Anger Management: Things to do when you are angry

The moment of anger is a delicate one and many people do irreparable things when they are angry. Well some people will say it's bad to get angry, I will quite disagree with that. Anger is part of human emotions and nearly all get angry, even though the degree of anger differs among different people. Anger management is a very important virtue to possess. According to the popular axiom coined from the Yoruba words, "Hot anger can destroy in 20 minutes what you have worked for in 20 years". This is to affirm the fact that during the moment of anger, one must exercise adequate caution before making any decisions that one may regret later.

It's important to know what to say in the heat of anger. Words spoken out of anger may be bad and have a bad influence on whom it's spoken too. Same could be said of quick decisions made during period of anger. Some people have killed their spouse as a result of anger, some have done things so irreparable, that are bad and they won't have done ordinarily but which they did because they were angry.

In the moment of anger, it's important to know that being silent is very golden and have many advantages. Not many people can keep quiet when they are angry with others especially when there's disagreement of some sorts. There are some things to note during moment of heat or anger.

1. BE SILENT, IF YOUR WORDS COULD DAMAGE A FRIENDSHIP.

For some reasons, your friend made you angry and you wanted to say some very bad words to him or her. It's advisable to keep silent if you know your words could hurt your friend. Most times, being silent during the moment of anger shows your maturity. Trust me you will be thankful you didn't say those bad words once you are calm.

2. BE SILENT, IF YOU WILL BE ASHAMED OF YOUR WORDS LATER.

Many people are fond of saying shameful things to others when they are mad at others. Once they get calm they get ashamed of what they have said. This happens most times between couples; between a wife and her husband. A wife when she's offended may talk rudely to her husband or describe his inadequacies or shortcomings. Later once she's not being angry anymore she becomes ashamed of what she had said and start begging for forgiveness.

3. BE SILENT, IF YOUR WORDS COULD CONVEY A WRONG IMPRESSION.

People are sensitive when they're angry. It's better one stays silent if one's words could have a wrong impression on others. There's nothing more ideal than staying silent in the heat of anger. A meaningful silence is always better than meaningless words. Don't say the wrong words. It's better not to talk at all when you are angry.

Take a pause and ask your self if what you're getting angry for even worth it. Many people get angry over insignificant things, things if little value. Before you get angry at your best friend or your lover, do you even have the facts before accusing your partner. It's important to engage in dialogue with anyone you're getting angry with. It's a good form of preventing conflict. Getting angry is normal but don't let it turn to boiling rage. Anger does not breed good things. It spoil things and should be well managed.