things"
You need to realize that you're the maker of your circumstances; reaping what you sow. See yourself in that desired state and keep thinking in that direction. Your take home pay right now is not the issue you have nor your friends; you can change your life totally and experience joy.
My Experience at theVoter's card Registration Centre
Some few weeks back I could recall going to register my voter's card with my brother at the Independent national electoral commission(INEC). I went early as I can in the morning. The place was very far compared to where I was living. I thought that going there early might give me an edge over others who won't come early. The deadline for the voter's card registration was fast approaching and I needed to register fast so that I can have access to vote in the forthcoming elections. Unfortunately on getting to the venue, I was surprised to see many people there already who came for the same thing for the same purpose. Indeed, I was flabbergasted and disappointed knowing quite well that I will have to stay for a while before getting the registration done.
To my greatest surprise, I learned that some people have come early since 4 am so that they won't miss out when the registration starts, and the overall shocker was that those who came early have gotten their names written down on a list and that's only the number the officials in charge of the registration are going to deal with first before others. The list contained more than 30 people. It dawned on me that I and my brother don't stand a chance of getting registered early.
Many others left their work to come early in the morning and hope they get done with the registration as soon as possible. But things have gone another way. As a citizen of this country, I always heard about corruption in the high places but what most people failed to realize is that corruption doesn't start from the apex but at the grassroots; among individuals and persons. The list that was created to include people in the order of their arrival was instructed to start from number 11 instead of number one. That means 10 people are already removed privately from the list. So the first person that came early as 4 am that day had to start with being the eleventh person instead of the number one.
I just hope this country only gets better. I was hoping for a more advanced state where we can register ourselves online and get all that we need to vote online too instead of doing it physically. I spend a lot of money on transport fares in trying to register for my voter's card which was futile as a result of too many people who are also in my shoes and the inability of the officials to register all of us on the same day.
The registration process was even slow for those on the list. So the ten people from the list are privately removed from the list, where did they come from? because the list started counting from number eleven. That means the first 10 people were sourced using another means. I learned that those people include those who pay to get preferential treatment so that they can get registered quickly ahead of others. Truth or lie, I don't know. I just heard that from others saying. It's sad how bad the country has gone. So if I was with money then that day I could have bought my way in among the first ten people and got registered. Voting is our right as citizens but some people want to monetize it because of personal gain.
I waited for up to like two hours. When I saw that the registration isn't speeding up as it should due to many reasons such as server problems among others. I left there disappointed. Only God knows if I will be able to register before the deadline.My Experience at the Voter's card Registration Centre
I don't feel like going back to school
For someone who comes from an average family and also taking the present situation of the country, life after school is always dreaded by most youths in schools without no hopes. The country is battling many problems like unemployment, banditry, hunger, and so on. All these problems make people fear what will become of them once they finish their university education. It's a known fact that there are many graduates every year with little employment and jobs to serve those graduates. Because of a bad system running in the country, some people see going to school might be an unprofitable investment.
Many students are still depending on their parents. Since they are in school, they have to depend on their parents till they complete their education. Most times, those students especially those that came from average homes always dread life after school, when they have to be independent and fend for themselves. That being said, Universities have been shut down for almost six months and still counting now due to an industrial strike placed by the academic lecturers.
Many students have forgotten about school and all they could think of is how to make money both legally and illegally. Many have resorted to cyber crimes because they don't have any other means to take care of themselves. For the past six months, it's been a hard time for me trying to fend for myself since no money comes from home. The same is the plight of many others too. Occasionally I write here to share my thoughts with others here and also to earn money too.
For the average Nigerian, life is so hard. Everything you see is now costly and you need to pay high prices to obtain them. Necessities of life such as food, housing, and clothing aren't available for everyone again. Only affordable for those who get the purchasing power. There is an increase in crime rates and unemployment increases. One of my friends was telling me how hard it will be to live as a graduate in a dysfunctional country. Well, I believed getting lucrative skills as an individual will help a lot financially. The government jobs can not go around and people have to find another means of earning.
There are many digital skills out there that can be learned which provide a stable and sustainable source of income.
The Government and the body of lecturers are still negotiating on calling off the industrial strike. As for me, I don't feel like going back to school anymore. because we have been deceived by both parties with empty promises of calling off the strike which has not been fulfilled all this while. I just want to learn about web designing and many other skills out there that can boost my income. Nevertheless, I hope everything comes back to normal and we resume back to school after a long time because I missed my friends and school in general so much.
Impact of social media on the growth of Cryptocurrency and Blockchain space
How will you imagine your life without social media? Even though it is rather unfortunate, however, there are many people whose lives depend entirely on social media like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and so on. For some people, they must show others what they want to eat before actually eating them on social media. That has been the norm some people follow. Social media has a lot of benefits for people who use various media to interact with other people all around the world. We all have friends on various social media we text and chat with almost every day. Social media makes life more interesting and fun.
Of course, social media has a tremendous role in the mass adoption of cryptocurrency and blockchain in general. Since the crypto market is still emerging and reaching out to people from every part of the world, it's important to know that social media have helped so much in the mass adoption of cryptocurrency. Web3 platforms that are based on decentralized systems have enabled many people to learn about cryptocurrency and all that it is. Consider various platforms such as telegram, Google, Twitter, Discord, and so on, where you can learn much about cryptocurrency and various projects emerging through those platforms. On the telegram, you can join various cryptocurrency communities whereby you can learn and impart to others to know more about cryptocurrency.
You can leverage social media to achieve your goals to achieve knowledge and cryptocurrency adoption. However, you must know why you are in the crypto space if you want to thrive and position yourself to grab numerous opportunities available in the crypto space. Social media will help your growth in the space. You must be able to participate actively in any communities you are in. Crypto space isn't just for making money alone, you must also be ready to learn. Learning comes before earning.
Make friends in the community if you want information and growth in the space. Crypto space is like a school. You need friends and acquaintances to help you in your growth journey. You can't possibly do it alone. You need others more knowledgeable than you to put you through some things.
Coming early is very important in the aspect of cryptocurrency trading. You can't always afford to be late. There are many opportunities to grab in this space but most of them are time-based which means you must be timely. You shouldn't sleep on updates and timely information that can change your life for good. And the best way to come early when making trading decisions is to make research. Always make your due research before making any decision because the market is very volatile, and one wrong decision could bring much loss.
Social media helps in mass adoption and education about cryptocurrency because through social media you can reach a better audience easily.Impact of social media on the growth of Cryptocurrency and Blockchain space
Yes, you come first.
Is it a bad thing to care for others? Why do some people take you're being nice as a foolish thing? These are questions that got me thinking hard about my own life when I felt cheated some time back. Well, I don't need to open up much about myself to you but I am someone who likes to care for others, especially people that I love and don't even know. Well, you could call me the Mr nice guy who loves and cares for others. To me, doing that is not a big deal, it's something I love doing may be due to my nature. I find it difficult to contain it when I see other people suffering and I can't do anything for them. Of course, I always wanted to help people to my best capacity and ability. The same could be said in the aspect of relationships too or when it comes to loving others. I always thought people will love me as I loved them but I don't know that doesn't happen all the time. For a very long time, I thought those gestures you show to others will be shown by them to you too. Alas! I was wrong.
There was a guy who was "selfish" as I thought then that he was. Why did I call him selfish? He's always looking more for himself than others and I thought he was selfish. I on the other hand always try to impress people around me not in an extravagant manner though but I always try to let people see how nice I can be and how caring I can also be. What happened in the end? I got hurt most especially by people I love. I thought the same energy I exert in caring for others would be the same in how they do to me too but that was wrong. I felt hurt and I thought doing good is not ideal. Well till now, I don't know why doing good hurts so much.
There was a time I decided not to play the nice game again. But my friend talked to me then that I might not have been meeting the right people who will reciprocate the same gesture, he said to me that I should not expect good in return but I should continue doing good and be nice to others as I have always done. He said I should continue loving those who even show me hatred and that it is the secret to a happy life. Well, I couldn't live a sad life as it is not for me.
Should you still care for others, love others and share a bond with them? Yes, you should. But don't put others before yourself. Yes, you come first before any other person. In this life, you will feel hurt by people, especially those you love if they didn't care for you as you did for them. Imagine risking many things for your friend at school during emergency periods but he couldn't do the same for you when you need him the most. Well, that will surely hurt you, won't it?
Don't put your happiness in others, strive to make yourself happy and always look out for yourself even in relationships. You will do better if you follow the rule. It's not been selfish, it's been considerate of your mental health and happiness.
What I consider "Luxury".
Back then at a very tender age and as a growing teen that I was then, I imagined then many things that I couldn't possibly afford then as something luxurious and that will be very difficult to buy. When I was still a small child, my definition of luxury or something that can be considered luxurious was beyond flashy things alone, it includes ordinary things that I was unable to buy or lack purchasing power on. I could still remembered back then whenever I go to school and I saw some of my mates come to school with their little toys and stuffs like that, I only feel intimidated and wish I have some too but I can't afford it and for some reasons dad wouldn't buy it for me. Luxury things for adults are more likely to be different than that of the children. For adults, Luxury things they fancied may include flashy cars that cost them more than their purchasing power or ability. To Some, influential and prestigious women may be their own luxury, things they have to spend and exert much effort, resources on before they can finally own them. Luxury in conception may be the same for a child and adult, however what they want might be so different from what the other wants. For instance, a child luxury may just be an attractive pair of shoes while a grown up man craves for something much more.
