Interreligious marriage - a boon or a curse

When two peoples meet and exchange their values of life and find themselves perfect for eachother, irrespective of caste or creed, then what is the harm in them to tie the knot or exchange the ring and lead a peaceful life ? It definitely is a question to think about before you answer.

My son was here on Eid with a close friend of his. Both are classmates and hostel mates doing their third year degree in legal studies. As this friend's house is a day's travel from hostel he visits home rarely. Only when he gets a weeks holiday does he plan for a short vacation to his home. The reason behind this is it takes almost two days for his up and down journey and also, quiet expensive and whereby, he rarely gets time to spend some time with family if the college is off for 2 or 3 days.

In contrast to my son, he is very shy and a quiet child. An introvert in short. He laughs hardly. He responds when something is asked to him. Nothing more nothing less. Both of them were here for three days.

On the second day of his arrival he started talking to me. I asked him about his family. He was so happy to share about his family members. He was telling that his parents were from two religions and he had a sister who was two years elder to him and also pursuing legal studies. His father is a Christian and mother is a Hindu. As both of them are from the same place, the people looked down upon them as they had done some crime. It was difficult to survive in that particular place. They were looked down for various reasons.

As both of them belonged to different religion they were thrown out of their own "sabha" meaning from there own community, which is a common picture here. It is like they don't have any more space in the place where they were brought up and living for years, in short where they spend there childhood.

So they decided to leave the place for the betterment of their future. At the new place the boys mother was placed with a small job in the University close to their home. His father also managed to get a job with a meagre income on daily basis. But once the kids started growing up there was nobody to take care of them for which his mother has to give up the job.

Even there own relatives turned their faces against them. So at times of help when it was really necessary, nobody was there by their side to even console them. Really terrific. He and his sister has an age difference of two years. So when they were too small and nobody to take care of them his mother decided to give up the job. As family is the first priority for anyone.

This is his story. But to say far from the madding crowd they are living happily with no regrets. A real blessing.

Now, coming back to the title "Is interreligious marriage a curse or a boon"? It is definitely a boon for all those who overcome all the conflicts and consequences and are moving forward successfully breaking the barriers. But it has its own disadvantages also as your close ones - the near and dear ones - stay away from you. Sometimes it becomes diffcult, particularly here in our country, when anything related to government matters arise they just don't do justice. You might lose some privileges. So such marriages had its own disadvantages also.

People think getting married by alliances both by their parents stay long. There are marriages to my knowledge, from same communities, that broke away just for simple reasons. These marriages would have been conducted after a lot of enquiries from both brides and grooms side. Inspite of that, it might last only for a month or so. Just unimaginable. Marriage is a blessing.

Let two hearts meet instead of two individuals in life. Relationship is for a lifetime. And every relationship should go through ups and downs, a little bit of fights to know the true essence, sweet 'n' spice of life unless it doesn't go to the extent of break-up.

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