You cannot know all the habits of your partner before wedding. After marriage you will discover more of the short comings of your partner. Some may be hidden to you when you were on courtship. Others may develop after the wedding due to your behavior and environment. It is usually painful when you suddenly see those bad behaviors. You may have known those misbehaviors and have advised your spouse to refrain from them, yet they still indulge in them.

What will you do so that it will not affect your health or cause disharmony in your home? Here below are the 2 common ones and suggestions on how to tackle them.

Sexual immorality

This is partners who indulge in sexual intercourse with other person outside. It could be with single person, married, relations or beast. These are things you can do in such situation.

1. Find out the cause: it could be one of under listed reasons

a. The spouse is not satisfying them sexually at home.

b. It may be the beauty and dress of opposite sex outside

c. Parents and friends encouragements

d. They might be enticed

e. The flesh and lust could plunge people into it

f. Loneliness caused by not living together or too busy to have time talking together.

g. Response during sexual activity may not be satisfying

h. Lack of love in action

1. Amend your ways: if it is your behavior is the cause, apologize and change your habits

2. Encourage your partner to disassociate from bad friends: if your partner is moving with immoral people, encourage him/her to abstain from them. Stop going with them and reject their wrong advices.

3. Free you spouse from loneliness: try as much as possible to live together, discuss and play together to avoid loneliness.

4. Be clean and dress well: make sure your body is clean always. Dress modestly at home and outside. Dress and body must be free from bad odour

5. Refuse enticements: when somebody is enticing you or your partner get away from the person and do not accept his or her bait, alert and caution your mate.

6. Refrain not in love making: hinder your partner from making love to you whenever he/she has the urge. Do not grumble. Respond well as your partner wants during love affair.

7. No publicity and fight: do not talk about it in the public or go to fight the concubine. Talk to your partner and try to convince him/her

8. Continue in your marital role: try to be more loving and perform all your marital duties very well.

9. Be hopeful: be optimistic and never lose hope that your partner will change for good.

Drunkenness

This is drinking alcoholics in excess. Having a drunkard as life n partner is not delightful. They can bring disgrace and harm to the family. Likewise, it can result to property and disease. Children’s life could be ruined. It makes a person be unwise, nuisance to the society and lose reputation. This can be tackled by the following;

1. Find out what makes him/her drink: here are some reasons for drunkenness.

a. To take away sorrow and loneliness.

b. To enjoy life and be popular

c. To be bold and capable to commit a crime

d. Some friends enticed and encouraged people to do it

e. Some learnt it from childhood

f. Just the lust of flesh

1. Make your partner happy: try to make your partner happy always by doing the things he/she likes and chattering together

2. Provide good food: cook good food which will satisfy his appetite on time. Husband provide enough variety of food for the family.

3. Meet sexual needs: satisfy your partner sexually so that the urge will not make him drink to forget the lack.

4. Be around always: try to be around your spouse all the time to save the partner from feeling lonely and unwanted. You can do it by sitting and converse with him/her. You can have a walk or drive together call each other on phone when you were away.

5. Avoid quarreling and neglect of duty: do not fight when the partner got drunk. Perform your marital duties in the home and give special care despite disgrace and inconveniency he/she gives you.

6. Educate your mate on evil of drunkenness: let your sweet heart KNOW THE Bad consequences of drunkenness, such as hurt, disgrace and sickness like mental cases

7. Advice your mate to disassociate with drunkards: encourage your life partner to stay away from drunkards and places where alcohol is sold.

8. Don’t give up: do not give up or lose hope on your partners recovery from his/her current situation.

I hope we find peace within ourselves, with others especially our life partners and make our homes and the world at large a peaceful and conducive place for us all to live.

Thanks for reading.