What makes something to be luxurious is basically that it is not something common or cheap to get easily and that you have to pay a deal of sacrifice if you want it. Something that can be easily be bought is not luxurious enough. If all cars are sold cheaply in a ridiculous manner that even the poorest man in the street can afford one, then car cannot be considered a luxury goods. To the rich, they possess things they regarded as "normal" which is actually "luxury" to the average or poor man. You can only considered something luxurious because you don't have it at hand. Once you have many of that thing you considered "luxurious", you don't see as a big deal again unlike before. Back then I thought wearing jeans was some kind of luxury that I want then, but as times go by, I concluded that there must still be something much more that has to be luxurious than a pair of jeans. That was my conclusion when I already got some many jeans to wear.
Buying or living the luxurious life means a lot. It means you have a high taste in some things you want for yourself. Some might do everything even to their detriment to get those luxury they desire. Imagine being on a low income and getting loan to buy a flashy car just because you want to suit your lifestyle. Most luxuries in nature are indeed liabilities which will only drain you of your assets and money more and more. Living the luxurious life isn't bad or but it's not ideal living it beyond one's means. Don't try to impress others and put yourself into debt. Many people do a luxurious weddings because they want to be heard and be the talk of everyone, only to go broke after the wedding. There are things that has to be carefully planned and ruminated upon before carrying them out. Don't live beyond your means or try to imitate others who are living large. Live according to your means and you will be fine.
Divorce is an option
***This article does not support any form of violence***
One incident happened about a gospel singer who died due to domestic violence and abuse being perpetrated by her husband.
Gospel singer Osinachi by name who died yesterday was told to have died because she suffered from domestic violence which she couldn't escaped from and ultimately led to her death while in the hospital. People claimed that her husband was fond of beating her time to time and this affected her health in a very deteriorating manner which eventually led to her demise. Some people blamed the fact that she could have worked away from an abusive marriage as marriage sometimes is not meant for everybody. Yet I read that the woman probably had no choice than to continue to "endure" that marriage because she was a gospel minister and she might probably not be called to minister by churches any longer if she divorced her husband. What a myopic way of thinking?. She continues to endure and endure the inhumane treatment by her husband until she was unable to endure it again.
I have always been an protector of laws, either biblical or country laws. I know that beating women is firstly a violence against women. Women are often seen as vulnerable groups opposed to men and there are many laws and rules out there by different countries to protect women from violence or assault. So why would a man tries to engage in domestic violence against his wife in marriage just because the woman is weak?. Violence against women can try many forms, such as verbal violence, sexual violence, physical abuse etc. I wonder why it's always easy for men to beat their wives as if they didn't love them or something?.
Even at that I realized that domestic violence increases on a daily basis especially because of one factor, that women are not able to voice out to concerned authorities about the violence being melted upon them. How they try to keep silent on it and instead of it getting better it becomes more worse.
Many women have met their untimely death from their husbands. Because their husbands keep beating them like a pike of clothes and those women can't even voice out or make a cry. If women will start to voice out about their violence against them in the homes I think the abuse will start reducing in a while.
Sometimes religion have also help domestic violence to develop greatly too in many homes. Because some people will tell you that their religion doesn't allow for divorce unless your husband commit fornication or he died. Asides from that reason they didn't have any more reason for them to leave the relationship. Personally I don't feel this is bad as marriage is sacred union which you can't just enter to and leave as you like. However there are still some conditions that are always exempted. It's better to stay away from an abusive husband than to die untimely because of him because of regular assault and violence. Religious leaders should not encourage wives to stay and endure an abusive marriage. It kills the woman in the long run just as the gospel singer died an untimely death because of perpetual violence.
No To Violence❌❌❌
Get rich, reduce spending unnecessarily
By nature, I have always been someone who spends in a frugal or economical manner. I'm not a stingy one as I even likes to spend on people close to me; that I love and care about. But sometimes I just feel like buying unnecessary things might be a waste of investment and that influenced my spending habits in a very long way. For instance, I rarely spend on things that are not of necessity in nature. Of course I spend much more on necessity goods like food and some clothes. I don't spend heavily on clothes too. Some years back I imagined that the way I spend money or use money is the same with others but it's not so. I come across some people who can spend extravagantly today and be broke tomorrow. I will rather prefer investing my money than buying consumables which will rather not yield any additional income for me.
One of the problems I have is that even though I am very economical in nature, I may be very extravagant in spending especially when it comes to spending on my loved ones, either my parents, siblings or close friends. Maybe because it's just that I have a good heart and I can't possibly not do it. I can't tolerate not spending or giving out money to my close friend in need. I could recalled many times when I will rather go hungry and let my best friend eat from the little I have. Many do say you have to take care of yourself first before thinking about others. I most times don't always try to prove the theory wrong because I quite understand that sometimes you have to take care of yourself first so that you may be in a more better position to help others. But yet, I find it difficult to shun people close to me in need when I can still help them either financially or other kind.
To become rich nowadays especially when you are not in a very conducive environment may be tasking. But reckless spending won't possibly make you a rich man, instead it decrease your assets, increase your cost of living and eventually make you poor. Many people assume that by collecting large amount as salary can make them rich but it's not, especially if that large amount is not well managed. Many people thought that they can become rich by spending more on liabilities and expenses than acquiring assets. Wealth creation doesn't work that way. Profitable investment couples with good savings are two major factor you can't run away from if you want to be rich or wealthy. That is why I make it as a point of duty no matter how small to always invest and not use all of my money to eat.
I believe investment will pay definitely in the long run. I have restricted myself to eating once in a while some years back because I want to save money. Even though we have numerous needs with little resources to meet them. However it doesn't dispute the fact that saving little from your income will really be beneficial to you. When I was still in high school. I will save periodically in my piggyvest then and withdraw it once it reach certain time. My mom encouraged this act since I was little then, because she believed that savings should be inculcated as a value and also to help manage how to spend money. Don't spend on things that are not important, spend on acquiring assets instead and invest your money in the right way. Getting rich this way won't take long.
The forgone alternative
Have you ever hard of the term "forgone alternative". On economics, forgone alternative or opportunity cost is the value of what you give up for as alternative to buy another thing which seems more better than the forgone alternative. Opportunity cost is economics may relate to the price of goods and services, but looking at it from a comprehensive life angle, it goes much more beyond goods and services. It's what people do everyday of their life...forgoing alternatives.
In a much clearer way, opportunity cost can be illustrated in the following way. If you probably have $50 to go to cinema and also to have a book worth of such amount. You may decide to discard the book and go to cinema. In this instance, you already sacrificed buying a book worth $50 to pay for cinema which cost the same $50. Here opportunity cost is the cost of book forgone to go and watch cinema. Opportunity cost arrived out of the fact that we have many needs and there is few or little resources to meet those needs.
Looking at opportunity cost or forgone alternative in a much broader sense, it means many things. People forgone many alternatives in order to achieve something much better. We do that everyday consciously or not intentionally. I could remember my younger brother was my opportunity cost for me to acquire university education first. Then my parents said they don't have the capacity to send us to college at the same time, that the senior brother has to go first and the younger brother of mine have to stay home for a while till I'm almost done. That's how it is for some people too. We all have some things we have to sacrifice for greater goal.
Opportunity cost is not limited to economist alone. Almost everybody practice the concept of opportunity cost at some point in their life. In early stage of adulthood, one may get into a crossroad especially young adults that have already reached the age of marriage. Some are often in the web of confusion as to what or things that should be their utmost priority and things that should be their alternatives. For some, they may be confused whether to spend on marriage costs and preparation first or to spend on acquiring house first. Of course one has to be sacrificed for the other to be achieved.
The main issue is that is your opportunity cost not important or better than your money cost or your most priority you spent on? Many times people are entangled in their own acts. Some sacrifice something great to achieve little worth. As a student, aren't you sacrificing your opportunity cost for something insignificant?. There are many students who will rather sacrifice their time to study to go to parties and clubs. Their opportunity cost is the time they sacrificed to study.
Don't sacrifice much for something little or insignificant. It always have a bad consequence. You can imagine a student who decides to forgo the alternative of studying to partying.
Everyday you have to make a lot of choices and decisions, make sure you make the right ones and choose your alternatives well too.
Ordeals of a Nigerian first year Student
I vividly remembered my experience as a first timer in the university. Right before I gained admission into Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Nigeria. I'm always envisioned a university to be a place that makes one to be free, since you are going to be far away from home. Funnily enough, I'm always been a reserved person who likes to stay at home all day without going anywhere. When I realized that my days at home is gradually ending then as I was preparing for school, I was so happy because I can finally do anything I like without anybody restraining me, so I thought. Because I could remembered back home you can't just sleep or do anything you like, you have to follow the rules laid down by my parents
My first time at the University was when I went there to write my post utme exam (it's a qualifying exam schools always use to pick their candidates for admission). I realized that it's not very easy to gain admission. Why? I saw many aspirants like mine who are deeply serious with reading so that they may passed and be admitted. Initially I always believed I do read and a reader but as soon as I entered the school a day prior to my exam, I realized that there are still some people better in the habit of reading than me. Actually I'm not bad either, lol.
Gaining admission into a federal university in Nigeria is not easy, especially if you are still studying competitive courses like medicine, law, etc, you have to work hard in order to be admitted. I opted in for accounting then. Right then during my first year in school, I was opened to a lot of beliefs and conceptions. Of course, my personality as a hardcore introverts still stayed with me. I could remembered I didn't attend the freshers' party then because I was too shy and introverted. I will rather stay at my hostel eating and resting all day. While some people are really eager to attend the party, I wasn't too excited about it. When I think all about it, I must say I have a beautiful first year in school but also a rough one.
Introverts don't have a lot of friends you know. I know that I am not the one to have much friends, so I only carefully selected some friends who may help me to become more better and who i can also help. I could remembered that in classes then you have to comport yourself while the lecturer is in class, you can't be going out as you like since you are not in secondary school or high school. In the university, you are expected to have come with a big knowledge from the high school. This is evident in some habits of Nigerian lecturers skipping a topic because they felt you should have been taught right from secondary school or high school.
University unlike high school is a place that affords you your freedom. Nobody will beat you for not coming to class even though every behaviors either good or bad you exhibited have their own good or bad implications. You can't possibly not go to classes and expect good results, none can you skip classes and expect something good. Nobody will beg you to do what's right. You have to make up your mind to do it.
I have many memories of my first year in school. I couldn't forget about the seniors' taunts that time. But with time we overcame it too as we begin our second year and are no more called fresher again. University Education is sweet because of many experiences you gather from it. It's like an adventure full of sweet memories and pains too..But as they saw, no pain no gain. You have to experience some unpleasantness before you reach a greater pleasant place.
Is love enough to sustain Relationships?
Just yesterday I felt so angry with my girlfriend over some misunderstandings. Apparently I was not the one at fault but infact she didn't think it was at fault too but nevertheless I was hurt. That do happens many times she offended me and I don't even speak out. They say communication solves a lot of problems in relationships, but I have the habit of internalizing my pain, maybe because of who I am or something else. I preferred suffering inside myself than saying it out. Sometimes I feel like staying in a relationship can be a burden to either or both partners.
Relationships can be based on love but it's never sustained if you don't understand how your partners feel most times. For introverted individuals, they might not talk about most things to their partners, even if they wanted to they may not find the best of words to convey how they feel. Introverts many times feel hurt in relationships and manage it inwardly. Love alone cannot sustain a relationship, you must be able to understand why your partner behaves or act as they do. Because I am an introvert, many times I get offended or angry over some little things with my partner but she always consider those little things as something insignificant and not worth fighting for.
Since we are different in temperament and character, I easily get angry while she doesn't. Most times I have to resolve my anger so that it doesn't turn to something else. You can imagine how sometimes it feel when you angry because of your partner and they just don't seem to care about that.
I always try to work on myself and improve our relationship so that we can both enjoy it. She already told me that I have a bad habit of getting angry over little things which she's not wrong about. I'm also trying to work on that and also, to help her understand me and my feelings.
She's the direct opposite of who I am. She's very outspoken and extroverted, while I am the reserved one. Because of my introverted nature, anytime we fight I prefer we settle it over chats because introverts prefer putting their thoughts into writing than speaking them out actually. But she doesn't object to that, she preferred facing me to talk about it. This do worries me sometimes, lol.
Bring in a relationship with the exact opposite of you may be rewarding in many ways and if course may have its own shortcomings too. In ways that I might not be sufficient for her because of my personality, she always bridged that gap. I get angry because I don't always express my feelings but she's the opposite, she doesn't hide her feelings from me and always tell me of my offence anytime I wronged her.
To have a best relationship, it's not necessary that you are with the best person, because in the actual sense of it there is no best person. Everyone has their own flaws you can only know when you get close to them. Having a best relationship entails having someone who only does not love you but understand you even when you are not speaking, even when you are silent. Understandings matter in relationships.
How do you view Life?
There are many ways through which we view life as a whole. Life can be complex sometimes hence to live through it, we need to look at it in a much more complex way and deal with it in the same manner. Life has many meanings for each and everyone of us. For some people Life can have a good meaning while the same Life may convene different meaning entirely to others. How do you expect someone you recently lost her only son to live or view life? I could remembered vividly some weeks back when I lost someone close to me, a neighbor and a church member. That time I felt empty and I concluded that nothing in life is worth dying for. His death shocked my bone to the marrow as I didn't expect such of him. I presumed then that everyone is just living on borrowed time, we may leave tomorrow who knows. Back then I decided to cheer myself up and get over it, then I remembered how much suffering his parents must be and all that.
If you are asked how do you view life? You can't give a one time answer. If I threw such question to you let's say few months ago? You might have answered me depending on the mood you were in that moment. Probably you were in a happy mood or in some kind of celebration and joy, you won't hesitate in telling me that you view life as something enjoyable and fun. Humans tend to speak based on their emotions. A happy man will speak happy words, a sad man will speak sad words and so on. You can view life as something meaningful, worthwhile and enjoyable when you are in good mood or happy. A sad man might not find meanings to life.
When I was a little bit small, my daddy would promised me a lot of things then without fulfilling all of it, sometimes it takes a long way to even fulfill half of his promises. I initially thought he doesn't love me but later I come to the understanding that he probably couldn't provide everything I asked for due to financial constraints. As a child I had so much trust in him that I always already imagined me having with me whatever be promised to get me either he gets it eventually or not. But one thing I noticed is that I feel hurt and disappointment anytime he didn't fulfill his promises. I felt then that if one cannot keep his promises, it's only better if one didn't make it in the first place. Back then I'm always optimistic about life. I do view and live life with much optimism. But such optimism turns into hurt for me especially when dad or anyone promised me anything but they couldn't later fulfill it.
Just few moments ago when I was reflecting on these thoughts of mine when I was younger, I can only imagine which is the right way to approach life, with full optimism or pessimism? Now don't get me wrong, none is good or bad. Sometimes been pessimistic about some things will help you much better than being optimistic about it and vice versa. When it comes to dealing with life, there's no rule that fits all. You approach things based on the circumstances surrounding it. You can't show optimism for something that has been lost and irrecoverable again, for instance the loss of a parent. You just have to accept your fate and move on.
Sometimes when I think about life, I just want to go south from overthinking. Life is indeed complex. Today life may be so enjoyable and fun, tomorrow it may be so sour and bitter.
Conflicts in Marriages
Someone once told me that as long as two or more people come together on the basis of a relationship or even the merging of more than two or three people to form a society or association, there will be sometimes the occurrence of conflicts or misunderstanding at some point in time. Conflict as far as human existence is concerned is inevitable. During the olden generations dated back, disagreement over some affairs could result into conflicts which may cause wars between many nations. Is there any good implications of conflicts? Well I don't know, I just know that conflicts could escalate into something more serious if not properly managed.
Since misunderstanding is inevitable and tends to occur many times among human relations, it's only wise if people sit down to examine what do cause conflicts and the way to go about it. In marriages, dating relationship and even in the place of work, fights or conflicts may arise from time to time. However in the aspect of marriage which is the aim of discourse, we want to examine some causes of violence between husbands and wives that are married together and sometimes in a dating relationships too. Because if things are done right during dating or courtships, then it's possible to reduce different hassles that comes in marriages beforehand. Because once you know and understand your partner in the courses of dating, you can avoid yourself some headaches that may eventually come in marriage if unchecked during courtship.
**1. Too much of financial burden on one party.**
If a party either the husband or wife feel burdened when it comes to paying the bills and expenses in the home, then fight may eventually break out between them. It's quite common to see the husband footing all the bills with the wife doing nothing. Initially the husband may not feel bothered until when he started getting broke and he's feeling the heat of bearing it all alone without any help from his wife. The best solution to this scenario is to work together in terms of sharing the bills and expenses. It shouldn't be only one sided way. Husbands should help their wives as the latter should help their husbands too. Marriage is only sweet when both partners decided to work hand in hand and not each on his or her own.
**2. JEALOUSY.**
Ordinary, feeling jealous especially in a relationship may bring a lot of headaches as some people cannot contain their jealousy and tends to behave in a cold manner towards their partner. I have seen a jealous man who was uncomfortable with his wife doings at a party and ultimately drove back home without taking her back home. While jealousy is not overly bad, you should be able to trust and know your partners to avoid unnecessary angers when one of them is being jealous. This will avoid conflicts among partners in a dating relationships or even in marriages.
**3. Do you know that food sometimes cause fights between husbands and wives. Ma**ny men are impatient once it comes to food. They are not ready to listen to your excuses if you can't provide them food. Some men go to the extreme of beating their wives because their wives probably slack off in cooking or were busy and couldn't cook on time. When it comes to food, it's always important to exercise patience as a man especially if the food is not ready yet. In most African countries, cooking is believed to be reserved exclusively for women as their duties. Some men may get into fights with their wives if they come back from work all day and could not find any prepared food from their wives.
These are some of what causes fights or conflicts in marriages or in a home. You can feel free to share with me some of your thoughts below.
Do you love and value your family?
Families are everything, they are like a irreplaceable treasure we will do anything for its preservation. Families are important subset of the society and the root of all great nations. To many people, family could be considered as something most important to them. I love my family do much that I am willing to do anything for them. Some people don't have the privilege of having a family when they were young, probably some people grew up in foster homes or orphanage homes while some people get to live their childhood years with their families.
I could imagine the amount of hardships and difficulties faced by some people who lived without their family. Sometimes, situation might warrant some people losing their families. War for example may cause some people to lose their families and they become internally displaced persons who have to wander about in new environment. When you're not guided or is without a family, sometimes one may tend to be misguided or lack his or her sense of purpose in life. Family helps us to live well and live right as members of the society. We have our parents and siblings who doted on us and guide us on the good ways of living. I do imagine living a life without nobody to guide you and set you straight. That's one of the function of family. Most criminals in the society today were people who either have no parents to guide them or didn't have proper upbringing while they were young. The significance of this is that the role of the family in a proper society cannot be underestimated.
Many people neglect their family in pursuit of money and other things. Some do give the excuse of trying to make more money was the reason they have to be far enough from their families. Families are part of your life you shouldn't be far away from. There are many people who have left their families behind for other insignificant reasons. You see many successful and influential people who have made a mark in their own world but don't have time for their families. Their wives and children suffers so much from their absence. Being with your family means you share great bond together and you're happy together. Sometimes you bring unexplainable joy to your children just by staying with them and being around them.
Children who suffers their parents' absence over time may feel insecure and cultivate bad habits because they don't have anybody to guide them.
I could remember vividly back then during the initial surge of the covid-19 pandemic. Many companies were shut down temporarily and people were advised to stay at home with their families for the time being. It's a pity that many people always underestimated the value of family. Your family can be all what you have. In days of betrayal when everyone seems off, only your family will be there with you and cheer you on because they're part of you and you are part of them. That is why you must treat your family right every time. Do things that strengthen your bonds together. People who lack family love know the value of having one. No matter how high or great we become in life. Let's endeavor to put our families first, after God above all things. I so much love my family, they have in many ways being a source of help and encouragement for me that I can't just do without them. I'm always happy to just have them . The question is, do you value and love your family as much too?
Mood swings in Relationships
What if you have a partner who swings mood anytime they like? Do you feel happy when this occurs anytime? Personally mood swings in relationships or dating drains me, maybe due to my personality as an introvert or something else. I find it not funny when you decides to meet up with your lover and all of a sudden in the course of your conversation together their mood suddenly changes. I hate such with passion. However I have come to realize that as a human being we all have many things on our mind that requires constant ponder. Life is full of ups and downs, and it doesn't exclude people in relationships too.
As a growing adult, I have come across many people and in to some relationships with few people. Those people of course consists of many outspoken ones and few reserved ones. Each have been wonderful to me in their own distinctive ways of approach. I'm a typical introverted and reserved guy and I understand what mood swings means for me especially when dealing with it in a relationship. Like I said earlier, mood swings is something I hate to experience from my partner especially in relationships. Imagine been lively and chatty with your partner inside the room and suddenly his or her mood changes and you are wondering what really happened. You have to increase your energy at lightening up their mood again to absorb their dullness hence draining your own energy in the process. Many people think that they can always swing their mood or their countenance when with their partner or loved one. It's always a very bad act. You may think it's your own mood and it doesn't affect anyone else but it surely affect your partner who loves you and always want to see your happy face always.
Maybe some introverts like me especially guys find it strenuous to cope with people with mood swings. Until recent while I come to understand some things, I do believed that people with mood swings should be avoided as they stressed people like me emotionally. Since you don't know why the sudden change of mood occurs with your partner, you have to do everything to make them happy again. You don't know why their mood suddenly changes, probably they picked offence at what their partner did or something else, you can't just get your head around it from the sudden mood change.
I know of yet another thing about mood swings in relationship. Sometimes women may use mood swings to punish their male partners in relationships. Some male partners have the habit of getting worried over any slightest thing and any mood swings on the part of their women get them worried easily and they keep wondering about what may be wrong.
Mood swings in relationships if not well managed can have a lot of bad implications. Personally for me I think these bad implications can be averted if there is a good form of communication between the both partners. If you have something bothering you, you can talk it out with your partner instead of keeping it all to yourself therefore changing your mood. You must be able to consider your partner feelings too before shutting down your mood completely or blackening out. Create a stable atmosphere with your partner and enjoy the good atmosphere.
Promoting Peaceful Living In Or Society
Peace refers to absence of hostility. It refers to an environment that is characterized by healthy interpersonal and international relationships, acknowledgement of equality and fairness etc. Peace is when people are able to resolve their conflicts without violence and can work together to improve the quality of their lives.
Peace is when:
i. Everyone lives in safety, without fear or threat of violence, and no form of violence is tolerated in law or in practice.
ii. Everyone is equal before the law the systems for justice are trusted, and fair and effective laws protect people's rights.
iii. Everyone is able to participate in shaping political decisions and the government is accountable to the people
iv. Everyone has fair and equal access to the basic needs for their well-being such as food, clean water, shelter, education, healthcare and a decent living environment.
v. Everyone has an equal opportunity to work and make a living, regardless of gender, ethnicity or any other aspect of identity.
Peace doesn't mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.
Peace can be categorized into two (2) types;
**Negative Peace and Positive Peace**
The concept of negative peace addresses immediate symptoms, the conditions of war, and the use and effects of force and weapons. Negative peace is the absence of direct violence (physical, verbal, and psychological) between individuals, groups, and governments.
Positive Peace is more than the absence of violence; it is the presence of social justice through equal opportunity, a fair distribution of power and resources, equal protection and impartial enforcement of law. Positive Peace can be established through world order by supporting international law, compliance with multilateral treaties, use of international courts, and nonviolent resolution of disputes, participation in international organizations, trade, and communication.
**Ways of Promoting Peace**
1. Introspection: Going inward is the true way to promote outer peace, meditation and being in alignment with one's true self will build a solid foundation for peacefulness in your life. Sit in silence and breathe and notice what you become aware of. Your inner voice will guide you in life. Take some time for journaling to really understand the peaceful life you are meant to be living.
2. Compassion: There can be no peace without a deep level of compassion for all beings. Note the difference between being compassionate and taking pity. Feeling compassion means you have an understanding for others, and wish suffering to no being.
3. Broaden Your Understanding of Peace: You are free to choose your own path. Living in peace will be your own conscious, daily action founded on your striving and understandings, gleaned from all corners of the world, from all people you have ever met and known, and from your own consciousness and knowledge.
4. Tolerance; Tolerance in all that you think and do will make a difference in your life and in the lives of others around you. Tolerance for others is about appreciating diversity, the plurality of modern society, and being willing to live and let others live too. When we fail to tolerate others' beliefs, ways of being, and opinions, the end result can br discrimination, repression, dehumanization, and ultimately violence. Practicing tolerance is at the heart of living peacefully.
5. Forgiveness: Holding anger and resentment towards those who have hurt you will only lead to more heartache. Strive to forgive and let go . Everything in life comes to us as some lesson to be learned. Be open to new possibilities.
Peace is especially important in today's world because it makes a better environment for the next generation. Peace also makes life on earth worth living. Peace is important for social well being where people live in harmony.
***Let's all embrace Peace***
Importance and Sources of Values
Value is the acceptable way of living considered as normal by a particular group of people. Values are also defined as the degree of importance an individual attaches to a particular thing. For example, of when someone says " I value my life or I value dairy", it means that such a person cherishes or loves his life or dairy. Value refers to what society regards as very important and is held in high esteem, value can mean several things to several people depending on its usage, so what is considered as something valuable in a particular society might not be valuable in other societies. Value has been taken to mean moral ideas, general conceptions or orientation towards the world or sometimes simply interests, attitudes, preferences, needs, sentiments and dispositions.
Values are generally received through cultural means especially transmission from parents to children, society at large to the upcoming generation. Value is a virtue which every individual in a society strives to possess because of its importance to individual and society at large. Equality, Honesty, Respect, Self-control, Responsibility, and Social Justice are factors that influence our values. The importance of values to human and society include:
1) Values enables us to choose friends that share the same values: As human being we cannot relate with everybody we meet, but we rather choose those we are going to relate with or associate with. One of the things that helps us to regulate those we are going associate or relate with is value.
Relating with someone who shares the same value helps to promote a peaceful and healthy relationship, because both parties are almost going to share the same beliefs, principles, standards, ideas and so on. This is very common in the society, the reason some people choose who they are going to be friends with is because they share the same value. ***John Ratzenberger said in his word " Find people who share your values, and you will conquer the world together".***
2) Values prevent people from making mistakes: Values help to regulate people's behaviour, if behaviours aren't regulated, we might react to situations out of hand or in a way that we will blame ourselves later. If we live In a society where there is no values, there will be a lot of mistakes and errors. Value guides and prevent from making mistakes because it states what is good and desirable. Value help individual to make decisions, they help to shape our behaviour and deeds.
***" It's not hard to make decisions when you know what values are.".***
***--- Roy Disney***
3) Values promote peace and progress of society: Each society with its values, value of one society differs from other societies, but our values can promote peace and progress if they are respected. Value of a particular society guides and regulates it's citizens in how to behave and relate with one another which in turn promote peace and progress of society.Values enable people to obey the rules and regulations of each society, an individual who finds himself or herself in a particular society will behave in accordance with its value in order to behave in a peaceful and acceptable manner. Value promotes positive relationships among different people. ***A wise man (Brian Tracey) once said "Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations".***
**Sources of Values**
Individual acquire values through the agents of socialization ( They are specific groups that carry out socialization on behalf of the larger society). Socialization is the process by which individual learn the values and cultures of the society. These agents of socialization are also the sources of values, they are responsible for promoting and teaching values to younger and upcoming generations. They are;
1. Family: Family is the basic group and the natural matrix of personality. Family is the oldest and is a universal institution; found in every society. Socialization begins from a family. Family is the first primary group of a child, it is where socialization begins and where a child learn about values.
The family is the primary source of value. Children receive values from their parents, because the parents serves as a teacher of values to their children and also as a role model who the children look up to in order to learn from or imitate which includes values
2) Peers: Peers are equal individuals who are usually of the same gender, age, and social status and who share interests. Peers are important and often preferred to other socializing agents, because they influence the social, cognitive and psychological development. Peers are one of the sources of values because they teach gender role, unity and collective behaviour and also serve as a source for information. People learn from peers, because they offers a lot and serve as a practicing venue to adulthood.
3) School: The school setting serves as another active medium through which the child receives societal values and attitudes. To this end, subjects or courses like Civics, Social Studies, Government and History are taught to educate and sensitize the learners through formal teaching and learning process. Asides from the official purpose of school which is to transfer knowledge and teach life skills, students also learn social skills through with teachers, staff, and other students.
4. Religion: Basically, religious institutions lay emphasis on the spiritual and moral development of the child. It is expected that the role of those religious bodies will further complement the academic works taught in schools and home, and this would make complete man of the learners. The religion institutions teach values.
Social Conflicts and Resolutions
Conflict is a characteristic of human existence. It is part of the dynamic of life that drives us into the future. But it needs to be managed constructively. When associated with violence, destruction and killing, it is no longer a healthy part of living. ***Violent conflict solves few problems, creates many, and breeds more unhealthy conflicts to come.*** Social conflicts involves at least two parties using physical force to resolve competing claims or interests. Conflicts may occur among individuals or groups not affiliated with a government, but the term is most commonly applied as a synonym for war.
The concept of Conflict was a social phenomenon, where there was a disagreement between two groups or individuals who had different opinion, views, beliefs and assumptions, conflict was a state of opposition between persons, ideas, or interests. It is the expression of disagreement over something important to both ( or all ) side of dispute. The first important thing to grasp is that it is entirely dependent on the people involved. It depends on their having a particular point of view, which may not have independent facts and evidence to support it, and on how they behave when they encounter an opposing point of view.
Everybody cannot be on the same side based on difference in beliefs or opinions, but the major problem is that we find it difficult to respect our respective beliefs and opinions, failure to give room for diverse in opinions, views, or beliefs frequently leads to conflict or disagreement between two or more groups or individuals. We all have our perspective to any situation, the way we view things may be different from how others we view it, people should not be coerced to submit to your opinions or views.
A point of view with independent facts and evidence is what we should have anytime there is discussion about things concerning two or more groups or individuals. Anytime we encounter an opposing point of view, the first thing is to respect diverse point of view and listen to what the person is communicating, if the opposing point of view does not sit well with you or not convincing enough, what should be done is not to badmouth others point of view, but to present a point of view with independent facts and evidence to support it, this will help on how will behave anytime we encounter an opposing point of view.
Conflict can also be described as a disagreement among groups or individuals characterized by antagonism and hostility. This is usually fuelled by the opposition of one party to another, in an attempt to reach an objective different from that of the other party. The elements involved in the conflict have varied sets of principles and values, thus allowing such conflict to arise. **Issues or Causes of conflict include:**
1. Lack of Information: Conflict can arise when one party feels it lacks important information. When employees are continually experiencing changes that they were not informed about, or if there are decisions being made that the staff feels it should be involved in, thus can bring about conflict between employees and managers.
2. Competition For Supremacy: This occur when one person seeks to outdo or out- shine another person. You might see it when two nations or more compete for a position, power, authority, resources in order to be on top of other nations of the world.
3. Individual or Cultural Differences: Culture is the way of life of a group. It differs from society to society. The culture of one group differs from the culture of other groups. The cultural differences among the group, sometimes cause tension and lead to conflict. Men are not alike in their nature, attitudes, ideal, interest, and aspirations. Failures to accommodate these differences may lead to conflict among them.
4. Clashes of Interests: The clash of interest of different people, communities, societies, and nations makes conflict inevitable. Interests sometimes do clash as a result of difference in opinions, view, interests, beliefs, values and so on. Sometimes it might look difficult to avoid, but the best thing to do is to respect each other interests, and weigh the best interests which might be majorly beneficial to all parties. The interests of the workers can clash with that of the employers as a result of misunderstanding which can lead to conflict.
**Managing and Resolving Conflicts**
Conflict is inevitable in any interpersonal relationship and can be a very positive experience, if managed properly. Conflict does not have to lead to failure, defeat or separation or termination of individual relationships. The ability to manage and resolve conflict is probably one of the most important social skills an individual can possess.
1. Identity The Issue: Analyze the conflict to help clarify the key issue or issues. Some conflicts can seem very complicated and can be visualized as a web of different issues with lots of twists and turns.
2. Identity The Key Players: It is also important to make sure you know who main individuals involved in the conflict are. Ask yourself who you are angry and/or frustrated with. Knowing who to address is as important, if not more so, than knowing what to address in order to effectively manage conflict.
3. Work Together To Resolve: Cooperation as a means of resolution requires that each person stop placing blame on the other and that both take ownership of the problem. Make a commitment to work together to effectively resolve the conflict at hand.
4. Articulate Your Concerns: Let the other person know how you feel, what the specific problem is and what impact it is having on you. This will help keep the conversation on your needs and emotions, rather than an attack on the other person and his or her behaviour
5. Be An Active Listener: Active listening is one of the most powerful tools you can master. It is appropriate for everyday life, and it promotes positive, open and non-threatening communication with others. The only goal of active listening is to ensure your understanding.
Creating One's Future
A wise man ( Dwight D. Eisenhower) once said " Neither a wise man nor a brave man lies down on the tracks of history to wait for the train of the future to run over him". Almost everybody believes in the future, because the world is based on times and seasons, there is Past, Present and Future. One of the mistakes that some people make about the future, is that they assume that the future will come as a time or season, an unplanned future is a failed future. As human being, we have this belief that our future is loaded with potentials, and this common thought that "Tomorrow is going to be okay", well tomorrow might be okay if it's well planned or well created, but if it's not it will be worse than the past and present.
We do not have to wait until the future comes, because if the future comes and there are not plans, goals, and dreams for it, the future will certainly looks like the past and then an hope for a better future, that's why some people future never comes, even if it comes the potentials with the future won't materialize because the future was not planned for. A wise man or brave man will not wait for the future to comes before he start planning for it, because " He who fails to plan, plan to fail", what we do today determines what will happen in the future, today speaks of tomorrow.
William Gibson in his word said " The future is already here - it is just unevenly distributed". That's why a brave and wise man will not wait for the train of the future to run over him, the future is already here, the future is with us, what we have to do is to create and plan for it. Our future is in our hands, we are the one who really decides what happens around us tomorrow, our decisions today gives birth to our positions tomorrow. Our future is decided and created by us. An unplanned life is not worth living, future requires plans, success is planned. Planning is the starting point of achievement, If truly we know that our future is going to be okay and alright, if truly our future is going to be better than our yesterday and today, hence a need for proper planning. The questions we should ask ourselves is " What really is our plan for the future", " What have we decided for ourselves for the next moment". Taking our journeys back into yesterday, blaming ourselves for past mistakes, or taking joy from our past glory's can limit or hinder our future, we should think more of the future and create a better future, if really we want to excel.
Our future is in our control, we need to work hard for it, make sacrifices for noble purposes, develop a good habit that will take us to a greater height tomorrow. Abraham Lincoln experienced much disappointment in his early age. He failed to obtain appointment as commissioner in1849, lost senate race in 1855 and 1858, lost vice presidential nomination in 1856 and 1864, but he created a very bright future for himself and at the end he became a great achiever, he became one of the greatest presidents of America. Once he wrote to a friend saying "Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing".
One thing we should have in mind is that we should have a positive mindset about our future, life is full of ups and downs, the present might not look good and smooth, but our plans for the future should be of a positive mindset, strong determination and bright future.
To create your future, think more seriously of what you want to be and walk more seriously towards that direction. Envision your position in life and walk towards that direction ! Make decision today that will create the future you desire! Be ready to pay the price!
Albert Einstein created a great future for himself
Hellen Keller created a great future for herself
Bill Gates created a great future for himself
Aliko Dangote created a great future for himself.
***Reprogram your thinking to a distance! Look into the future! You can easily neglect the pleasure of the moment and look more seriously at the achievement of the later days.***
*The Future Starts Now*
Becoming a good parents for your kids 2
Coping with being a parent comes with many challenges, especially if you want to teach and nurture your children in the best ways. Parenting can be challenging especially for single mothers or fathers without any alternative support or help. That's why it's critical to think we'll whether you are capable of being a parent or not. You have to scrutinize yourself to know whether you've got what it takes to become a parent. Being a parent is not only about giving birth alone, it takes much more. Do you sometimes think of how you can become a good parent kids? You can be so in many ways. One of such ways is to examine the parenting skills of your own parents too. Many a times we are often exposed to practical life lessons and experiences from our older parents that we can use and utilize in becoming a good parent for our kids too. Considering the good areas of the parenting skills of your parents can help you a lot in trying to become a good parent for your children. Probably you have a father who gets angry a lot, you must examine what makes him angry and try to control yourself so that you don't pass the same anger to your kids too. Focus on the positive things from your parent. Some of the other ways to becoming a good parents for your kids are;
1. INVEST IN YOUR KIDS TALENT.
Often a times we are blinded by our own desires and ambitions that we also want out children to follow. However each has his or her own dreams and aspirations. Don't force any ambitions to your children that's against their interests and talents. Children can be gifted in many distinct areas. Some children can be gifted in arts while some may show knowledge in science.
As a good parent you must be able to invest in your kids talent. Many children with great potentials have been incapacitated as a result of lack of support from their parents. Their parents are not ready to invest in their talents and ambitions. They probably thought their talents is not significant enough or convincing enough.
2. TELL THEM STORIES ABOUT LIFE.
You probably went through some shackles of life before you ended up where you are currently? It's good to share such experiences with your children do that they may not make the exact mistakes that you made when you were younger. Cultivate the habit of communicating freely with your children, imparting into them knowledge from your life experiences and stories. Naturally children are good story listeners and they will be happy to hear interesting stories that talks about some realities of life. This will enable them to be more knowledgeable as they keep advancing in years and into adulthood.
3. TEACH THEM ABOUT SEX EDUCATION.
Sex Education especially in the African parts of the world today is what parents shy from when it relate to their children. It is important to give sex education to your children when they're approaching puberty and adulthood. It will help them to understand themselves more better and to live responsibly in the society. Many children because they were not exposed to this kind of education has went astray and have contacted different forms of sexually transmitted infections because they're not exposed to the dos and don'ts of things relating to their sexuality.
When children are brought up of good parenting, the society benefits the most as orderliness and peace will be the order of the day.
The Types, Agents and Importance of Socialization (2)
Socialization is primarily a process by which culture is transmitted to the younger generation and men learn the rules and practices of social groups to which they belong. As human being we need to get socialized in order to know how to relate with people within our social group and other social groups. Socialization inculcates an individual with habits, attitudes, values, norms, beliefs of the social group into which an individual is been born. Socialization is a life-long process, socialization occurs during childhood and adolescence, it also continues in middle and adult age. Socialization of adults differ from childhood socialization. Personality do not ready-made, the process that transforms a child into a reasonably respectable human being is a long process. It can be said that there are various types of socialization. We have;
Primary Socialization: It is a process by which the infant learns language and cognitive skills, internalizes norms and values.
Secondary Socialization: it refers to the social training received by the child in institutional or formal settings and continues throughout the rest of child's life.
Adult Socialization: Adult socialization teaches people to take on new duties, the aim of adult socialization is to bring change in the views of the individual.
Anticipatory Socialization: It refers to a process by which men learn the culture of a group with the anticipation of joining that group.
Re-Socialization: Re-Socialization refers to the process of discarding former behaviour patterns and accepting new ones as part of a transition in one's life.
Socialization can be either be positive or negative depending on the impact the types of socialization leaves on an individual, an individual trying to get socialized can be influenced in a positive way or negative way by the agents of socialization. For example, a teen trying to get socialized can be influenced either in positive or negative way as a result of peer pressure.
Specific four (4) groups called "Agents of Socialization" carry out socialization. They represent and act on behalf of the larger society, though socialization can occur outside these agents.
1. Family: The family is the earliest and without question the most influential agent of socialization. It grabs the child at birth, when the child is most helpless and dependent and does not let go for a whole lifetime. Socialization via the family goes from cradle to grave. Socialization in the family is important and influential because it teaches language abilities, body control, emotional control, rules of public conduct and moral values.
2. Peer Groups: Peers are defined as equals, individuals who are usually of the same gender, age, and social status and who share interests. Experiences with peers enable children to acquire a wide range of skills, attitudes, and roles that influence their adaptation throughout life. They are often preferred to other socializing agents, and they influence not only social development, but cognitive and psychological development as well.
3. Mass media: This is another agent that our parents are understandably concerned about. As with our peers, we often learn things through mass media that out parents would probably rather we didn't. Mass media cover a wide range of means of communication, information and entertainment, such as books, music, newspapers and magazines, radio, television, the internet as well as video games.
4. The Community: Community is a group of people living in the same geographical area under common laws. The communities in which the children live have a strong socialization influence on them. The members of a community have expectations of how those who join their community should behave, thus, they ensure that those who join then learn the behavioural patterns expected of them. Communities can provide informal or formal support for families since both are agents of socialization.
Socialization has many importance in our life that can hardly be exaggerated.
Socialization Converts Man, The Biological Being Into Man, The Social Being: Man is not born social; He becomes social by virtue of the process of socialization.
Socialization Contributes To The Development Of Personality: Personality is a product of society. In the absence of groups or society, no man can develop a personality of his own, socialization shapes and moulds personality. Socialization contributes to the stability of the social order, it is through the process of socialization that every new generation is trained acceding to the cultural goals, ideas and expectations of a society.
Socialization Provides The Knowledge of Skills: Socialization is a way of training the newborn individual in certain skills, which are required to lead a normal social life. These skills help the individual to play economic, professional, educational, religious and political roles in his latter life. Socialization helps to develop right aspirations in life.
The Art and Science of Parenting
Parenting is not a easy business. To succeed as a parent you have to know about the art and science of parenting. What I mean by this is that parenting is not just a no-brainer and it requires diligence and carefulness to make the best out of it. If you at into a business, you probably expect some profits at the end of it, that's the expectation and intents of people before or when venturing into business. Same thing could be said for parenting too. When you nurture your children and they do well in life, you could say you have profited from your parenting efforts over them. Anybody can be a father but it takes more to father a child. Anybody can be called a father once that person gets a woman pregnant and give birth to a child, but to father a child is not a day's job. sometimes fathering is a herculean task which is not so easy at all. Likewise it takes a little effort for someone to be called a mother, once the person gives birth. But to mother a child is a big deal. Here are some of what you need to know about parenting and some tips therein;
1. BE A ROLE MODEL TO YOUR CHILDREN.
Lead an exemplary life and let your children follows in your footsteps. They say charity begins at home. A child can become good or bad just like looking and imitating the personalities of his or her parents. Some parents are bad role models for their children. They teach their children in every bad behaviors such as lying, stealing and abusing and all that. Some parents will even tell their children to cover up for them in some emergent situations by asking them to lie. Imagine telling one's child to tell visitors that they are not around if those visitors come around. Children generally learn most through imitation, what they see their parents doing. Be perfect for your children so that they may imbibe your good character. If proper care is given to little children till they grow up, it will contribute a great deal to orderliness in the society.
2. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN AND DON'T BE QUICK TO JUDGE.
Unlike adults, children may be slow, meticulous and straight forward when it comes to expressing their minds. Don't always underrate their words or count their words as insignificant because they are kids. Listen to them whenever they speak and correct them when need be. As a parent, it's not good to judge your children quickly, give them time to know the truth about the whole stuff before judging them. If you don't listen to your kids, they will feel abandoned and assumed you don't love them at all.
3. ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILDREN TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE, IN CHORES AND OTHER TASKS.
Don't implant laziness into your children by not assigning them tasks or chores in the home. You can help your kids to be more responsible later in life from their little beginnings. You should assign them little works that may be accomplished by them to make them responsible. This will also help them later when they get married to their future spouses about the need to work together and not independently. Laziness won't make them go far and you have to prohibit laziness in your children. Give them chores at home, ask them to help you I'm the kitchen, help them in cleaning their room and teach them some basic life skills too.
There's no one for all parenting guide. You must do your best to make the best out of your children so that they may be useful for you and themselves in the future.
Socialization, Process and Agents of Socialization
Socialization is defined as the process of learning one's culture and how to live within it. The ways our teens and youths are being socialized nowadays are different from the ways it were in the past. Socialization helps the young ones to know about their culture and society, and how to live within it. Socialization informs the younger ones in the society about their culture, because one of the ways to learn about ones culture is through socialization. Culture is defined as shared patterns of behaviours and interactions, cognitive constructs and understanding that are learned by socialization. Cultures are learnt through socialization, because culture is everything which is socially learned and shared by the members of a society.
The ways people are being socialized in this 21st century seems entirely different from how it's done in the times past, there are different trends and patterns that people follow suit nowadays in order to be socialized. Socialization teaches us our cultures, because culture is a way of life, culture defines situations, attitudes, values, goals, myths, legends, supernatural, and provide behaviour patterns.
Newborn is merely an organism, socialization makes him responsive to the society, becomes socially active, self-conscious and the culture that his group inculcates in him, humanize him, and makes him more aware and conscious of his culture. The process of socialization is indeed endless. The cultural pattern of a particular individual, in the process gets incorporated in the personality of an individual. Socialization stands for the development of the human brain, body, attitude, behaviour and so forth. Socialization is known as the process of inducting the individual into the social world. Younger ones knows relatively less or nothing about the world, but the education given to them by the older ones in the community and society as a result of socialization enlighten them more about their community, society and world at large, gives them advice, orientation, information, counsels about the world in order not to allow the younger ones go astray, and also inculcate them them with the skills and knowledge in passing the culture through socialization to the future generations.
Socialization is the process of interaction through which the growing individual learns the habits, attitudes, values and beliefs of the social group into which he has been born. ***From the point of view of the society, socialization is the way through which society transmits its culture from generation to generation and maintain itself. From the point of view of the individual, socialization is the process by which the individual learns social behaviour and develop himself or herself.*** One thing is clear about socialization, from both the society and individual point of views, socialization seeks to educate, it's a way and process of educating oneself and others in the society.
Socialization is a process by which culture is transmitted to the younger generation and men learn the rules and practices of social groups to which they belong. Personality do not come ready- made.The process that transforms a child into a reasonably respectable human being is a long process. Specific groups carry out socialization. We call these agents of socialization. They represent and act on behalf of the larger society. Socialization can occur outside of these agents but society relies on these agents doing most of the socialization. They include;
Family
Media
Peers
Religion
Workplace
School
Culture
Love of a Friend
Man is born to be a social animal, that is, people love to be in relationships and not living in isolation from other members of the society. In every stages and phases of our lives, we have come into close contact with many people we call friends or close companions. Frankly, it will be very difficult to live a life void of friends or friendships. In every institutions evolving around human existence such as educational institutions, the workplace etc, we all have that one person we feel attached to and hope we share some common things with them.
The role of friends cannot be overemphasized, good friends can rapidly help you in life while the bad ones can mar your life's journey too. That's why it's very important to carefully study the type of friends you want to be associated with. We can't do without others, because we are not originally designed to live solitarily or in pieces distanced from other people in the society we are. You need that friends who can cover for you during your moment of need. Obviously you can't even scale through school successfully without having any friends, like it's not very possible or likely. Because there are some assignments or projects that needs collective efforts of group members and that can't be accomplished if everybody turn to each other's foes.
Here are some compiled facts about friends or friendships;
1. A true friend is always loyal and is born to help in time of need. Indeed friends are shown by their loyalty and willingness to help you in troubled or difficult moments. Many people are not worthy of friendship because they are not loyal. A person called a friend should be loyal during the easy and trying times. That's why true friends are rare as diamond so they say. Many people today enter into friendship relationship with others because of the benefits that attached to it, maybe the promise of financial security or other factors. If probably you found yourself in some kind of problem or challenge and nobody among your friends showed up for you then you've really got no true friends. A real friend stands with you no matter what and help you scale through difficult situations.
2. Wounds from a friend are better than kisses from the enemy. Why is this so? because kisses from the enemy is deceptive and you think you're being loved until you are stroke with the enemy's whip. If you have a true friends, they may hurt you but that doesn't mean they don't mean well for you but when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder you should really watch out. Don't assume your friends don't love you just because of one time hurt and you decided to be rolling around with your enemy, someone you should be watchful of.
3. Never abandon a friend, either yours or your father's. People called your friend are not for use and dump alone. Learn not to abandon people you call your friends. Even if they are very distant from you, make it a point of duty to check on them through phone call or any other means periodically. It shows you still care and love them and that they mean something to you. Don't also abandon your father's friends, why? they may be of benefits to you in the nearest future. Many people have had their life set straight and good for life as a result of the influence of their fathers' friends. Don't have the habit of abandoning people that may be of help to you later. Nobody is totally useless in life.
Friendship is sweet especially when you experience it with the right persons. As they say, a friendly discussion is as stimulating as the sparks that fly when iron strikes iron.
Business, Profits and Sales
The sole aim of a business organisation both small and large scale business is to make profits and generate more sales, every businesses strives to make sure their businesses is making profits. The vision and goal of a business is beyond being a problem solver, which people or buyers value or being a provider of scarce resources to satisfy human unlimited wants, though businesses should be able to do these two, but the sole and major aim of any businesses is to make profits through the goods they produce and provide or for the services they render to people. Business creation is primarily making profits, because the profits are what keeps the business going, they maintain the business, they sustain it, the profits also makes the owner happy because his or her goods and services are valuable and then more profits.
Business organisation is an enterprise set up by an individual or group of individuals, government or its agencies for the main purpose of making profit and provide goods and services for the satisfaction of human wants. All business organisations, be it small or large irrespective of the ownership and structure, have one thing in common - the provision of goods and services to meet the numerous needs of people. One thing is certain, provision of goods and services are provided to meet the numerous needs of people, human beings are known to have numerous wants and needs, but the resources available to satisfy them are limited, so some people engage in provision of goods and services in order to satisfy these numerous human wants and needs, then Business organization is set-up.
Business organization can be small or large, irrespective of the scale the sole aim and main purpose of both is making profits through the provision of goods and services, it all boils down to the resources available - the capital and personnel. In the grand scheme of things, a large scale business is expected to strive better than a small scale business because of the availability of resources both the financial, human, material and so many other resources. For instance, A large scale business and a small scale business that engages in the production of the same goods and services, it's expected of the large scale business to make more profits than the small scale and even affect the sales of the small scale. Making profits and generating more sales to a business is beyond the availability of Capital and the personnels, though the two is key in creation of any businesses, but there are some strategies that have to be put in place in businesses to increase the sales and profits of any business organization. A well strategized business irrespective of the scale will make profits in respect to its available resources.
Strategies to implement in a business in making profits:
1. Prepare A Strategic Plan: A business organization going on a path of success must be well organized, to achieve a business success you need to be well organized and planned and not just an ordinary plan but with a strategic plan. Business takes time to develop, hence a need to create a strategy bound with time. Each year needs to define how a business will grow over the years. A Strategic plan must be constantly reviewed to know if the results produced match your set goals.
2. Analyze Your Competition; A large scale and small scale businesses will have to face a competition from other business organisations that engages in the same provision of goods and services. As a business entity, you should not be scared of facing competitions from outsiders because human beings have alternatives in goods they purchase and services they receive. Analyzing your competitors is an assessment of the strengths and weaknesses of current and potential competitors, and the information can be used to improve your business planning and practices. Competition breeds the best results, Market your business.
3. Positive Relations With Your Employees and Customers: There should be a positive relationship between a business owner and his or her employees to allow free flow of information that can spur the business organization in achieving greater feat. Provision of better service for your customers and having positive relationship with them will make them more inclined to come to you next time they need your goods or services instead of looking for alternatives.
4. Be Consistent: Consistency is a key component in making profits in business. You have to keep doing what is necessary to be successful day in and day out. You should be ready to make sacrifice of time, energy, effort, consistency, hard-work. Since business take time to develop, make consistency your positive habit that will help you make profits in the long run. A wise man once said " Rome wasn't built in a day ". Stay Focused.
5. Get Updated: The world is evolving, as technology advances , most of the things we do now are technology-driven, most especially businesses. To make business survive you must be aware of the importance of technology and media. As a business organization, you must be flexible to adapt to new things. The fact is that change is evitable, and the world is changing, if you insist on using archaic methods or strategies to achieve new feats, you might get stuck in business transactions. A business owner must be aware of trends, because these trends can be a boost to the business profits.
***Be a problem solver***
***Be a solution giver***
Marriage counsels for Couples
Many people always thought that love is enough to sustain a marital journey with your spouse or partner. In the real sense of it, Marriage is not always full of bed of roses or a journey based on a platter of gold. Marriage as we all know has its own different challenges that's faced by both partners in marital relationship. There are many marital counsels and advices out there to make your home a happy one. Nevertheless for a marriage to work out, it has to come from the joint efforts of both partners. A marriage can only work when both partners are willing to make it work amidst all odds. Here are some marriage tips that should be understood by people wanting to step into the marital journey or those that are already in it.
1. He that troubles his own house shall inherit the wind. Inheriting the wind in this context means achieving nothing. If as a man or woman in a marriage, you are always in the act of troubling your other partner or spouse, you can't get peace of mind either and you won't be able to gain anything meaningful from such relationship. Peace of mind and tranquility is very important in marital relationships. Troubling yourselves in marriage won't do any of you good. It's when there is peace and mutual love that you can plan together and accomplish many big things together as couples.
2. It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. This shows that nagging is not something that pleases anybody in a relationship. Brawls and nags makes a relationship tiring either romantic relationships or even friendly relationship. Husbands with nagging women will want to avoid them like a plague at all costs. Some people have spoiled their marriage because they can't control their anger and vent it out through nagging. In a situation whereby your husband is reserved and doesn't like shouting, nagging whenever there is misunderstanding between you both won't solve it, instead it will make your husband to run far from home. Nagging and brawling all about makes a house to be uncomfortable for a man.
3. Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one plucks it down with her hands. Women are always known to be house keeper. You must be able to build your own home as a good wife. Caring, good character and submissiveness helps in building a good home. When we are talking about a home, it consist of the children too. A wife must be submissive to her husband if she wants to build her home to a very good one. If you can't build your house as a virtuous woman, then you are not considered wise enough. It's only an unwise woman who will pull down her own home with her foolish behaviors. Many wives have done worse things in their marriage that have led to divorce.
Beauty is not enough to sustain a marriage. A beautiful woman lacking discretion and modesty is like a fine gold ring in a pig's snout. You must be modest and discreet in everything you do as a woman. There are many beautiful women with bad characters. As you improve on your beauty, improve on becoming more better in your personality.
What works for others in marriage may not work for others too. However there are some ideal tips that works for most couples. Marriage is a beautiful thing and should be enjoyed by couples.
From Nothing To Something
I have heard and seen a lot of people, I mean a lot of people who shared their stories from how they grew from nothing to becoming something, a really big something for themselves that people desire and look up to and become more or less like them in the future.A particular estate developer said he did not jump into the position he found himself today sharing a throwback picture of himself and his wife, he said and I quote " We didn't Jump Up we grew up! Nothing like luck in Life. Anything you get by luck you loose by chance".
These words and the throwback pictures struck me, and I learnt that truly you can become something from nothing in life if you're ready to go on the journey of process, progress, consistency, diligence, hard-work. The stories of people who grew up from nothing to becoming something looks inspiring to people, people wish and desire to become like them because they are doing pretty well financially and they look good to people that people look unto them as their role models. Growing from Nothing to become Something happens in all careers and professions, there are numbers of doctors, lawyers, footballers, actors and actresses, musicians, motivational speaker, top business men and women, celebrities and many more that have shared stories on how they grew from nothing at all in their community to become something that people now talk about in their society and the world at large.
As a lover of sport and most especially football, there are numbers of footballers who have shared their stories of how they came out from their local community where poverty is relaxing and chilling in a big time with nothing and them move to cities in order to become something for themselves and their families. So many inspiring stories from these footballers on how they beat poverty not through just talent but through goals and plans, determination, support from families and friends, consistency, diligence, hard-work, courage and so on through thick and thin. Inspiring stories, from footballers and today when some people see them they see them as someone lucky, but they(people) forgot the process of how they grew up from where they're nothing to where became something. Let me use the stories of these two football G. O. A. T( Greatest of All Time) Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi, they both grew up from nothing to something really big that the whole world celebrate, they both grew up from a relatively poor background, they both grew up having people supporting and some not supporting their dream and they never relented, they both grew up having goals of what they want to become, they both grew up putting hard-work, consistency, diligence, courage to their dream in order to become something, and still they've never stop growing to become something.
Most People who are successful in the society will tell you they just don't meet themselves in the position they're today or moreover they weren't born with a silver spoon, they struggled for it positively, they paid a price, they gave their effort, time and best in becoming something for themselves. These successful men and women moved and progressed through phases, life taught them different lessons, they fell and rose, they were determined, they worked towards their goals and dreams. The aspect most people love is their successful part, the way they progressed through life phases isn't of concern to people looking at them as role models, but I tell you these successful men and women paid a price for what they are today, to become successful you have to pay price of determination, hard-work, diligence, courage, focus, consistency, resilience and so many other, every backed up with your Plan, Goal, Dream, Passion or Talent. **Rome was not built in a day and a Journey of a Thousand miles begins with a single step.**
***From Zero to Hero***
Lessons to learn on business matters.
BUSINESS MATTERS.
1. Don't sign a note for someone you barely know. Many of us make the mistake of vouching for others, strangers in the break sense of it when dealing with business matters or affairs. Some people even serve as a guarantor for a stranger that needs loan from loan companies. If the borrower probably run away after he collected the loan, the moan company will come after you and you will be in debt. Don't vouch for anybody you don't know closely when dealing with business. Some people will only be shown mercy as a result of your own goodwill. If you can't trust them, don't sign a note or vouch for them in business related issues.
2. Don't withhold repayment of your debt. One of the crucial thing to note in business is the payment of debts. Since debts sometimes is inevitable in business dealings. It's only right to repay your debts as a debtor unless you want to attract embarrassment to yourself and your family. Paying your debts show that you are an honored person who cares so much for your name. Sometimes it's unnecessary to incur debts. Don't incur debts on liabilities. Rather use your debt if necessary to finance and expand your assets. Through this you will be able to pay back what you owned from your returns. If you finance your debts on liabilities, you might find it difficult to pay back.
3. A Lazy fellow or employee is a pain and burden to his employer. Do you know of any lazy employee in a company or business organization? They're not always productive and look for flimsy excuses to cover up their laziness. Such employees are always a pain to their employers. A burden to be removed and sacked when they reached their extreme. No employer can cope with a lazy employee because such people drives a company backwards and limit the progress of the company. If there are hardworking people that are qualified to fill the roles of those lazy employees, the employers won't think twice before sacking them.
4. Develop your business first before building your house. Many may find this wrong but it's ideal you develop and let your business thrive first before building your house. House especially are liabilities because they don't bring you any income but they are also important as shelter is one of the most basic needs of man. But if you are at a crossroad at which you have to pick on building your house first and developing your business, it's always better to go for the latter. Because you can use the returns from your business investment to develop your house later in the future. When you finance and develop your own business first, you increase your assets and ultimately increase your wealth. When you decided to shun your business and go about building your house first, you are deliberating putting yourself up for a lot of expenses.
5. When dealing with your business, don't use dishonest scales or try to cheat people because of dishonesty. Many people are fond of using incorrect and dishonest scales in their business. Nobody delights in dishonesty. Don't try to rip off unnecessary profits from dishonest dealings with your customers or clients. Portray a spirit of honesty as you do your business and you will always attract the best customers and clients.
Why students lack seriousness in schools 2
Failures in schools might sometimes be from the students or the lecturers or from the parents of the students themselves. Since university is a complex place where many things are interwoven together, sometimes both the lecturers and the students contribute to students' failure in schools. In the recent article I mentioned some of the reasons why students may fail in school or lack seriousness. There are still many reasons why students tend to be not too serious with their academics pursuit which includes the following;
1. INADEQUATE MOTIVATION.
This kind of motivation can be seen in a many different ways. Sometimes students may like internal motivation to continue in schools. In the real sense of it, students in universities are now adults or in stage of adulthood and adults are driven by internal motivation. If a student is not motivated towards academics, he or she may not be so serious with school and studies in general and may ultimately fail. Some students dreams and aspirations doesn't align with the conventional university process. Some wants to do something with their hands or some kind of vocational skills but they are forced to go to school to train on how to sit down at office all day which is to their disinterest
Also students may not be too serious in schools also when they lack motivation with the socio economic context of the society especially which is accompanied with lack of unemployment or jobs for graduates after school. Many students have resorted to other ways of earning income and have shunned school entirely because they don't want the reality to dawn on them eventually. Even though it's good to have a source of income as a student, however it's not ideal to shun academics totally for the latter. Many people because of engaging in other activities have affected their grades in schools. Even at all this, a student who's not encouraged and motivated enough by parents may perform poorly in school.
2. FINANCIAL CONSTRAINTS.
Schooling require funds and huge amount of it. Because to succeed in school and pass excellently you have to buy many study materials for your course. You have to pay for your assignment works and projects. Some students fail not because they are not brilliant enough but they lack money to buy the necessary things they needed as a student. If as a student you can't buy the necessary materials and study packs for your course of study it might be difficult to pass as a student especially when buying some books is made mandatory by the lecturer in charge.
3. LECTURERS' DEFICIENCY.
Sometimes students may be not be serious with their study because the fault is from the lecturers. Some lecturers in public universities are so lazy that they won't come to class at all and just distribute materials for students to read. Some will even fix classes that won't eventually hold hence wasting students time and resources. Such act may lower a student's morale to learning. Some lecturers are so rigid that they hardly pass their students when it comes to exams and still expect those students not to lose hope and strength later on.
Like I said earlier, many factors come into play when assessing some of the reasons why students fail in schools or lack seriousness with their school work. It may come from them, from their parents or even from the lecturers.
Participating in Community Service
The building of the community, society and nation at large is not only the roles and responsibilities of the government alone, but in one way or the other the citizens also has some roles and responsibilities to play for the growth and development of the nation, in which participating or involving in community service is one of the roles and responsibilities.
Community service simply means the voluntary work done with a view to help people in a particular area. It can also be defined as the work done by a person or group of persons that benefit others. Community service is often done in the area or community where you live. People volunteer to help the community they live in to become a better place and they do not get paid for the work done. Community service is often organized through a local group, such as a a place of worship, school, or non-profit organisation. You can also start your own community service projects.
Some students are required to complete community service as part of a class requirement in order to graduate from high school or become a member of certain organizations, such as the National Honour Society. Adults can also participate in community service as a way to help others or if they are ordered to do so by a judge. Community service is the activity performed by someone or a group of people for the benefits of a community.
Examples of Community Service: There are hundreds of ways to participate in community service, depending on your skills and interests. Some common community service examples include:
1. Working with school children by teaching them.
2. Care giving for senior citizens such as driving them to their doctors appointment, visiting them, cooking and cleaning up.
3. Cleaning of drainage so as to prevent flooding and to make the environment clean.
4. Construction of sign posts to indicate streets name.
5. Building community libraries.
6. Construction of bridges to link streets together from one area to another.
Importance of Community Service
1. Community service gives one the opportunity to help others; One of the good things to do is helping others. Community service gives us the opportunity to help ourselves, our community and the vulnerable or less-privileges in the community. Being selfless, kind and helping others is a good character to have as a personality. Participating in community service is a good thing to do.
2. It is a good means to instill sense of responsibility in people: Citizens are expected to have a sense civic of responsibility in order to develop their community and nation at large. Roles and responsibilities for nation building are expected to be carried out by both the government as well as the citizens. Community service is done to develop community and not to generate profit, but it helps to instill a sense of responsibility in people participating in community service. Community service requires a high sense of responsibility and commitment in order to make it effective, a person who's able to give his or her total commitment to a community service won't find it difficult to develop a sense of responsibility in other things they do.
3. It is an avenue to gain experience, acquire skills and learn about other careers while performing a community service: Community service create an avenue to network with others and develop a positive social capital. People from different areas, background, professions come together to form a non-profit organization in order to render community service. Community service enables the participants to gain experience, acquire some skills and learn about other careers while performing a community service. It is an avenue for getting members of a community to come together and create a bonding experience.
4. It promotes growth and development of the community: Community service is a selfless act rendered by some set of people who come together for the purpose of growth and development of their community. Community development is a community service and participants of community service look for a way to develop the community in which they find themselves which in turn promotes the growth and development of the community.
***Community service is an avenue for citizens to participate in government and also creates a sense of unity and oneness.***
